weesophz
Well-Known Member
i seriously dont know what to do anymore having a horse and sharers and being at college and working has been the most difficult 6 months ever.
I have 2 sharers for fox, one ive had for 5 years whos great and had to go down to sharing one day a week as shes at vet school now (brill since fox is the clumsiest guy). So I had to get another sharer as I am at college 4 days a week and work shifts. Had my new sharer since summer, had a lot of bumps along the way as shes quite soft and fox sometimes took advantage, hes the first horse she's shared. but she loves him and has worked through her issues and they seem to be coming on a lot better now!
my problem is this. New sharer is constantly on holiday and its making life a bit hectic. and tonight she has text me saying she is now struggling for money to pay for fox. she has had 2 holidays since taking fox on and just informed me she is also going to be away the entire month of april, the time i have exams and cant afford to give up my study time. I just feel really frustrated because I make a lot of sacrifices (as we all do as owners/loaners/sharers!) when it comes to holidays, or buying myself things or nights out so fox can be fed and shod and everything else. We agreed on terms before she took him on (payment, how many days she would do him, length of share etc) and I explained to her that it is really hard going through winter but she seemed keen anyway. I really like my sharer and i appreciate how great a help she has been with fox since i went back into education but im constantly feeling like she might turn around any moment and say she doesnt want him anymore. Ive asked my other sharer if she can take on any more days but she really cant.
what do i do? I know the obvious choice is to probably look for a new sharer, but the thought of being messed around again and the struggle of actually finding one at this time of year is making me tear my hair out. I cant and wont sell fox its simply not an option, and the idea of putting him out on full loan worries me due to his past. I did put the feelers out for a loaner but everyone that messaged me wanted to move him and i cant risk him going somewhere dodgy.
its not the first time ive been in this predicament, so thanks for any help guys.
I have 2 sharers for fox, one ive had for 5 years whos great and had to go down to sharing one day a week as shes at vet school now (brill since fox is the clumsiest guy). So I had to get another sharer as I am at college 4 days a week and work shifts. Had my new sharer since summer, had a lot of bumps along the way as shes quite soft and fox sometimes took advantage, hes the first horse she's shared. but she loves him and has worked through her issues and they seem to be coming on a lot better now!
my problem is this. New sharer is constantly on holiday and its making life a bit hectic. and tonight she has text me saying she is now struggling for money to pay for fox. she has had 2 holidays since taking fox on and just informed me she is also going to be away the entire month of april, the time i have exams and cant afford to give up my study time. I just feel really frustrated because I make a lot of sacrifices (as we all do as owners/loaners/sharers!) when it comes to holidays, or buying myself things or nights out so fox can be fed and shod and everything else. We agreed on terms before she took him on (payment, how many days she would do him, length of share etc) and I explained to her that it is really hard going through winter but she seemed keen anyway. I really like my sharer and i appreciate how great a help she has been with fox since i went back into education but im constantly feeling like she might turn around any moment and say she doesnt want him anymore. Ive asked my other sharer if she can take on any more days but she really cant.
what do i do? I know the obvious choice is to probably look for a new sharer, but the thought of being messed around again and the struggle of actually finding one at this time of year is making me tear my hair out. I cant and wont sell fox its simply not an option, and the idea of putting him out on full loan worries me due to his past. I did put the feelers out for a loaner but everyone that messaged me wanted to move him and i cant risk him going somewhere dodgy.
its not the first time ive been in this predicament, so thanks for any help guys.