Draw reins are fine… used appropriately. One of my horses was a nightmare out hacking, would rear at anything she fancied.
Put her in a set of draw reins, instant better behaviour without even having to hold on to them.
Are you “happy” in all other areas of your life, if not, this is probably making the horse grief worse. I think grief counseling would be a really good start.
If you have other rubbish areas of your life, is there anything you can do to help? A new job? Visiting the doc for some anti...
My old dog was very obvious when he wanted his coat on. He had a really thick requisite one, and he’d virtually climb inside it when he thought he was too cold.
He loved being warm, and the coat always came out at lunch time. (Coldest part of the day in the house. Few hours before the fire was...
It can be a very difficult to tell is it behevioural, or veterinary. It often helps if you know the horse.
I purchased a project horse a few years ago, knew he came with some undesirable behaviours. First thing was to get teeth and back done, and give him some time at grass.
Started ground...
Personally I’d look through everything… anything that’s unusable throw it away. Anything that’s useable, but old/tatty/no sale value… donate to horse charity or local riding school.
Then work on de-cluttering the other sellable items when you feel like it
Does sound unprofessional… however if you’re in retail right now. I’d give her the benefit of the doubt right now, and complain if she behaves like that again