Advice please...what would you do?

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Well I need some sound horsey advice so wondered if you guys can help.
I supposedly share the work of two horses, but I have noticed in fact that is has been me doing most of the donkey work for well over a year and frankly I am fed up with being taken the piss out of.
Also my mare has different needs to the very nice mare shares a field with and I have been using more of my hay for a very long time as other person's horse does not need it so much as its has never had lammi.
Anyway, I have been toying with the idea of asking for my own paddock as this is an option at my yard. This way I will no longer feel like I am taken the piss out of as I will be doing my own horse, which is what i prefer when I am being taken the piss out of.
I feel like I do not want to discuss it as this 'friend' should not be taking the piss and being lazy, which is what it boils down to imo. I know it will be a bit awkward but I am well and truly fed up with it and do not value this friendship enough to sort the base problem out if you know what I mean.

What should I do? What would you do?
I am not intending on leaving this yard and I dont want to fall out, but I do not need the burden of another horse when the work is not shared equally.
Arghhh, I dont know what to do for the best.

Also, this person lives 2 minutes drive from the yard, i live 15mins drive and I do more of the work.

*cookies* if you got this far
Thanks in advance
 
have you spoken to your friend about it recently maybe restructure it to her in way friendly kind of way 1st and if no avail then ask for your own paddock.
apart from this I have no other idea and hope you manage to get it all sorted.
 
Sit the other person down and be polite but to the point either the attitude will change or you move into your own paddock and do your own thing .Remember though it is often handy having someone else involved for days when you cant get to the yard sick/holiday/work ect so try not to burn your bridges .
 
most horses are better in paddocks with a friend or two, would your horse be ok on its own? What about asking for a set rota to share the workload, and maybe go halves on a round of hay so you both pay the same amount of money and therefore use it equally? Its not easy...........
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have you spoken to your friend about it recently maybe restructure it to her in way friendly kind of way 1st and if no avail then ask for your own paddock.
apart from this I have no other idea and hope you manage to get it all sorted.

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No I have not spoken with her so far but perhaps I can, I just dont know
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Sit the other person down and be polite but to the point either the attitude will change or you move into your own paddock and do your own thing .Remember though it is often handy having someone else involved for days when you cant get to the yard sick/holiday/work ect so try not to burn your bridges .

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I understand what you are saying about burning bridges, but I would rather pay YO when I need help as I do not like to burden others. But perhaps I should try sit down and talk to her, this is all rather poo, I would rather not be in this position in the first place, why do people have to take the piss
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most horses are better in paddocks with a friend or two, would your horse be ok on its own? What about asking for a set rota to share the workload, and maybe go halves on a round of hay so you both pay the same amount of money and therefore use it equally? Its not easy...........
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Regards my horse being on her, own, she would be absolutely fine, we are supposed to have a rota, but she keeps copping out, so I suppose it will be a case of. Also regards the hay, my mare needs more, she only likes to give her horse 2 slices, my mare has half a bale!

Thanks to you all though, i am still unsure, though some good advice.

Anyone else got a view? Would be greatly appreciated here as I am struggling with what I want and should do
 
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Just tell her that as your horse suffers from lammistis and that she needs her food intake monitored that you would prefer to put on her own. simples

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This is what i thought was a good idea to make it easier, its certainly true after all, I will talk to her tomorrow, see how she reacts, I am sure she will try come up with some alternative solution but we shall see, thanks
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