Penguinboots
Well-Known Member
Hello - I'm after a bit of advice!
I took a sweet 4yo mare on loan in early July (I was previously sharing her). I was hesitant about taking her on loan at first as I wasn't sure what my career/finances/life was doing, but the owner assured me that if anything ever happened I could keep her free of charge on her own land (rather than at livery where she is now).
Everything was going nicely for the first couple of months - I did a couple of dressage tests with the horse and she was going really nicely, she came on leaps and bounds with me. Until suddenly she just did not want to work any more - she became unbelievably lazy almost overnight (this was around the end of August). Usual checks of back, teeth and saddle were done (at my expense of course) and I upped her feed and gave her a vit & mineral supplement to make sure she was getting everything she needed. But since then not a lot has changed, and I feel that I am just constantly nagging at this poor horse who does not want to/cannot work. After discussing it with my instructor, I feel the best thing would be to turn her away for the winter and bring her back into work in the spring.
So I speak to owner about this - but she now says she doesn't having enough grazing and if I don't want to continue riding her, the only option would be to sell her. She also thinks I'm giving up too soon and I haven't given the mare enough of chance. This has made me feel like I'm being incredibly selfish! Am I??
I don't really have an issue with her selling if that's what the owner wants to do. As sweet as the mare is, I wouldn't want to buy her. But I feel like I'm letting the mare down.
Should I continue plodding on with a horse I don't enjoy riding and who doesn't enjoy being ridden? Perhaps I haven't given her enough of a chance after all. Or should I turn her away and keep her on livery (at quite an expense to me for a horse I can't ride)? Investigate grass livery for the winter (hard to come by in this area!)? Or just let the owner sell her?
We have a contract in place and I can give 30 days notice to end the agreement - but would it be selfish of me to end it now?
Sorry for the ramble. Tea and biscuits for anyone who got this far!
I took a sweet 4yo mare on loan in early July (I was previously sharing her). I was hesitant about taking her on loan at first as I wasn't sure what my career/finances/life was doing, but the owner assured me that if anything ever happened I could keep her free of charge on her own land (rather than at livery where she is now).
Everything was going nicely for the first couple of months - I did a couple of dressage tests with the horse and she was going really nicely, she came on leaps and bounds with me. Until suddenly she just did not want to work any more - she became unbelievably lazy almost overnight (this was around the end of August). Usual checks of back, teeth and saddle were done (at my expense of course) and I upped her feed and gave her a vit & mineral supplement to make sure she was getting everything she needed. But since then not a lot has changed, and I feel that I am just constantly nagging at this poor horse who does not want to/cannot work. After discussing it with my instructor, I feel the best thing would be to turn her away for the winter and bring her back into work in the spring.
So I speak to owner about this - but she now says she doesn't having enough grazing and if I don't want to continue riding her, the only option would be to sell her. She also thinks I'm giving up too soon and I haven't given the mare enough of chance. This has made me feel like I'm being incredibly selfish! Am I??
I don't really have an issue with her selling if that's what the owner wants to do. As sweet as the mare is, I wouldn't want to buy her. But I feel like I'm letting the mare down.
Should I continue plodding on with a horse I don't enjoy riding and who doesn't enjoy being ridden? Perhaps I haven't given her enough of a chance after all. Or should I turn her away and keep her on livery (at quite an expense to me for a horse I can't ride)? Investigate grass livery for the winter (hard to come by in this area!)? Or just let the owner sell her?
We have a contract in place and I can give 30 days notice to end the agreement - but would it be selfish of me to end it now?
Sorry for the ramble. Tea and biscuits for anyone who got this far!