Absolutely furious

[RunToEarth]

I have my horses, my horses things and my equine world condensed into my stable block at home. Everything in there belongs to me or mother, it is private, and I dare say that the contents of my tackroom and stables are worth a fair bit of money, as with all stables and tackrooms.
An ex livery came up this afternoon whilst I was riding and took one of my turnout rugs, which belongs to me, and is kept in my private tackroom at home.
The livery parted on bad terms after an argument with my mum over her absolute disrespect for privacy and other people'e belongings.
She didn't call to ask if she could borrow it, she brought it up tonight covered in wet, sludgey thick mud and said "Hiya, took this earlier, my horse had ripped hers and I needed to turn her out, hope you don't mind"
I did, and although I have mastered the art of biting the old tongue at times she caught me in a rather stressed state of mind and I went absolutely mad, I must have been stood for a good 5minutes arguing (still quite shocked) about how rude and out of order she was. She genuinely seemed shocked at my reaction, almost as if it was ok for someone, who she knows we do not like, who I see about 4 times a year on the local show circuit to take something as large as a turn out rug without asking.
I'm not being petty, turnout rugs cost a good £60 and I'm an obsessive in clean things, she took that rug this morning almost gleaming, my pet hate is wet, muddy, sticky rugs in the tackroom.
I have demanded she take it and have it cleaned, and back to me by Saturday, do you think that is very unreasonable?

 

[jumpthemoon]

Not at all! I'd be charging her a rug leasing fee to go with it! Cheeky mare

 

[xspiralx]

No, she was bang out of order. But how on earth did she get into your tack room - wasn't it locked?

 

[_OC_]

Nope!

 

[molehill]

I would of loved to be a fly on the wall!!!
I would of done exactly the same

 

[RachelB]

Not at all unreasonable, I think I would have flipped out too by the sound of it! What next, borrowing a horse because "I needed to ride"?!

 

[teapot]

I'd be making her clean it with a bucket and a scrubbing brush

 

[dwi]

I can't believe the sheer nerve of the woman. That's bordering on stealing. I'd definitely want the rug cleaned and returned before I changed my locks

 

[jesterfaerie]

I don't think what you expect her to do is unreasonable! I too would have been furious with what she did, what right does she think she has to take other peoples belongings?!

 

[Gorgeous George]

good grief that's terrible, I would have been absolutely furious too.

 

[RunToEarth]

Did I not mention that bit. Sorr forgot a major part of the rant here

Still a little angry.
When she left the stables we presumed she returned her tackroom key, which was for the upper stables anyway as ours have always been private.
I always lock my tackroom because although I keep my best tack in the house, my parents have a lot of old saddles in there and even an old lawn mower too!! When we were away on holiday 2years ago she fed the horses and had the tackroom key for a few days, which is the only time she has been given it. She gave it us back at the end of the week but either found a spare in the tackroom or had one cut because when my mum confronted her earlier she presented it

 

[Super_Kat]

Cheeky cow! I think I'd have gone mad at her aswell!



Off topic I know but can we have a cat update please?

 

[ajf]

Oh my god!!!

That is very shocking!!!! Who would ever do that???? Just don't understand, poor you.

 

[RunToEarth]

haha, quite a story about that one my dear, I shall pop it in sb

 

[Mithras]

I honestly think some people must be mentally unhinged about certain things. She has obviously been taken to task about this sort of thing before and knows, from being told, even if too insensitive to work it out herself, that people are not happy about it. Yet she still took it. And imagine returning it wet and muddy! I guess she must have thought you had plenty of spare ones and therefore wouldn't mind.

Slightly off topic, but I recently came across this attitude when I had to ask my previous flatmate to leave due to the filthy, unhygenic state of her room. She too was completely astonished and claimed no-one had ever said anything like that before to her. Believe me I am not a fusspot but you couldnt even see any floorspace for the banana skins, piles of junks, empty sandwich packets, empty cans, etc..

 

[hadfos]

Isnt it the normal thing to do to turn upto a yard were you are not welcome or even friends with the owners and borrow a rug?????THE BLOODY CHEEK,sorry for shouting but i am astounded by the nerve of this person,if all you did is have an argument you are a very restrained person

,she came onto private property and basically stole something of yours(sorry do not class it as borrowing even if she brought it back,had her horse wrecked it,would she have brought it back???Nope probably not),leaves you assuming the rug has been stolen??
There really are some people out there are'nt there!!

