Lammy
Well-Known Member
So me and YO have a good relationship and a good routine in that I do the morning and she does the evening - saves us having to only go up once a day and makes it easier all round. Great! I put hay out for her two when needed (separate fields), do rugs/fly mask/fly spray and in the winter turnout/bring in and do water when needed. Recently for one of hers I've been lugging the battery back and forth fields as we had a lot of ours nicked over winter which left us with just a handful. Fine, I don't mind that at all.
In the summer our horses have a day field and then they come back up the top at night to save them from expanding too much too quickly. My two share a field so at night all they have to do is grab the two of them, bring them down to their night field and switch the big girls fly rug over to a lightweight and take fly masks off. And depending on what paddock they are in, top up a water bucket. They only have to do this a couple of times a week as my sharer does it on the other days and there's two of them to do it (YO & daughter).
Now I love them I really do and I don't want to cause an argument but it feels like I put 10x more effort into their horses than they do with mine. Last night they didn't fill up the water bucket and so when I got there in the morning the bucket was empty. My old mare hadn't had a rug on (hadn't told me) and although she's only in a lightweight atm she's been shivering much more this year than she ever has and is also prone to tying up so keeping the rain off her at night is important to me and they know this. Well it rained in the early morning before I got up there and mare was cold, fly masks & rug had also been left in their day field where the mask (that I purchased at badminton so brand new!) had flown into the hedge. If it had landed a couple of meters to the left it would be out in the village somewhere god knows where!
I guess none of this really sounds like a big deal and if it had only happened one time I could probably let it go but it feels like they always do my horses half-heartedly (YO especially) and there have been plenty of other incidents like this. I always take care of their horses like they were my own and I'll always do what I think is best and let them know what I've done. I also always have to double check it's okay for them to sort my two horses out as they have often just thought my sharer would be down to do it or that I would when they know the deal we have and they know what days my sharer does (which have never changed!!)
It's just frustrating and I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick!! Please someone tell me I'm not overreacting ):
In the summer our horses have a day field and then they come back up the top at night to save them from expanding too much too quickly. My two share a field so at night all they have to do is grab the two of them, bring them down to their night field and switch the big girls fly rug over to a lightweight and take fly masks off. And depending on what paddock they are in, top up a water bucket. They only have to do this a couple of times a week as my sharer does it on the other days and there's two of them to do it (YO & daughter).
Now I love them I really do and I don't want to cause an argument but it feels like I put 10x more effort into their horses than they do with mine. Last night they didn't fill up the water bucket and so when I got there in the morning the bucket was empty. My old mare hadn't had a rug on (hadn't told me) and although she's only in a lightweight atm she's been shivering much more this year than she ever has and is also prone to tying up so keeping the rain off her at night is important to me and they know this. Well it rained in the early morning before I got up there and mare was cold, fly masks & rug had also been left in their day field where the mask (that I purchased at badminton so brand new!) had flown into the hedge. If it had landed a couple of meters to the left it would be out in the village somewhere god knows where!
I guess none of this really sounds like a big deal and if it had only happened one time I could probably let it go but it feels like they always do my horses half-heartedly (YO especially) and there have been plenty of other incidents like this. I always take care of their horses like they were my own and I'll always do what I think is best and let them know what I've done. I also always have to double check it's okay for them to sort my two horses out as they have often just thought my sharer would be down to do it or that I would when they know the deal we have and they know what days my sharer does (which have never changed!!)
It's just frustrating and I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick!! Please someone tell me I'm not overreacting ):
