Am I being unreasonable? Sharer...

[Mince Pie]

I have a sharer that is supposed to do my cob 3 days a week. On her days she does his stable, haynets, water and makes up his feeds. She also rides and if I am about I'll give her a lesson (usually am as I have my TB to do) - she is a total novice so I am teaching her everything: basic horse care, how to muck out, riding lessons (can't canter yet) etc.

For this she pays £60pcm.

Now she has started messing me about, not turning up, expecting to ride and not do chores, trying to get out of paying if she isn't doing him etc.

Feel like turning round and telling her to naff off! But am I being unreasonable?

 

[tasteofchristmaschaos]

If you can do without the money, go for it. Sounds like shes getting a good deal and is causing you hassle.

 

[Goldenstar]

No sounds like time for a frank exchange of views

 

[Sussexbythesea]

No your not being unreasonable, ask her if she wants to continue to share and remind her what the deal is if she wishes to carry on - if not then say your goodbyes.

I've been on both sides just be honest and up front.

 

[MiCsarah]

Good deal! People should be biting your hand off for that deal!

 

[PennyJ]

Time for a full and frank discussion I think. She'd be hard pressed to get all that for £5 (or even £15/week) at a riding stables as I am sure she probably knows already.

 

[Echo Bravo]

Just give her notice and find someone else.

 

[Mince Pie]

Will do, when I can get hold of her. To be fair to her she does work long shifts and has 2 kids but I did make it clear to her what was expected when she took up the share. Such a shame as she is such a lovely person I just don't think she fully understood just how much work was involved in looking after a horse!

 

[smellsofhorse]

Tell her to naff off!

Not commited and not worth the hastle.

 

[Jazzy B]

no have a chat and if she doesn't step up get rid of her she's got a brilliant deal!

 

[The Fuzzy Furry]

or, ask for £25 each time she rides........

She'll soon make up her mind

 

[Goldenstar]

Will do, when I can get hold of her. To be fair to her she does work long shifts and has 2 kids but I did make it clear to her what was expected when she took up the share. Such a shame as she is such a lovely person I just don't think she fully understood just how much work was involved in looking after a horse!

Then it may be that the sharing has proved to her that she has not time at the moment it sounds as though you like her so all you need to do is discuss it it's a busy time of year for a working mum so perhaps she's been overwhelmed.

 

[Mince Pie]

She was helping over the summer with my friends yard so had an idea. also she managed fine before the weather turned...

 

[rascal]

Time for a chat.
We had sharers that were brilliant, also the last ones that were a true nightmare!! Hubby wants someone to ride his mare but after the last lot i wont have anyone else at the field. They were liars, theives and we didnt see the £50 a month for the ponys rent. When we got rid, they refused to give back the tack and keys, and stole our three yard cats!! Only reason i diddnt call the police was because she was such a good liar.

 

[indi4]

I would have a chat with her and ask her if she still happy with with arragement and reminder her what is expected, and make sure she's happy to continue. if not i'd be looking for someone else.

 

[Tickles]

What indi4 said.

Perhaps suggest a contract (if you don't have one) or a review of the one you have.

It may/may not be enforecable but it sets expectations really clearly and then makes it easier for you to give notice.

As a sharer I'd appreciate an informal chat first then being given notice before you started looking around for a replacement.

 

[Mince Pie]

I have literally got off the phone with her, and have told her how I feel. I will give her til the end of Jan to buck her ideas up before terminating the share.

 

[skydancer]

Feel like turning round and telling her to naff off! But am I being unreasonable?

If you feel like telling her to naff off - go ahead and do so! Jeeze people just want the earth dont they!There are plenty of people out there that would love the opportunity you are offering

 

[frozzy]

Over the years we have had various teenagers who turn up wanting to "help" with the ponies (we breed Welsh B and C's a fair few of which are broken to ride) in exchange for lessons and even taken a few showing. The initial enthusiasm wanes somewhere around end of October/beginning of November just as the weather turns and we really could do with a hand.
More hassle than they are worth, kick her into touch.

 

[LiveryList]

Do you have a sharer agreement- this would clearly lay out her responsibilities and that even if she does not undertake them she still needs to pay you (kind of in lieu of the inconvenience it takes you to do him instead). This is always worthwhile and i have always done this with my sharers before. I've also always got them to pay me a month in advance so even if they dont turn up, in theory they have alreday paid. If you dont feel it is working out you can give her say a fortnight to improve and if it doesn't then i would knock it on the head as she obviously doens't have the interest in your cob you would like her to have?!