Am I being selfish (horse related)?

Snowy Celandine

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Quick history - I have a much loved 12 year old 13.3 hh pony. We do Prelim dressage, few pleasure rides, lessons, hacking out, showing, schooling etc. I have not outgrown her either height or ability wise. I love her and could never think of selling her. However, I rather greedily decided to get myself a second pony (younger, bigger, more suited to dressage) with the agreement that OH came out hacking with me so that he could have fun and help me exercise the second pony. He is too big to ride my first pony.

We've had the new pony a few weeks and he is a good boy but a bit backward thinking and has to be ridden forward from the leg quite positively when you first get on but he will then settle down to the task in hand. He is going nicely for me, although his canter needs a bit of work and my instructor says that he has the makings of a nice dressage horse. So what's the problem you may ask

It is this - OH is a complete beginner who can walk, trot and canter but has no idea about working the pony on a contact and doesn't have a terribly secure seat, although the new boy has put in a few small bucks and OH hasn't yet been unseated . Like I said, he is a beginner so it's only to be expected. However, he has decided that he wants to 'do dressage' too and hacking out is no longer enough.

So, do I let OH learn to ride on this pony or will it make it harder for me to turn him into my new dressage pony?
 
Why don't you say, rather casually, that you are really pleased he is so interested in riding and you can both share enjoyment together and say that perhaps it would be a good idea for him to have some lessons on a schoolmaster to bring him up to a bit of standard that won't confuse new pony who is learning itself. Am sure he will understand. If he says he can learn on new pony say a novice on a novice is not a good idea and if he can get some basics together fairly quickly he can then do more with your new one.

In the meantime, if you are happy to, let him continue to hack out on your new pony and they can get to know one another. Good luck

Thank goodness my hubby is not the least bit interested in ever riding Archie x
 
I did think of that but I don't honestly think we can run to three on full livery :( I tried buying a field locally but the price was so overinflated that I simply wouldn't pay that much. I'd never be able to sell it on again if I ever needed to!

I may be able to rent some grazing land next year and could then definitely afford another horse for OH. All he really needs is something fairly quiet and it doesn't need to be in the first flush of youth either. My new boy cost nearly 5k and I would never have spent that much on a happy hacker. Ooh, there I go, Little Miss Selfish again :rolleyes:
 
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