Advice please guys.

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I'm not sure where to start really, but I feel like I really need a break from horse ownership for a bit.

My mare lost her foal last month and this has really hit me hard (as it would) I'm on full livery at the moment but due to work commitments I'm only seeing her and riding at the weekends - and even then it seems like I barely spend time with her cos I'm busy with other things/busy with my OH etc. and I mean, OH is fabulous as he really gets involved etc.

I love my mare to bits (of course) but I'm wondering whether I can truly give her what she needs at the moment. plus, from a financial point of view, it's causing a big strain and I feel like I'm almost....wasting money becuase I am only riding/spending time with at weekends. there's no way i can see her after work/before work for various reasons.

she's 16h, coming up to 13 years old. By Jumbo. jumps. nice work on the flat. needs work as she can be tricky and she's only just come back into work after having her baby. Has quirks - (as Jumbo babies so often do!) but is SO affectionate and loving. A real people horse. I don't know whether she might benefit to go to either someone who can proffesionally bring her on to her FULL potential (which I clearly do not have the time to do...or the experience for that matter) or maybe as a broodmare (her baby dying was nothing to do with her)

I just don't know anymore. I feel like I really need to think about ME for once and whilst I love her to bits, I feel like I need some time out.

Any thoughts/advice really appreciated.

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Ditto what PicoleNicole says. I think I would be looking for someone to loan, that way it gives you time to decide what you want in the long term. It would be a shame to sell her and regret it... I hope you find a resolution that suits you both. Don't be too hard on yourself as you obviously have the mares best interests at heart. ((HUGS)) to you.
 
That would be my first option obviously, but the yard I'm currently at don't allow this. I know I could move yards but it's not always as easy as that is it. lol. Plus, I've only just moved there 4 months ago from nearly 50 miles away you know?
 
I think you have answered your own question sweetie. It sounds to me like your heart is just not in it and maybe your mare would be better off in a new home. You could look into a long term loan as you could always take her back should your outlook change. But if you feel you are really sure you want to sell her, I don't think anyone would blame you. Having a horse is meant to be a hobby that makes you happy, not cause you stress. Hope you decide what to do. x
 
Thanks guys. I feel so lost at the moment. I don't know what to do for the BEST for her. I feel like she's been through so much - would it be cruel of me to send her to another home for maybe a year or so whilst I think about what I want and have some time out?
 
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