a whole six months...

Queenbee

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As pretty much everyone who frequents the New Lounge knows, this year I lost my beautiful Ebony. It was six months ago today that she left Ben and I... we miss her every day and this week has been hard with the realisation that it has been so long since I physically saw or touched her. However, this isn't a pity party post... Its a post to praise how far Ben has come and how he is...

Following his teenaged angst temper tantrums a couple of months ago which culminated in him rearing then backing into an electric fence... kicking it and then getting tangled up and breaking four wooden posts... you will be pleased to hear that he has been an absolute saint ever since and is back to his foot perfect self.

He is coming on in leaps and bounds, he has a 15 yr old girl that exercises him for me in the week to help him tick over, she lunges and rides him out and with the help of the YO is going to start focusing on a couple of short schooling sessions in the week. In the last week, he has started lunging like a pro, it was quite a battle, his brain wasn't quite with it, so we back to backed short sessions for a week... its really helped it to sink in and he is now showing three balanced and controlled paces, although he only gets asked for a couple of circuits of canter due to his age. He is hacking out fantastically and yesterday we saw three tractors... trailers, a horse lorry, 2 motorbikes, one bycicle and numerous cars! He is also behaving really well in company on hacks, we have actually started to hack in company more often, it was so rare that we would go out in company that he became a bit hot headed and joggy. Now it is a regular occurrence he is much more relaxed with the concept. He is having his hacks mixed up, sometimes walking the entire route and other times, we have the works... walk trot and canter... we are even tackling puddles with semi confidence:D

Tack wise, we didn't have to change the bit, well not for now, addressing the frequency of the hacks in company has completely relaxed him, and we have removed his running martingale, he actually seems to have a lower and less fussy head carriage without it. If he does start to raise his head, I drop the contact and he drops his head... I then slowly re-engage... for the moment this tactic seems to be working! :D

I have just been on holiday to turkey and I sobbed my heart out about the loss of my girl... it felt like while I was removed from everyday life, I could really start to process my grief, but my god I missed my boy and my YO was great giving me regular updates via facebook.

Last night, he switched to coming in at night, which meant that he was in for 24 hrs! Like the gentleman he is he was so good when he finally went out this morning :D This week is a week of firsts and pampering for benny. Tommorrow he has his first sports massage off Aunty Tamar, and later in the week he is to have his first clip... Its all coming off! He is going to look like a proper little hunter :D He is also now wearing his big sisters rug, the one I couldnt bear to put on him... it suddenly felt right, anthropomorphism isn't my thing but it felt like she would have wanted him to wear the rug as it was the best one I had... It kept her warm when she was ill and it warms my heart to know it will be keeping him toasty this winter.

I have often said that without ben I would never have got on another horse, but he truly blows me away, ok he had a wobbly moment a couple of months ago and I thought I was going to have to don my dom outfit, but that wasn't necesarry, and that aside, I have never known such a willing and grounded baby. He is happiest when he is out exploring under saddle and learning new things... and I am happy when i am with him.

Anyway, its been a wee while since I have updated everyone regarding ben... and he is doing exceptionally well :D
 
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Im so pleased to read your update. I followed your story with ebony and was heartbroken at the outcome, truely a horseowners worse nightmare. Two months ago i went through the same thing.
Best wishes for the future xx
 
Wow! He looks like a classy horse now! He's turning out very nice QB, I hope you are thrilled with his progress :)

Thank you :D I am really pleased with him, he is an exceptional young man :D and he improves daily... i am constantly blown away by him and truly humbled that at three and a half I can trust my baby with a 15 yr old, who is also exceptional in her riding but still, for me its pretty significant! The first two pictures were taken by Twizzle (a HHO member who used to ride Ebony and who is exceptional with a lense). Twizzle and I are hoping to catch up again soon and I cant wait to see what he looks like without his fluff, beard and feathers! I picked up the sedalin today and YO is going to do him wed/thurs... I am really excited and it will be a joy not to have scurf everywhere lol! Yes I am thrilled with him and hope to focus on schooling this week, just to get him comfy in the school without being stale, then we are going to introduce some small cross poles in the new year, and do a couple of 2 ft classes in may :D :D What I find amazing is how steady and controlled he is naturally in canter... if he knows he isn't asked to canter and he wants to, he will break into canter and be so slow and controlled he virtually canters on the spot... its as if he is telling me what he wants to do and is asking me if its ok :D

Im so pleased to read your update. I followed your story with ebony and was heartbroken at the outcome, truely a horseowners worse nightmare. Two months ago i went through the same thing.
Best wishes for the future xx

Thank you :D Yes a heartbreaking outcome, and it just makes me think how cruel the world is... for me the world is a far poorer place without her, I thank god that I have ben. Losing a horse, or anyone you love is never going to be easy and seeing them suffer and realising that there is nothing that you can do to turn the tide is frustrating... i felt so impotent. The thing is, that that scenario enabled me to not fall apart when I lost her, because I had come to terms with the end game.... but the dull pain doesn't go and at some point you still have to let the flood gates open and face what you have lost, I am so sorry that you experienced the same, the turmoil of emotions from knowing that you have seen your horse suffer, not been able to do anything to fix the problem other than to say goodbye and stop their pain, and the knowledge that it made in some small way the loss easier to deal with, are the worst cocktail of experiences I know. xx
 
Wow, where did that time go. It is 7 months today since I lost my lad, so I really felt for you whilst following your story, a month on from going through what I did with mine.
So glad things are going well with Ben.
 
just thought Id share...

Ben had his massage this morning, during which he stole the car keys out of Tamars pockets and unzipped and re-zipped my jacket lol :D:p He was slightly tight at the poll, but this is all released now and should really help him with his head carriage, and had a tiny bit of tension behind the forelegs... again this has been sorted. All in all though he was pretty ok. As the massage went on he fell more and more sleepy:o:o, when we were supposed to walk around at the end, he could barely put one foot in front of the other... a proper dope on a rope :D Very proud that my boy behaved so well :D Here are some pics from the session:)
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he then got turned out in the field in the sunshine and he is so loose... and his body is swinging away :D
 
awww fanks :D

I think so too :D He is like a big cuddly teddy bear at the moment... he had only been turned out for 2 hrs when I got there this morning to bring him in for Tamar, and he looked up and steadily cantered across the field to me:D I love that :D
 
Lovely boy. So nice to hear how well he is going. It was 1 year on Thurs since we lost our big lass. Seems like just yesterday, but in another way it seems like years.

Time goes on and we now have two newies 4 and 5 years, we are having ups and downs, but mainly ups now:)
 
Thank you :D Unfortunately he just let the side down, I went up to hack him out for a 10 min stretch post massage before bed, someone had already bought him in so he didn't get lonely in the field.... so I tacked up and went to ride out and got a bit of a huffy puffy tantrum at leaving the yard, 4 puny little bucks and a baby rear... I have to say we did get a smack:eek:*whispers* or two:eek::eek: anyway, after the 2 taps on the neck following the mini rear, he walked out of the yard and started striding out with gusto, he felt lovely and loose. I can't really blame him, he just wanted to stay in his stable and chomp his hay, he isn't normally like that, but he had to have his stretch out and he certainly enjoyed his 10 min walk out more than he would have enjoyed a session on the lunge, and if I tried walking him in hand it would have been like dragging drugged up rock:o So yes, a slight hiccup but to be honest, I found it really hard not to just sit there and laugh at him... silly boy;)
 
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