Aaaarrrgh...my YO..

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..and her husband, and their numpty son, are all driving me mad!!!

Sorry, just need a teeny weeny rantlet...I'll try and keep it simple.

I moved to a tiny little yard last year, not even a yard, more like a few acres behind said YO's house.

YO previously owned an ancient dependable horse, long gone, gets all inspired and decides to buy another horse.

Comes home with a just backed 4 yr old TB mare with crooked legs and a funny look in her eye (horse, not YO. although..).

YO, btw, in her 60's, tiny, frail, nervous, neurotic, inexperienced.

Spend all this year helping her with new horse. New horse comes in at night all summer, over rugged, box walks, naps, rears, kept seperate from my horses and goes nuts, scares YO, YO's husband hates horse, YO's son rides horse sometimes, loses temper with her, can't ride, makes situation 100 times worse.

New sharer comes to yard with another mare. Hooray, the cavalry has arrived...

YO's horse now point blank refuses to be caught, does great big stunt horse vertical rears when approached. YO in tears, leaves new horse out, thin rug, freezing cold, wet, no shelter. Vet advises YO to have 'dangerous useless' horse PTS. More tears.

Sharer is leaving, offers to take YO's horse with her, on loan, as companion to her own, proposes turn her away for the winter, give YO a break, rethink situation in spring.

YO's husband tells YO if new horse goes he won't allow her to get a more suitable horse, and she must just keep trying with new horse. YO's son believes new horse is just trying it on and wants to 'sort her out' (god help us!).


AAArrrgh and thrice aaargh. New horse will end up injuring YO, or worse. I could slap YO's husband, irritating control freak, and his mopsy drippy son.

Rantlet over. Is it too early for a brandy?
 
wow, an accident waiting to happen..
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YO's husband tells YO if new horse goes he won't allow her to get a more suitable horse, and she must just keep trying with new horse.

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Hopefully she told him what she thought of that little idea - and the horse is going.

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A great rant!! But rightly so - heavily suggest that to turn this horse away for the winter as a companion will give the horse a break and the YO. Definately reasses the situation in the spring and the horse hopefully would come good in the right hands.....possibly not the YO and her family!!
 
*passes the brandy over*

....and reminds you to take a deap breath.

Does sound like a no win situation for both the owners and the poor horse, can you not have a friendly word with the YO, before someone gets injured? I know its not really your place but is there anyway this lady will see sense or perhaps realise she's taken on more than she can chew, or send the horse away for a bit to be sorted out in the right type of hands?

Good luck, does sound like a bit of a nightmare.
 
YO's son said to her 'Mum, it's not the horse's happiness we have to think about here, it's yours, if it makes you happy to look out of the window and see your horse in the field then you ought to keep her'. Oh goody, she can look out of the window and watch her cold, wet, rapidly getting thin horse screaming out for company and getting loonier by the day. Deep joy. Mum's happy.

Quite dreading going to the yard this morning, YO is going to ask me what I think and I'm rather afraid I'm going to say something about her husband and simpering idiot of a son which means my own horses are going to be tethered on a verge by tomorrow while I rapidly scan the small ads for another yard.

Oooh that was a long sentence wasn't it? I nearly didn't breath there.

YO's husband appears to hold the purse strings, which means he controls everything she does. But he's cutting off his nose to spite his face in this case, they'll save a shedload of money if the horse is elsewhere surely?

No, it would be crazy for the horse to go back to them, totally agree, she knows she never should have bought it in the first place. She ought to give up horses and buy a moped....
 
what a mess - YO would be so much better off with a dependable pony that she could just enjoy!

Perhaps you need to make her understand that with other livery going there s a strong chance that either her TB will be neglected to the point of no return or alternatively is likely to either seriously injure or kill her if she tries to handle it.

There is no shame in admitting she has made a mistake, there is shame in knowing it and doing nothing about it.
 
YO certainly would be better off with a dependable pony (one on rockers perhaps?) and I thought that's what she was going to buy. Not a freshly backed TB of uncertain temperament bought from a seller who was in a wheelchair, due, allegedly, to having been thrown by a horse.. Honestly, you couldn't make it up...

The thing is she KNOWS she shouldn't have bought the horse, and has admitted it to me several times amidst much hand wringing and mopping of mascara, but she feels that god (did I mention they are devout christians and go to church 5 times a week?) god has sent her this horse for a reason. All I can say is god can't love her very much..
 
god I hate controlling men like that ! ! ! !

poor woman I'm sure given the choice she would just get another horse, altho she was silly to buy this on ein the first place

have a large brandy or two it would drive me nuts too
 
Ta for the drink. Drinks, even. Much appreciated.

Sharer has now put her own horse in the field with new horse, so at least she's got company. She also practically forced YO to put a thicker rug on new horse, so that's 2 good things.

Sharer and I have decided to now withdraw from the arena i.e. we won't be offering any more help with the new horse. We didn't realise how much we've both been propping YO up until we discussed it yesterday. If YO and her hub are going to keep the horse they've got to learn to do it alone, sharer moves in 6 weeks and I'm now looking for somewhere else too. Which means they are going to have to get another horse to keep new horse company...I hope they do, I couldn't bear the thought of new horse having to live alone.

To be fair, YO is lovely, a very sweet person, she's just utterly clueless. She appears to be trying to force new horse into the same mould as her old steady neddy, even to the point, a couple of months ago, of giving her small grandchildren rides around the concrete yard on new horse. Hatless. I had to go home at that point.......

Anyway, no sign of YO or anyone at the yard yesterday as they had some very important church work to attend to. Just as well really, I was so steamed up. Bit calmer today!!
 
A swift update.

YO now thinks that her horse, sent by God, is actually the spirit of her lost baby daughter, sent back to her from heaven for a second chance on earth.

I feel so sorry for both YO and horse, on the other hand I am SO out of there...it's all beyond me.
 
Oh dear god.... horse and YO's family are all as nutty as each other!

*hands another bottle of brandy over for tomorrows probable antics*


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Cheers Ashleigh..oh dear....I'll be turning into a serious alchofrolic at this rate...

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You're be fine!

Just no secret hip flasks in the store room!!!
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Oh dear C - things have obviously slipped further downhill
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Tell YO to put TB on Project Horses - explaining that it is a Christian site for loving people who want to help unhappy horses and offer to allow her to look at Scrumpy out of her window everyday and pretend he's her very own rare breed pet!

Problem sorted - no horses (or humans) hurt in the process
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And if there is any of that booze left over you can bring it next time you visit
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An update.

I am now SO out of there, really, properly!! I've rented and moved into my own yard. 14 acres, two stables, haybarn, field shelter, mine mine mine, I feel terrible about leaving YO's mare behind, she's apparently been in total disrepair since we left, no other horses there...in fact I feel so bad I've offered to have her, and i think they are going to say yes because they can't cope with her at all now.


I'm such an idiot. What am I going to do with a young, highly strung, slightly unsound, messed up TB mare? Oh well at least she'll be away from the nutters.

Oh. And they'll be paying me. maybe there is a god after all.
 
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