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Well i quit my riding school this week (long story and on another thread) and i then got approached by my friend who i always rode with and lives up the street asking if i wanted to loan a horse with her. We would keep it near us and share all the duties and payments. She has thought it all through but is only allowed to do it if i am willing to do it to.

The problem is some part of me is telling me not to go for it. I have just started my A-Levels and so i dont know whether it is the lack of time i will have that is telling me no or what?? My parents said they would pay me whatever they used to pay for riding lessons to look after the horses and with my wages i would have quite a bit of money for said horse but still im not convinced :confused:

Am i being ungrateful, stupid or sensible?? Please if anyone has any supportive words please reply??

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How often would you be expected to ride/look after the horse? Could you not split it so that your friend gets to have the horse an extra day (eg you ride/look after him/her for three days a week and your friend for four days.) If you really think you don't have time though, I wouldn't bother.
 
SJ_Superstars said:
How often would you be expected to ride/look after the horse? Could you not split it so that your friend gets to have the horse an extra day (eg you ride/look after him/her for three days a week and your friend for four days.) If you really think you don't have time though, I wouldn't bother.
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I think I will have time and i was thinking of doing something like that but i keep thinking what if i fall out big time with the friend or something like that. Shes 2 years younger than me and i have spent a lot of time with other friends with horses and i have seen how costly they are and im worried i wont have enough money or that money will end up being a major part of it and end up ruining the friendship we have :/
 
Ah I see. Well it depends on what your friend is like and whether she is the sort of person you will end up arguing with. I think you need to do some calculations first though to see whether you will be able to afford it or not.
 
errmmm well its quite complicated with the friend thing and we are not as close as we used to be and so i have worries there but then my parents just say it might help solve things between us hmmm yeah im thinking to do some calculations and asked my friend what she has to pay for hay and things like that and although it seems a lot split between two may not be as bad :/
 
I can understand that you could think that a 14 yr old (?) might not have the commitment, some do, some don't, only you know enough about your friend to judge this.
Try writing a list of pros and cons. Don't just look at the length of each list but try to weigh them up against each other.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
 
They don't have to be too costly - if you choose the right horse/pony and it can live out all year round that will be ok. If you get it on loan then the insurance and most major kit purchases will be bought by the owner.

If you have the right sort of loan contract sorted out (and also something to outline the situation between you and your friend) then you will be covered for if something goes wrong - at worst you will only have to look after it for a month that you don't want.

If you do go ahead, don't forget to think about how you will deal with situations such as when one of you goes on holiday - I would have thought the other will have to care for the horse every day those weeks.

I think you're being sensible thinking so carefully about it but I'd go for it!!
 
in all honesty i wouldn't do it. horses seem to have this ability to make people fall out over nothing and if you aren't 100% with this friend then you can almost guarantee that you'll start getting on each other's nerves....
 
Thank you pearlsasinger :) i tend to find when i try to write pros and cons i end up swaying it the way im feeling :/ hmmm
my friends really excited by the idea and i wish i could share her enthusiasm but something's telling me not to go for it :/
 
diggerbez said:
in all honesty i wouldn't do it. horses seem to have this ability to make people fall out over nothing and if you aren't 100% with this friend then you can almost guarantee that you'll start getting on each other's nerves....
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I think we will too and it doesnt help that if i saw her doing something wrong in the lesson i would shout it out (like not doing sitting trot into canter after riding for 10 years :/ ) and she would be quite moody with me for the rest of the evening

on the other hand i am desperate for my own horse and this is the only way its possible
 
lucyc said:
I think we will too and it doesnt help that if i saw her doing something wrong in the lesson i would shout it out (like not doing sitting trot into canter after riding for 10 years :/ ) and she would be quite moody with me for the rest of the evening

on the other hand i am desperate for my own horse and this is the only way its possible
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Are there any other horses in your area up for share? Maybe sharing with your friend doesn't have to be your only option?
If it were me, I think I'd follow my gut instinct and give it a miss and find someone else looking for a sharer.
 
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