Thank you for your replies.
Maybe i should have put in the title, how long to give a new horse before you decide it not working.
Southerncomfort - not harsh at all and you may well have a point that i have put a barrier up indirectly.
I should have also said i have been going up to yard...
I am in a dilemma... I am a competant novice but have lost lots of confidence over last 18 months or so. I wasn't going to buy another horse but took the plunge recently. When i tried the horse i had no doubts at all and was very excited, however when i took delivery of her, that all changed...