Am I a boring old nag-ass or would you be annoyed too??

Cobiau Cymreig Wyllt

Cobiau Cymreig Wyllt

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Got to my field this eve to find two planks and a header-tank strategically placed along the hedge...concluded teenage field-sharer has been practicing jumping...
the end section of the field is fenced off..OH and I did this to have somewhere to do groundwork with our 3yo away from the others...its not designed to keep horses in there long-term but is reasonably good enough for a horse under supervision...noticed the fencing at one end was trashed and the pallets had been arranged to block off the entrance...wasn't like that this morning...
So, concluded that field-sharer had probably decided to put my youngster and daughter's pony in the fenced-off paddock whilst she jumped her pony in the main field and....one or both of them had jumped out....trashing the fence, but thankfully, it seems not themselves in the process...
Am glad that she had the sense to separate them...(after having discussed not galloping up and down the field like a loon on her pony with my youngster and pony jostling for position loose alongside her, on previous occasions and having told her she is welcome to school/whatever in the fenced off end bit) but frankly wish she had had the common sense to leave my ponies in the big field and jump in the enclosed area...and the sense to tell me that one or both of my ponies had done some kind of spectacular jumping stunt to get out and trashed the fence in the process.
So, right to be annoyed or a boring old killjoy? You decide!!!!
A beer with lime in and home-made chips for anyone that gets back to me!
 
Nope I would be annoyed too! Common courtesy really, you should not move other people's animals without asking permission or in an emergency.
 
I would be very cross, what she did is interfering with your field management and could have caused an accident. I would be having stern words.
 
I would be annoyed too! ESP since you've previously discussed a course of action! At the end of the day horses aren't cheap and horses with injuries are a hole in the pocket and this girl wouldn't be paying if anything did happen to your two. I'd be having some strong words and make her sort out the trashed fence.
 
Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt for now and ask her if 'anything happened' when you next see her. There might be a perfectly logical explanation - and if not, then you can go to town on her!
 
Thank you one and all...I do feel like some kind of nagging auld bovine at times with her..
IBG - yes, absolutely words of wisdom...I told myself that exact same thing that there could be a perfectly reasonable explanation as I didn't see what actually happened...so called round to ask her what the perfectly reasonable explanation was...she was out, but her Mum will be asking her to ring me to explain the deal tomorrow...:rolleyes:
 
Is it perhaps too small to jump in at the fenced off bit? I seem to be in the minority in that I see it as an accident and that she had tried to seperate the horses.. She is only a kid and we all make mistakes...
 
By the way do you both rent or do you own the field? Unless you own it you don't really have a case to tell her to stop doing things-the ponies will get used to her riding around them.
 
Honey08 said:
Is it perhaps too small to jump in at the fenced off bit? I seem to be in the minority in that I see it as an accident and that she had tried to seperate the horses.. She is only a kid and we all make mistakes...
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Yep, possibly...would you think it safest for all if she jumped in the field with the ponies loose...? I'm happy for her to do that if the consensus is that is something they will get used to it and not pose a problem to her or them...it just hasn't looked that way so far...but I could be worrying unneccesarily, hence me wondering whether I'm just being an old killjoy
trouble is I suppose, that some accidents can easily be prevented and can cost a lot to put right...
 
SusieT said:
By the way do you both rent or do you own the field? Unless you own it you don't really have a case to tell her to stop doing things-the ponies will get used to her riding around them.
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Yea but will she get over it if said ponies decide to Kick out at her on board as shes flying up and down with them at her side, or even worse she takes a header and they trundle over her:D
 
SusieT said:
By the way do you both rent or do you own the field? Unless you own it you don't really have a case to tell her to stop doing things-the ponies will get used to her riding around them.
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We both rent, but I guess my expectations are that sharing means we'll both compromise here and there to use the facilities together...in an ideal world anyway!...would be great if the ponies just ignore what's going on, and probably good for them in the long-run so am happy to hear people say if they think that's the case...would prefer that to my youngster doing some kind of panicky jumping-out stunt..:rolleyes:
 
Honey08 said:
Is it perhaps too small to jump in at the fenced off bit? I seem to be in the minority in that I see it as an accident and that she had tried to seperate the horses.. She is only a kid and we all make mistakes...
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This was my first thought, i think she was sensible to separate them. I also agree about not moving someone's horse without their consent, but if you are sharing the field then it might need to work both ways? She might feel annoyed that you separated a section off to work with yours but she can't do the same? Think it's one of those situations that's hard to judge from the outside.
 
