Am I completely crazy?

[soulfull]

I guess like most of you I've had several horses over the years.
Until now all geldings.
2 of the geldings where similar in their communications with me. Ie I found myself chatting to them a fair amount about nothing at all. They were both cheeky chaps. One especially so, he loved life, anything and everything was fun. Didn't have a serious side to him at all. The other liked to have fun but something's especially dressage were boring
The other one well he was introvert and only interested in himself

My mare however is totally different. I started off all chatty with her. But as I've got to know her. I've found I only talk to her if I've got something to actually say.
She not a chatty mare. She is sensitive and quiet and extremely cuddly. She prefers snuggles to scratches. Quiet time is her favourite. But she doesn't mind all the goings on of a busy yard. Sometimes She likes to watch and sometimes she stands quietly in the back if her stable

Yet despite this quiet nature her most favourite thing is going to gallop. She is very forward going and a fun ride

I found it very interesting how she has subtly changed me from a quietly chatty owner to a speak only when you've got something to say

Am I going completely crazy?

 

[TheoryX1]

No, not at all. I think we all 'talk' to our horses to a greater or lesser extent, whether we do it consciously or not. To be honest my daughter and myself have always had geldings as well, but have owned my daughters mare for the last six years. She is very similar in character to your mare oddly enough, but she is very, very feisty as well. She loves a cuddle, but has also earned the name of 'The Bitch', simply because she is so food orientated and will come at your over the stable door with teeth bared if she is hungry. Has never bitten anyone, and will back off if told off, but it looks threatening. I do have some lovely 'chats' with her, but shes very much my daughter's horse and makes that clear. I am only there to muck out and feed etc!

As for my gelding, I have owned him 10 years and we do communicate with each other, but on his terms. If he was a human being he would be a Phil Mitchell type of person, but he does love his mum, but if private only, so nobody else sees that side of him if you understand. I know what he is thinking pretty much most of the time, and I do chat away to him, and he knows all my secrets as well. He is a stoic boy where pain is concerned, but an arthritic flare up changed that for him. Long story short, I had to call the vet out because he could not move himself as he was in so much pain. I dragged my mounting block into the stable and sat on it while I was waiting for the vet to turn up. He rested his chin on my head and all I could hear was screaming in my head and the words, help me said over and over again. I had to pop to the loo and my daughter moved and sat where I had been and he did the same and when I came back she was in floods of tears and told me she had had the same experience. When the vet comes, I am now told its the nice man who helps him not to feel hurt.

You may all think I am crazy, but I am not. I do feel that we all have the ability to 'talk'; with our horses, and I think more of us do it totally without thinking about it. I can even remember our YO's mare having a gorgeous foal and I came to see her at a few hours old. I remember asking the mare if she minded me seeing her baby, can even hear the words I spoke, in front of another livery, and the mare just pushed the foal forward and seemed to say 'yes ok'.

Just go with it, if it works for her then absolutely fine, and its ok with you then dont worry about it.