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ok before i go have words with the farmer i'd like to know what you think of this situation:)
I livery on a farm, there's about 8 liveries and we all have our own fields and are free to ride around the main part of the farm. A couple of months ago a guy with 2 horses came on the farm, he's ok but when he rides one of the horses around the farm he has the other one completely loose! supposedly following him but generally it goes where it wants then goes hell for leather to catch up with him.

now my problem is, and a few of the others feel the same, is that he has no control over the loose horse, none of us feel safe riding if he is there because you never know where his loose horse is going to be and no one wants a loose horse bothering theirs while they're trying to ride:mad: Certainly the couple of us who have kids who we take out round the farm don't want to get tangled up with a loose horse, accident just waiting to happen.:mad:
So would it be unreasonable of me to ask the farmer to have a word with him?
 
No not unreasonable at all , i think the guy is being pretty selfish IMO , if he wants to exercise two at a time - great - but he's got to have control over both horses , it's not much to ask and really i can't see why he would do this ( appart from the fact he's probably got an ego bigger than NATO and thinks he looks cool :D )
 
Nope not at all, he sounds like a nutter! What kind of farm is it? Is there also a risk to his stock/crops being damaged, might help putting that across too :)
 
not unreasonable at all :). Personally however I may consider speaking to the livery before the farmer as you dont want him to think you went behind his back to "bitch about him" not the case at all of course but people's perceptions can be funny. Certainly if I was on a livery and was doing something without realising which was causing another livery an issue I'd rather they spoke to me first about it :). If you explain gently and also point out the fact that you're concerned about the kids' safety then if hes got any decency he will understand. If not then I'd take it up with the farmer... others may do differently but that would be my way as I know what I'd prefer in his shoes :)
 
OMG no certainly not unreasonable!! That's bad enough of him to be doing that anyway when other people are riding in the vicinity too, but with kids being around too it is all the worse!!! I am not yet a mother myself but my OH has two young children who we take to the yard sometimes and I certainly wouldn't be happy with that going on!
 
Tinselface said:
Nope not at all, he sounds like a nutter! What kind of farm is it? Is there also a risk to his stock/crops being damaged, might help putting that across too :)
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Its a beef farm so we're all quite used to contending with cows lol, they usually leave us alone as they're used to us, ;)

He is rather an odd chap but i try not to let that cloud my view on what he does, if he's not riding the nutty arab he's driving the other one in a trap and lets the arab run free:rolleyes: seems to have an aversion to wearing a hat as well, perhaps a previous fall has already had an effect:eek:
 
I would speak to the livery before the farmer,he might take no notice , probally will take no notice as he's clearly wired differently to most of us.
Then you will have to speak to the farmer but if it's a nice place to keep your horse tread carefully I have seen myself how the complainer even though clearly in the right can end up being the bad guy you would need to try to get the other liveries to back you up.
OH's friend is a farmer not horsey but has a few liveries when these things happen ( not quite as insane as that though) he will sometimes ask me because I have horses what I think .
It's clear to me that often he views the complainer as the problem as it interferes with hie quiet life. I am not saying do nothing you must seek to sort it but I am saying tread gently if you love the farm.
Good luck
 
Goldenstar said:
I would speak to the livery before the farmer,he might take no notice , probally will take no notice as he's clearly wired differently to most of us.
Then you will have to speak to the farmer but if it's a nice place to keep your horse tread carefully I have seen myself how the complainer even though clearly in the right can end up being the bad guy you would need to try to get the other liveries to back you up.
OH's friend is a farmer not horsey but has a few liveries when these things happen ( not quite as insane as that though) he will sometimes ask me because I have horses what I think .
It's clear to me that often he views the complainer as the problem as it interferes with hie quiet life. I am not saying do nothing you must seek to sort it but I am saying tread gently if you love the farm.
Good luck
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thankfully hubs and myself get on very well with the farmer, would class him as a friend so i'd be able to talk to him without him taking it the wrong way and he knows i normally try to keep out of the normal squabbles:) usually go for coffee with him on a saturday so will have a word, just wanted to check the general view was similar to mine regarding the guys idea of 'loose schooling'!!:D
 
Ibblebibble said:
ok before i go have words with the farmer i'd like to know what you think of this situation:)
I livery on a farm, there's about 8 liveries and we all have our own fields and are free to ride around the main part of the farm. A couple of months ago a guy with 2 horses came on the farm, he's ok but when he rides one of the horses around the farm he has the other one completely loose! supposedly following him but generally it goes where it wants then goes hell for leather to catch up with him.

now my problem is, and a few of the others feel the same, is that he has no control over the loose horse, none of us feel safe riding if he is there because you never know where his loose horse is going to be and no one wants a loose horse bothering theirs while they're trying to ride:mad: Certainly the couple of us who have kids who we take out round the farm don't want to get tangled up with a loose horse, accident just waiting to happen.:mad:
So would it be unreasonable of me to ask the farmer to have a word with him?
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If he wants to exercise the other pony, he needs to lead it off his horse. Not safe riding with a loose horse. I do not let my kids ride in paddock with other horses loose.
 
Definitely have a word with the farmer. If there are any public footpaths/bridleways across the farm and there is a loose horse out of control on one, the farmer will get into bother over it if it causes an accident. it would be one thing if it was turned out and grazing, or even just trotting along with the one he is riding, but if it is clearing off all over the place and galloping after him to catch up then it is a menace and the farmer needs to know before he gets trouble from it.
 
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