loisb501 said:
This was my first thought, i think she was sensible to separate them. I also agree about not moving someone's horse without their consent, but if you are sharing the field then it might need to work both ways? She might feel annoyed that you separated a section off to work with yours but she can't do the same? Think it's one of those situations that's hard to judge from the outside.
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Yeah, in essence my first thought was that I was glad she had decided to separate them too...I did consult with her first before fencing off the end bit and told her she was welcome to use it to school or ride in..she also kept her pony in it last summer for a bit whilst she was very overweight...so feel I've tried to be relatively fair there...
these things are always hard to judge from outside, but appreciate the range of opinions on this forum, as ever... :)

I better make another batch of chips!! :D
 
loisb501 said:
This was my first thought, i think she was sensible to separate them. I also agree about not moving someone's horse without their consent, but if you are sharing the field then it might need to work both ways? She might feel annoyed that you separated a section off to work with yours but she can't do the same? Think it's one of those situations that's hard to judge from the outside.
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Totally agree, just because she's a teenager shouldn't mean she has any less rights if you both rent. Think you need to discuss it between the two of you but it seems she tried to be sensible about it & I would give her some credit for that.
 
haha..no chips for me!! Took the horsey out for a long hack then after rewalked it on foot to be good! I'll have some air :p

why don't you try making the schooling bit a little bigger so it suits you all?? She will be able to jump etc. in it and won't mean any separating? Also mean's when you get your youngster going then you will appreciate it too :)
 
Mad_Cow347 said:
Totally agree, just because she's a teenager shouldn't mean she has any less rights if you both rent. Think you need to discuss it between the two of you but it seems she tried to be sensible about it & I would give her some credit for that.
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Yep, she has just as much right as me, yep I was glad she separated, yep when I spoke to her Mum to find out what had actually happened, I told her I was happy for her to do that...(so am happy to give credit for it) except that it's probably not a good idea in future as my excitable youngster (presumably) jumped out, the fence is now trashed so we will all have to find another compromise that works for all of us. Oh and yep, have tried to discuss it, and if she rings me tomorrow, we will...;)
 
loisb501 said:
haha..no chips for me!! Took the horsey out for a long hack then after rewalked it on foot to be good! I'll have some air :p

why don't you try making the schooling bit a little bigger so it suits you all?? She will be able to jump etc. in it and won't mean any separating? Also mean's when you get your youngster going then you will appreciate it too :)
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Aha, ok, air for you then! Notice not many are taking me up on the beer either! What a healthy crowd!! :D

Making the schooling bit bigger is a really good idea, thank you - the fence is pretty trashed as it is...I think that's the compromise we all need! :)
 
Cobiau Cymraeg Wyllt said:
Yep, she has just as much right as me, yep I was glad she separated, yep when I spoke to her Mum to find out what had actually happened, I told her I was happy for her to do that...(so am happy to give credit for it) except that it's probably not a good idea in future as my excitable youngster (presumably) jumped out, the fence is now trashed so we will all have to find another compromise that works for all of us. Oh and yep, have tried to discuss it, and if she rings me tomorrow, we will...;)
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Apologies if you've taken my reply wrongly but you asked for opinions on whether whether she was in the wrong but I don't think she was. Which I think it what most of the above have also said, didn't mean for it to come across against you which is how you seem to have taken it.

I just always find that teenagers get a lot of stick on this forum (no I'm not one but do have teenage siblings) and feel that someone should stick up for them.
 
I dont see any issue with why you asking the girl questions about what went on today especially if your ponies are affected would be nagging atall. When you talk to her tommorrow and if your suspicions are confirmed it may be worth agreeing between yourselves how things will be managed in future, to suit you both. Either way, it would be good to have some kind of reasurance. Maybe even speak to her and parents so they know what the agreement is as she could potentially be putting herself in a dangerous situation. Shes young and having fun but may not realise your concerns.

I have to say at least you are willing to call her and talk unlike some :)
 
Actually think that OP hasn't teenage bashed at all, but has asked a question, listened to all replies and is working towards a compromise with her sharer that will work for both parties. All rather grown up, sensible and lacking in drama! Not sure what anyone else needs to get upset over........?
 
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