Am I being mean - honest opinions

[rockysmum]

OK, finished work at 2pm, haven't finished my Christmas shopping, wrapped any presents, cleaned the house or done any food yet.

Gets a phone call on my way home, someone who used to be on our yard has bought a new horse, vetted today, and wants it collecting from about 80 miles away NOW or tomorrow morning latest.

My Disco has a flat battery as it hasn't run for a couple of months. Also I would prefer not to start running it again with a 160 mile round trip with trailer and horse. I usually run it around local for a few days to make sure nothing is going to go wrong.

I could jump start it and take a chance but its raining hard and the trip is down the M62 which I hate at the best of times.

Dont like to see anyone stuck but I have said no.

Surely they should have planned for it passing and arranged something before now. I could probably have sorted something if I knew a few days ago.

If it was an emergency, vet hospital or something, I would risk it.

Am I being mean

 

[cptrayes]

Good grief!!! At this time of year? I would only do that to save a horse's life.

 

[Equilibrium Ireland]

No. Sometimes it's ok to say no. Like you said it's not an emergency.

Terri

 

[mik]

No you are not. You are being sensible. last minute request, can't do it, sorry but I am unable to etc etc. Forget it and get on with your day.

 

[Suffolkangel]

I dont think you're being mean, I think you're being sensible with regards to your disco. Also by getting said horse vetted there was a good chance she would buy so she could have spoken to you a few days ago to orgainse something, rather then putting you in this situation where you now feel bad...

 

[fizzer]

Not at all. Rather rude I would say. The vetting had obviously been arranged so surely this person should of arranged the transport before hand. Some people have no idea.

 

[noblesteed]

No!!! They should have been a lot more prepared! Fancy paying for a vetting without having arranged transport first!!! They must have just 'assumed' you would take them... Not good...

If you don't want to offend them tell them your Disco battery is bust and you won't be able to get it sorted til after crimbo.

 

[Janette]

Only answer you COULD give really. Very inconsiderate of the person asking.

 

[MrsMozart]

Nope. Not mean, not unless you had said you would do it, which it doesn't sound like that was the case.

With all that still to do, the weather, the M62 (blah!), the time of day, the car issue - nope.

 

[yaffsimone1]

Not at all....you dont need the additional headache with the run up to Xmas, you havent had a chance to make sure the box is 100% perfect and if something went wrong, i know if it was me, i would be or feel responsible.

Here in Herts you can hire a rice trailer for £30.00 per day, maybe they can hire one??

 

[luckyoldme]

I would have been embarassed to ask.

 

[rockysmum]

Thank you

Nope. Not mean, not unless you had said you would do it, which it doesn't sound like that was the case.

With all that still to do, the weather, the M62 (blah!), the time of day, the car issue - nope.

No I haven't heard from this person since they left the yard just after the Great Yorkshire, I remember because I had to catch their old horse when they fell off in the ring.

 

[HarlequinSeren]

Definitely not being mean. Two days before Christmas is too awkward. What if the disco broke down en route, then what would happen? Its not an emergency and IMO it is a situation that can wait. Buyer should have organised her own transport if she was getting it vetted today, not relied on your good nature and a last minute phonecall.

 

[Pearlsasinger]

How rude of them!
I can't believe that any-one would expect someone to drop everything at this time of year just to transport a newly purchased horse. They'll have to hire a box.

I was pleased to read though that ours isn't the only house that isn't ready for Christmas Day, lol!

 

[be positive]

Thank you




No I haven't heard from this person since they left the yard just after the Great Yorkshire, I remember because I had to catch their old horse when they fell off in the ring.

Even more reason to say no, why did they not arrange something when they booked the vet, it would be easier to cancel at the last minute than to arrange it now, what a cheek.

 

[Ibblebibble]

not mean at all, if it was an emergency then different kettle of fish but person buying the horse should have got themselves better organised

 

[MrsMozart]

Thank you




No I haven't heard from this person since they left the yard just after the Great Yorkshire, I remember because I had to catch their old horse when they fell off in the ring.

Definitely nope in that case!

I used to get requests alll the time when I had Bessie Box, to take people here, there and everywhere, which I didn't mind at the time as it was fun, but when you get back after a long day out, when you've paid all the fuel, etc. ('cos I/it wasn't for hire) and they left me to clean out the back, then you sadly realise that people really can take the pee. It's different if it's an emergency, then no holds barred, etc., but in this case...! Do you shopping/cleaning/flobbing on the sofa lass and enjoy it

 

[MiJodsR2BlinkinTite]

I think you are being more than reasonable and don't feel you should beat yourself up over this.

If she wants her horse transported then surely it is HER responsibility not yours???? Its not like its a close friend or family member even is it; and I personally don't think you need to give any reason or justification for not doing it.

Personally I'd be telling her its not your problem and to find a commercial transporter to do the job. Simples.

 

[rockysmum]

Thank you all, I have been cooking (and looking on here) feeling bad. I wont anymore

Interesting point though, everyone has assumed its a HER, its not

 

[starryeyed]

absolutely not, agree with what everyone else has said! very, very inconsiderate of them to ask you so close to christmas, and surely they should have been more organised about transport if they were that serious about getting the horse?!! even if it was just to ring you and ask if there was any possibility, if you were available etc - still not really acceptable this close to the 25th though - how cheeky!
definitely don't feel at all guilty about it, if they want the horse so soon then they need to hire themselves a horsebox and get driving!

 

[MrsMozart]

Thank you all, I have been cooking (and looking on here) feeling bad. I wont anymore

Interesting point though, everyone has assumed its a HER, its not

We're not at all sexist, honest

 

[Mrs. Jingle]

Thank you all, I have been cooking (and looking on here) feeling bad. I wont anymore

Interesting point though, everyone has assumed its a HER, its not

Oh well there you go eh? I was reading this thread and totally gobsmacked that anyone would have the cheek - especially at this busy time of the year for all of us - but a man, well say no more.

 

[aintgotnohay]

id tell them to sling their hook or they come clean your house etc!

 

[SeasonalSituation]

No not in the slightest, they have been inconsiderate.

Forget it and enjoy christmas

 

[Goldenstar]

Thank you all, I have been cooking (and looking on here) feeling bad. I wont anymore

Interesting point though, everyone has assumed its a HER, its not

AH now I understand only a HE could think it was a good idea to ask you ,keep sorting ,wrap presents ,cook ,dusk ,look for fluffy towels etc etc and don't give it another thought and enjoy your Christmas .

 

[Wagtail]

No, it is him being mean! Fancy putting you in this no win situation. You don't want to do it, it is bad timing but saying no also makes you feel bad! Why do people do these things? I wouldn't dream of asking if it were me.

 

[MrVelvet]

is he a camp diva? He sounds that way

Don't feel guilty!!

 

[Renvers]

You're not mean, he is bloomin cheeky!

Two days before xmas when the roads are all going to be at their busiest the guy is an idiot! As others have said if you are interested in a horse that far away you already have a plan to get the horse before you pay out for a vetting.

 

[Jesstickle]

If anyone is being mean it is the man in question! What a blooming situation to put you in. Shows a complete lack of empathy IMHO!

Self hire is £100 a day. If he can afford to buy the horse and pay for the vetting he can afford to rent a box and do it himself!

 

[skint1]

Good grief!!! At this time of year? I would only do that to save a horse's life.

This we are in total agreement on. Sounds like your friend needs to adjust expectations and phone a horse transporter