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evj

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In refusing to get rid of my 2 dogs because my **** of a fiance hates them? Bearing in mind they were here first and he knew i had them when he moved in! He thinks their dirty and naughty! There two very small non shedding dogs who can be a bit yappy but are good as gold. Today I've been given the ultimatum of the dogs go or he does. Im sick to death of him and his constant moaning about them :-(
 
You are NOT being unreasonable, you and your dogs are a package and if he doesn't like it then he should take a running jump!!
 
Jeeze, you mean his stuff is still at your house? If it'd been me it would already be in bin bags out on the pavement. Controlling sod. Tell him to get lost. Life's too *******ing short for babyish ultimatums like that. Who the hell does he think he is???? *Fully outraged on your behalf!!!*
 
I've told him to go which he's refused to do. Im also wondering what he'll start on next! He's had dogs before which his ex kept when they split and he loved them to bits according to his family. He reckons its because we have a baby and he doesn't want them near her. If id known he would be like this we wouldn't have got together, he was falsely advertised as a dog lover!
 
Blimey, yet another ****head. There seem to be a lot of them out there at the moment. OP, no, you are not being unreasonable.
 
evj said:
I've told him to go which he's refused to do. Im also wondering what he'll start on next! He's had dogs before which his ex kept when they split and he loved them to bits according to his family. He reckons its because we have a baby and he doesn't want them near her. If id known he would be like this we wouldn't have got together, he was falsely advertised as a dog lover!
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Ahhh, you have a baby with him. That makes things a bit trickier. I love that he gives you an ultimatum then refuses to leave! If he genuinely has concerns about the dogs around the baby then a compromise is appropriate. Tell him you are not getting rid of your dogs but do understand his concerns and ask him what would make him feel better about the dogs being there with the baby. You need to talk. BUT - don't take any crap!!! As long as you offer to compromise - the ball's in his court.
 
I think its the other way round - he is the unreasonable one!

My boyfriend isn't an animal person and I have an unwiley JRT who he claims to not like but I often find them cuddling on the sofa :rolleyes:.
 
I would be packing his bags and leaving them outside at this. My ex and I argued about our horses constantly, we had a number between us, but even he was never stupid enough to say them or me! Door, wooden thing, GOODBYE!!
 
The dogs are as safe as any dogs can be. I have 3 older daughters who the dogs were brought up with and they don't show any interest in the baby. He's just saying any thing to get rid. I have made compromises, dogs no longer allowed on sofa or in bedrooms which they did before he moved in. Im fuming with him.
 
The house is mine so Im not going any where. He has been told I'll choose the dogs over him which i told him when he first moved in. We've only been living together since august and if its like this now i dread to think what it'll be like further on down the line.He can't understand why i won't get rid. Also doesn't think my 4,6 &11 year olds will be heart broken even though they adore them.
 
Sorry but it sounds like he doesn't think much of you. He knew the dogs were part of you and your life before he was on the scene. I could understand it if the dogs had done something bad - but it sounds like you have already compromised so you can all live together with the baby.

I can't help wondering if he is asking you to get rid of your two dogs when he knows they mean so much to you - what is he going to be asking next if you give in? He moved into your home. If he keeps going on about it - does he really want you as the whole package? Dog lovers usually always want a dog companion?

Sorry - sounds like a rubbish situation. Do not let him bully you!
 
tell him to *insert appropriate expletive* off. Then pack all his things and dump them outside. Then change the locks. Give spare keys to the dogs and none to him.

I like the idea that he was falsely advertised as a dog lover, btw ;)
 
I'd be telling him to do one! Idiot! The dogs are part of the family so if he wants to be part of the family then he needs to get used to the dogs.
 
His behaviour is that of a bully and a controller. I got rid of my 4 cat's when I met my ex, just because he wanted me to as he hated cat's...I have alway's regretted it, even though they all went to my Mum's and I still saw them.

I'd be worried about this relationship if I were you, well him actually.
Telling you to get rid of your own pets soon after living together is one of the first signs of the controlling behaviour which undoubtly will follow. And it will get much much worse....trust me x
 
tell him the dogs are staying, he however is free to leave whenever he likes!!
only once have a put a bloke before a pet, bf told me it was him or the new puppy and stupidly i chose the bf:rolleyes::o then the sod left me 3 months later anyway:mad:
 
I would never let a boyfriend dictate to me like that. difficult for you as you have a baby together and other children.

Good for you though for not getting rid of your dogs like so many people do when circumstances change :) Stick to it and he'll learn to compromise where they are concerned.

My dogs are my main priority (even before the horse i'm afraid :o).
 
I've told him dogs are staying and if he doesn't like it then to leave. At the minute i can't see things working out, he's been on dole since Jan and I've had to go back to work early from maternity leave because he won't swallow his pride and get any job going. He's getting to stay at home with baby and does nothing but complain. She's very good and his mam has her a lot. Id love to be at home looking after her with a baby sitter when ever i wanted so him complaining is really rubbing salt in.
 
Quite literally 'me or the dog' then? :eek:

Sounds like a control freaked BUT might be worth taking an objective look at your dogs tho. I love dogs (got labs) but cannot stand spoilt yappy little rats. You might love your fluffy wuffy rat-dogs, but everyone else may be wishing make them into fur gloves:o ESPECIALLY if they're "a bit yappy". Have you actually discussed his issues with the dogs?
 
Having read your update, just a thought and probably not an issue, but if he is at home when you aren't and he resents the dogs, is there any chance he would abuse them?

That would be my concern and I would take steps to protect them. He needs to man up - get a job that gets him out of the house and take the pressure off of you a bit, never mind telling you what you can and can't do in your own home FFS! :mad:
 
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