am i over-reacting? hormonal or rational??

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i share a lovley little yard with a lovley lass & we get on like a house on fire, we have carefully managed the land so that our ponies do not kill all the grazing & have nothing for the rest of the year. in the beginning of may the bloke that rents the land (& we sublet from) brought a 2yo welsh B for his young daughter to learn to ride on, He has no idea & she is terrified of him (despite being quite sweet) now i know its his right to have an animalon said land but its now 2 acres of clay based grazing supporting 4 ponies, he hastaken the electric doen & let themhave the ru of all of it so now there s nothing left & they can now get to the old council fence of loose concrete posts & slack barbed wire that wont tension as ive tried & its only 3ft high! this bugged me lots but as i know it would take a lot to freak SWA into crossing fence line im not paniced.
since then ive lost 2 headcollars, 8 leadropes,reins off my show bridle & god knows how many brushes/hoofpicks ect.... all because i keep my stuff tidy & where i can find it (they dont then "borrow" mine) this is starting to really great now especially as they brought lice onto yard & then used all my coopers spray to deal with it meaning i had to go & buy more to get rid of the lice my lad caught from their horse but ive just lost the plot big time asa his elder daughter decided to ride said 2yo (dont go there!) & without so much as bothering to ask (or tell me since) they used my saddle & the reason im so angry my DAUGHTERS HELMET! she was evicted from side door at speed & landed on head she put my little girls hat back on shelf & has said nothing! ive started bringing things back home like tack & safety stuff.

sorry its so long but ARGH!!!!! am i over reacting on am i right this is not on? i love sharing with mate but am starting to think moving to the livery yard in village might be safer in the long run costs more in livery & will have to do twice a day rather than the once aday i do now (i do hers mornings & she does eves works best with kids/work) but the fuel & stress of loosing stuff would be less?

oh and if you got to the end of this well done sorry its become an essay.
 
I too would be very annoyed that they are using your stuff and effectively breaking it and not replacing stuff etc.
I can't believe the cheek of some people! :(
 
Nope, I dont hink you are over reacting at all!

Dont get me wrong his land so he can do what he wants but you do pay rent so should have some say in it too and this 2 yr old is his pony so as awful as it is you cant do anything about that either than tell him they shouldnt be doing what they are doing. However, using your stuff without asking is not on!

All in all I would be really narked too! The only things you can do is either talk to him and explain the issues with the fencing and equipment etc, just put up with it or move.

Really hope you sort it, your horses are to enjoy, maybe at the livery yard you would find someone else you could do shares with, there's always someone to ask! xxx
 
How does the lady you share with feel about things?

Just wondering if you could move together and rent another field.

Yes I would be very annoyed if things of mine got "borrowed" and especially when expensive things like hats borrowed and of course as she took a tumble in it now you have to buy a new hat for your daughter which is not fair at all.
 
i couldnt cope with this, it smacks of total lack of respect and i would constantly worry about what next. i would either move to livery or talk to friend about moving somewhere together but make sure you have some control.
 
I throw a tallyho! sized tantrum if I find things have gone awol... things magically reappear soon after :D:D:D

Don't be a doormat. Sort it out!
 
All Ican say is 'MOVE!' Your situation is completely intolerable and will probably just get worse. I expect that you will end up feeding the other pony in winter too. The poor little thing.
 
thanks guys, ive spoken up about the fencing & he just says but they have no grass where they were so i let them through. ive been scouring freecycle/ebay ect... for something i can lock stuff up in.

& the feeding ofsaid pony has already begun as he has been helping himself to feed/hay so i now keep it at home & take it with me days (my car stinks of garlic now)

who i share with isnt keen on moving as she keeps her 2 there for less than the price of 1 anywhere else & its across the road from her home, whereas i drive 9 miles to get there.

thinking the livery yard might be the best action but will be sad to go from good company,moving also means i wont have to see the sweet little lad turned into a mess by their incompetance & stupidity.
 
I would say, yes you are perfectly justified to feel as you do.

However, there may be just as many different things to annoy you on the new yard I'm afraid :(
 
hell i'd have a complete hissy fit lol!! their behaviour is downright rude and unacceptable, they may own the land but not your things!! i would definately move before their ignorance causes you an accident.
 
What about a galvanized dustbin that you can put a chain and padlock across the 2 handles. Dont be hasty and burn your bridges, it might be a 5 minute wonder with the pony
 
ive never had a problem anywhere else ive been to be honest, it just get on with my boy & leave everyone else to the bickering ect..

potential new yard is quiet & has large individual P&R feilds & then you can divide as you wish for rotaion/restriction, big stables & individual store rooms that can be locked (we can get carriage in there too) & its less than 5 miles from home so can bike it in nice weather.
hmmm seem to have convinced myself.
 
well im going to see the YO on monday morning to finalize & sign contracts, they are even going to collect him for me with their trailer later in the week (how nice is that) better get the last of my stuff rounded up & safely home before i tell him as whilst mate is lovley i really wouldnt put it past him to take stuff just to be spiteful.
 
I would always secure my stuff before giving notice, as when I gave plenty of notice at a place I agisted at, even though I normally always paid amonth in adavnce on the dot, I had about a week o/s, and they "hid" all my stuff to make sure I did not leave without paying. If that had been what I had intended to do I would hardly have given them notice. I was most unimpressed.
 
Agree with other posters about securing your stuff.

Borrowing the helmet, damaging it then putting it back, though - is terrible! That would be MY major complaint. If you didn't know what had happened, your daughter would be at risk because of their thoughtlessness!
 
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