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rachaelv2005

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Would really appreciate some advice guys, last year I bought my 16 year old daughter who has just come off ponies a lovley little warmblood, a bit green, hacks out nicely in company, a bit spooky on his own. He moves like dream which was what attracted us to him. We have recently come to the conclusion that he is a bit sharp for my daughter who has told our instructor that she doesnt enjoy riding him, even when he is going well and wants to go back to ponies but feels she is giving in too soon! She has advised I find him a home preferably jumping which I am loathe to do as I love this little fellow but as I have my own lovley mare cannot justify keeping him. Im heartbroken, what would the best course of action be and anyone been in a similar position?
 
No chance of loaning him and finding a loan school mistress for your daughter till she improves or if she isnt interested in keeping him selling is probably best for the both of them
 
I bought a warmblood last august and things have only just stated to go well. Stick it out for a lil longer..! i bought her when i was 14 im now 15 and she was alot for me in the beginning but i love her to bits now..! Good things come to those who wait!! Good Luck.
 
She is insistent on the pony thing she broke and sold on a little welsh last year which she really enjoyed and still says she wants to compete. I know in my heart selling him is the right thing for both but I am worried about finding him the right home!
 
Big step from ponies to a big old WB.

Sell it if your daughter is not happy. Or keep it for yourself...
 
Thanks Purita, that would be what I would do but our instructor asked her questions such as do you enjoy riding him when he is going nicely? to which she replied no....the next question...'if I said you never had to ride him again, would you be relieved or disappointed?' to which she replied disappointed. Im the adult....and Im confused!!
 
So tempted Amymay, he'd make a fab little eventer with a bit of work....however Im a bit long in the tooth for that! lack of time and funds!!
 
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Thanks Purita, that would be what I would do but our instructor asked her questions such as do you enjoy riding him when he is going nicely? to which she replied no....the next question...'if I said you never had to ride him again, would you be relieved or disappointed?' to which she replied disappointed. Im the adult....and Im confused!!

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I really think it's a shame for your daughter - she's obviously been really pushed out of her comfort zone & is feeling disappointed in herself, poor girl. She should be proud that she's attempted this new challenge. Maybe she just needs to start enjoying her WB? Lots of hacking with her friends & things like that?

She is obviously putting pressure on herself without giving herself the time to adjust... maybe loan a pony as a confidence giver for her & loan out your WB gelding or preferably have both for her to ride if that's possible & i'm pretty sure she'll start to see faults with the pony & advantages with the WB when she's able to compare directly.
 
You have hit the nail on the head, she was disappointed also in herself...I think she knows he has potential and think she would hate someone else to do well with him, half of her is hanging on but even Ive noticed a tendency for her to treat riding him like a chore, although she loves him and he has developed a trust in her, Perhaps its me that doesnt want to give up.
 
the WB sounds lovely. adopt me and i'll ride him
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what about your mare? has your daughter tried riding her? maybe you could swap?
 
as long as you dont eat much your welcome! we discussed this, Im afraid although she loves my mare, she is WH stamp and 17h, you really couldnt get further from a pony if you tried! I am now drafting out a 'How Much?' post for my wblood.
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Sell unless YOU want him as daughter doesnt. Get her a 15hh to have fun on!

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Totally agree.
 
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