am I a brat?

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There's a girl at my yard who has her own horse. Not had it long. She's clueless. Keeps putting pictures of my cob on her facebook with little captions and love hearts. Not too much of a problem. My dream horse got delivered friday and now he's plastered all over it too. Thing is he's my dream horse and he got delivered to me. Additionally I have a whole section to myself and he bites so I now have this clueless girl and her extended unhorsey family poking round my very nervey known to bite baby horse. I'd really rather not have but am I being a brat about the pictures?
 
Sounds like she has a bit of a "crush" on you. Perhaps you could offer her a bit of help and guidance with her horse and as she gets more confidence in herself, perhaps she will leave you alone a bit more. Take it as a complement, regarding the biting, you will have to be a bit firmer here! As for the photos, encourage her to put more of her own horse on FB, it may well be that if you help her get going with her own horse she will be too busy to hang around yours.
 
I would find it a bit weird if other people took pictures of my horses then put them on the internet! Wouldn't be too impressed if people kept hanging around them either...maybe I'm also a brat!
 
I would feel that my horse had a stalker! If she has a horse of her own let her plaster his pictures on to her heart's content!
 
Younger than me but lives much older than her age if that makes sense. I have tried to help with her horse, just the basics like 'it's better to feed after u ride so she doesn't get ill.' but it falls on deaf ears. Nice enough girl. They're not even flattering pictures of my baby though. Gloomy evening stable shavings in his mane and not a hint of matchy matchy anywhere!
 
There were a few young girls on the yard who used to do this with my horses, I just used to point out how cute their horses were and asked if they were going to put pics up of them too. If your horse bites I would ask her to stay away from his stable or get her on side and ask her to help you make sure people stay away from him while he's going through a biting phase
 
Maybe she is putting pictures of your horse on there as an invitation for you to comment on them and thus open some Facebook conversation with you. I would just add your own comment to the pics, and behave as if you thought she put them there for you to comment in a friendly way. It is quite a harmless thing to do, no point letting yourself get worked up about it.
 
I would hate it if people took pictures of my horse and put them on the internet, I don't want anyone knowing the location of my horse or who he is etc. I would tell her to take them off, tell her parents you find it inappropriate or report it to facebook?
 
Spotsrock said:
There's a girl at my yard who has her own horse. Not had it long. She's clueless. Keeps putting pictures of my cob on her facebook with little captions and love hearts. Not too much of a problem. My dream horse got delivered friday and now he's plastered all over it too. Thing is he's my dream horse and he got delivered to me. Additionally I have a whole section to myself and he bites so I now have this clueless girl and her extended unhorsey family poking round my very nervey known to bite baby horse. I'd really rather not have but am I being a brat about the pictures?
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Speak to your yard owner about them poking around your horse - and ask him/her to ask them to stop.

And then speak to the girl herself and ask/tell her to stop posting pictures of your horse on FB.

All quite simple really :D
 
Miss Bean said:
I wouldn't want somebody else putting pictures of my horse on the internet
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ditto, I'd be furious actually if someone did, event photography is a little different, but photos of you horse in a private, non competition environment, pee'd off wouldn't describe it!
 
A polite note on the door of your new horse saying not to feed as he will injure people with his teeth often gets folk to stop titbiting horses.

As for posting photos on her page, write that 'your' horse is very handsome and you think it is very sweet that she likes him so much that she needs to post photos of him.

Sounds like she is hero worshipping you.
 
If this is a hild I would say to parent she needs to stop posting pics if your horse. And yell ten all to stay sway from your horse ad it needs to settle, and put s stop to it as it clearly makes you feel uncomfortable or you wouldn't be posting on here.
 
I think if you find it uncomfortable, you should ask her to stop.
I do a similar thing. I don't know if you've seen my posts about Ned, or all my photos and drawings of him...but he's not mine. His owner doesn't mind and I have asked her, in fact I think she rather appreciates all the work I do with him and all the stuff I buy him and I know she loves the pictures :)

Anyway, I hope you can sort it out!
 
How old is she OP? sounds to me like she just looks up to you. Take it as a compliment.

My YO and I are always taking photos of eachother Horses and posting them on FB. For example my YO was saying how she is yet to see one of her foals lie down, so I snapped a photo of her foal lying down as YO wasn't up yard to see. I tagged her in the photo though. In the snow, my YO took photos of my Horse and put them on FB too. Doesn't really bother me. But yet again YO is one of my best friends and I ride her Horses and she rides mine.
 
Sounds hero-worshippy to me. Rather harmless. I've posted photos of other people's horses on my page - normally friends' horses who are tagged in the photos - and other people have posted photos of mine. I'm surprised by how many people object to that. I wouldn't post photos of some random person's horses if I wasn't friends with them on fb - what would be the point? :confused: But if a friend takes a photo of one of mine, I'd like to see it!

Actually handling the horse is different - just have a word and say no, it bites - or get YO to do so / put a note up on door.
 
I let a girl ride my pony while I was on holiday and when I came back she added me on Facebook, tagged herself in loads of photos of him (the ones without me in!) and was basically referring to him as my new pony all over her profile and writing all about how much she loved him!! Was quite sweet but got a bit annoying when she started demanding to know when she could ride him next as he obviously loved her riding him so much! She was only young though so I didn't really mind but I guess maybe I did feel a touch of the green eyed monster, he's MY pony ;)
 
LaurenBay said:
How old is she OP? sounds to me like she just looks up to you. Take it as a compliment.

My YO and I are always taking photos of eachother Horses and posting them on FB. For example my YO was saying how she is yet to see one of her foals lie down, so I snapped a photo of her foal lying down as YO wasn't up yard to see. I tagged her in the photo though. In the snow, my YO took photos of my Horse and put them on FB too. Doesn't really bother me. But yet again YO is one of my best friends and I ride her Horses and she rides mine.
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I think the difference between OP and you is that yourself and your YO are friends! Your case in normal but OP seems more acquittances with this girl.
To be perfectly honest, if I kept my horse on a rs (even though you don't) I'd keep a warning sign of biting or contagious illness that my horse has. Sounds stuck up but I've seen what kids do to livery horses on yards and I would hate to seem them fiddling with my horse like that!
 
In these days of everyone photographing every aspect of their lives and putting them online, I don't think this is unusual.

People post photos of other people (never mind their horses) on Facebook and there's nothing much you can do about it. Facebook won't act unless it's something quite extreme. They say they won't remove a photo someone's posted of you just because you don't like it. You can untag but you can't remove the photo.

I wouldn't care if someone posted photos of Mollie. If some teenager wanted to do one of those awful edited photos of her covered in hearts :rolleyes: I'd just ignore it.

However if children were handling her against my wishes, I'd be speaking to the YO.
 
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