I was referring to the point about hooves not wearing out actually. I don't know you and am intelligent enough not to make a decision about someone I don't know. I suggest you take a breath!
if you have the land and can build stables at home then do it, you will swiftly learn how expensive/labour intensive having them at home and managing your own grazing/ fencing/ general repairs/ sourcing & getting your own hay and bedding etc, I think you'd then really appreciate prices DIY yards...
i am lost for words as to how someone could to do this:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3650413/Police-hunting-cruel-yobs-shot-young-horse-LONGBOW.html
I hope they can get fingerprints off the arrow.
God bless you Little man and wish you a very speedy recovery. x
Just to say about the Stubbs saddle mate, my friend found her Stubbs saddle mate was tall enough for her dressage saddle also, the only thing that didn't fit were the billet straps so she got her hubby to carefully cut a couple of small slits in each side at the bottom to feed her billets into...
If you decide ridden is the best future for her then I would have a look at sidepull bridles, not sure if they go down to pony size but they are lightweight for a small head and not difficult to use. Few examples on the site below and some funky colours for kids...