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Great news! You made the right decision! Did you check for Cushings as abscesses are one of the symptoms, as is weight loss. Of course could equally have been caused by being run down after the reaction to the Liverpool cream (hope that vet feels suitably ashamed.) Cherish your darling oldie...

The words ‘dangerous’ and ‘rear’ and ‘ulcers’ unfortunately aren’t conducive to being a good loan candidate. The only options that I can see are retire if practicable, or PTS, which is harder for you, kinder for her. Sorry to be rather blunt - it’s a horrid decision to make.

Yard A all the way for me. An established yard is worth its weight in gold if it’s good, especially if you already know someone there. New yards are an unknown entity. There are almost always teething problems, and who knows what the YO/fellow liveries might have up their sleeves?

So very sorry. Oldies leave an extra special hoofprint on our souls. Yours will be together again now. Look after yourself.

You’re me!

How horrid for you. What is it with livery yards and toxic YO’s? Why does it matter if someone would prefer to move on - assuming the livery moving is all above board? If the yard is good, surely they’d fill the space again quick enough? I had a horrid experience several years ago, and it...

I fell out of love with horses due to burn out. Two out 24/7 with zero facilities, aging parents, working with horses, foul weather, turning 50 - all those factors combined to make me resent keeping horses. I loved my two, don’t get me wrong, but it was an uphill battle. So when I lost them...

Sounds like you’ve made the right decision to move - YO sounds appalling, and even if she did compromise on this occasion (can’t actually see where she did, however) I wouldn’t trust her with a barge pole. Bonkers person. Good luck with your new yard.

We had a hideous road crossing too. A narrow A road, 40mph, but the visibility crossing in one direction was awful and we had to lean over the horses’ necks to see. No-one ever spotted us, or even if they did, they’d never slow down. Both of my horses were well behaved, although the smaller...

I used to work on a veterinary yard and had my own two horses. It burned me out and I ended up enjoying neither. I was older though - 50ish at the time - so that probably didn’t help.

What a sad situation, but your beloved oldie would be happy, pain free and at peace if you let him go. Imagine how you’d feel if he was unhappy in a herd, or worse still, bullied. He sounds like a sweetie. It’s a tough decision, but if I were you I know what I’d do.

I used to thank everyone with varying degrees of sincerity. Now I no longer ride so I’m always the driver in the equation, and it really doesn’t sit well when I pass riders safely and don’t even get an acknowledgement. I totally understand how some drivers think riders are arrogant because some...

I had a separate harness to wear over my riding hat to reinforce the very unsafe elastic! The plastic chin cup was especially unattractive when it was worn slightly to one side .......

Perfect. Hope it works out!

If your current sharer really is perfect in every other way, why not say it as it is? Tell her you’re having issues maintaining your horse’s topline and you'd appreciate help on her part. Show her what you do and help her yourself, or suggest lessons. It would be a shame to lose an...