 

[Bedlam]

Change the locks on your tack room. What happens when your rugs get wet and muddy on your horses by the way?

 

[foxend]

Cheeky Cow! - I'd of gone mad too!

 

[RunToEarth]

My coloured is a mud monster and does get very minging, but I have a high power steam cleaner and a pump room to dry them in (live on a farm) so no worries there.
The thing that bugged me most was how shocked this woman was to my reaction, she obviously thought what she did was perfectly acceptable, share and share alike. I have a good mind to catch her horse tomorrow morning and leave her a post it saying I fancied a ride, be back shortly. She honestly is not a woman who can be offended!

 

[kirstyhen]

What if one of yours (or hers) had ringworm, lice etc.
Idiot, i have always said i have no problem with people borrowing things as long as they put them back as they found them, but a rug is a bit excessive! Plus she came up to your yard and basically nicked it!
Its just rude!!!!

 

[silversox]

Reminds me of the time that this young woman whom I had recently become acquainted with asked if she could keep both her ponies at our yard for two nights so that she could hack to a show on the Sunday. We both spent time cleaning our tack the day before and I lent her a really nice clincher browband and a pair of pelham roundings.

The day after the show we again cleaned our tack and she showed me the things which she had cleaned of mine and where she had hung them, full of gratitude, in the saddle-room, which I locked later that evening. Next day she went and when I looked both the clincher browband and roundings had gone. Talk about bl**dy crafty!!

 

[Tiffany]

I think she might struggle to have it cleaned and re-proofed by Saturday but I don't think you are wrong to ask - cheeky mare!

 

[lachlanandmarcus]

Id be even crosser about the key retention or copying: that's deeply deceitful and would make me even madder than the rug thing....

 

[Natch]

That is shocking. Are you sure youll get it back on Saturday or will she "forget"?

 

[Onyxia]

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The thing that bugged me most was how shocked this woman was to my reaction, she obviously thought what she did was perfectly acceptable, share and share alike.

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For a close friend maybe!
Pet hate has always been people who "borrow" things without permision-returning things dirty just takes the pi55

 

[kerilli]

i think you were absolutely justified in going completely mental, and she'll never do it again, to you or anyone else. that is trespassing and theft, to put it bluntly.
the very least she should do is get it cleaned, tbh i'd have asked her to pay for it in full (the price of a new replacement for you) and keep it herself, now it's covered in mud.
jeez, i can't believe the cheek of some people. liveries can be the limit, don't i just remember that, but for an ex-livery, who parted on bad terms with you, to do that, defies belief.
good for you, letting rip!

 

[Judziah]

It's the LEAST she can do!!!

Tell her that if she ever goes in there again then you'll be in contact with the police. As mentioned above, that IS theft, regardless of whether she returns it or not AND it's trespassing!!

I really can't believe the nerve of some people.

 

[zoesophie]

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I have a good mind to catch her horse tomorrow morning and leave her a post it saying I fancied a ride, be back shortly.

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Do it, do it!!!!!!!!!! - what goes around come around

 

[Toby_Zaphod]

You need to ensure that this person non longer has any keys for your yard. Probably best thing is to change all locks to be sure. When you see her next, I know you don't want to but, tell her infront of witnesses that she is not welcome at your yard at any time & that following you telling her this she will be liable to prosecution as a tresspasser under civil law if she ever comes to the yard again. That way she will be under no misconcep[tion that you do not want her there & you have witnesses that she was told. Even better if you hand her a written notice & you keep a copy. Do it in a business like manner & don't get involved in a slanging match with her. Hopefully that will be the last you see of her at your yard.

 

[PapaFrita]

Jeezus Rosie, I admire your restraint!

I wouldn't DREAM of taking ANYTHING from ANYONE without asking first, nor would I ever give it back in anything but pristine condition.
Having said that, I've had to 'repossess' stuff at old yard that people seem to forget doesn't belong to them and I don't give a sh:t if they think I'm a cow for it

Sorry, am a bit cranky at the mo!