paddi22
Well-Known Member
yeah i think it just wandered off your original post and off into its into its own debate on whether you can stick your head through someones door!
Yes, of course you are right, how dare any yard manager take offense to a stranger wandering into their house, waking up their partner for a complete non emergency which was nothing to do with sleeping husband.
You wonder where horse people get this entitled reputation from?
Just because he lives on a livery yard doesn't mean he is under obligation to get involved in it. He works elsewhere and has his own job elsewhere - he just lives in a house with someone who owns a livery yard. There's a big difference. He is not involved in the yard. He is under no obligation to be involved in it.
yeah its a very frustrating situation for you. i would have done the bottle of wine and apology card as well. and then it is just a case of wait to see what their reaction is. Hope it works out for you!
Honestly this is a storm in a teacup.
.but he didn't have to come out of the house and he didn't have to sort the lorry out.
To be honest, I think he came out of the house because he was awake and was utterly incensed by the fact that a total stranger had been in his kitchen shouting! Completely understand that. Coupled with the fact that there was a huge lorry outside the house that had had its engine running for about 20 minutes with a load of women shouting, trying to back it up, make it go foward.... the entire situation must have been an utter nightmare for someone that had just done a 12 hour shift on nights.
But as you say - he got behind the wheel and got the lorry straight, which he didn't have to do, for which I am very grateful.
Every 5 minutes in my head, though, I am bloody kicking myself as to why we just didn't unload everything on the lane just outside the yard which has a massive lay-by - all this could have been so easily avoided.
Shoulda/Woulda/Coulda/ and all that.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing, isn't it???
the situation hasn't been helped by the YO offering no words of support or comfort or even condemnation and not coming back quickly to say whether the OP needs to leave, its horrible to feel in limbo
Having said that I'd still keep your head down for now!
No your sharer shouldn't even have popped her head in the door, that to me is inexcusable
This is one of the craziest threads I've read in ages!
That cat is obese! Stop feeding it popcorn at once.
Well, if I were running a livery yard and if I hadn't specifically told my clients not to open my back door, I really wouldn't have a problem with people popping their head in and shouting or stepping in and calling me. If I'm not in, the door is locked if I'm in, it's open and frankly I don't always hear the bell. The husband sounds like a rude bullying type and frankly I don't think OP sounds overly hysterical either. All a bit of a storm in a teacup. If I were the YO I'd feel really embarrassed about what happened and why wasn't she there to meet the new client, bad show all round IMO. Frankly I'd be expecting an apology but then again, when I pay for something I expect a professional service ie YO there to meet me, take me through what they provide and don't provide and if necessary, to be told OH works nights and gets rather irate if disturbed!
I feel that the YO is very much to blame for the situation. a) she should have been there to welcome you and give all relevant info regarding rules and regs. or b) the rules and regs and best place to park/unload etc should have been clearly explained to you in advance if she was unable to be present. Either of these scenarios would just be plain common sense and politeness to a new client.
Do you think her lack of communication now, after the event, is perhaps a certain amount of embarrassment on her part? TBH I would be worrying about what else she hasn't "quite explained"!
Sorry I think he is a total t***. I worked nights for eighteen years and the number of times I have been woken up by other people and my children, if I went off the deep end every time, well! When you go to bed you lock the doors, if you have not locked the doors you just a bit stupid.
I might be a bit grumpy when I am first woken up, but I would rather sort out a problem than leave someone in a mess and how were you to know he was on nights? To be honest I think its the YO fault for not being there when you arrived to help.
I hope it all settles down but honestly I do not think I would want be near someone with so little understanding.