Annoying Neighbours....

UnaB

UnaB

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So, my mums neighbours can be a real pain in the a$$. A bit of history.. All got on well when my parents bought the house, they even did the concrete base for the stables and fenced the paddocks for all. It all kicked off when they tried to buy a section of one our paddocks to walk their horses through in order to get to the fields they rented the opposite. Parents said no as there isnt a huge amount of grazing here anyway and they were wanting a fair bit. Neighbours got really angry about that and its spiralled downwards from there. The son has long since given up horses and helps run the family business which is construction or something.

Usually its ok, everyone ignores each other. But, sometimes they get ar$y, like when my mums house was for sale they kept pulling up the for sale board and throwing it on the ground. When she replaced it for about the 5th time they broke it in half and threw it into the front garden :eek: My mum lives on her own now and the son especially can be rather confrontational and aggressive so she just took the house off the market :( Their reasoning for destroying the for sale board?? It blocked their view of the road when they were coming out of the drive... yeah, really!!!

Anyway, just now had Una on the front garden for about an hour or so, just while i washed the car and did stuff in the garden. Had an eye on her the whole time so i know she wasn't disrupting anyone and just quietly grazing.

Just gone to get her in and they have removed one of the wooden fence panels seperating the two front gardens :eek: Just taken it off and it was propped up against the fence but its now blown over onto their drive... Just lying there now. So, theres a 4ft gap straight into their garden and then onto the road!!!!! Didnt come over to say they were removing it, so clearly they're just being spiteful and making a point about not wanting the horse here. She is only here to have her foal so its not like she's here permenantly!!

Anyway, not even going to go over there as im here on my own at the moment lol!! But, felt like having a rant... Why do people have to be so RUDE?!?!
 
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Oh UnaB - They sound awful! how is Una today? I take it she didn't go wandering...I hope your mum manages to move at some point...people like that just drain all the energy out of you sometimes!
 
That's horrible, who is responsible for that side of the boundary? Is electric fence slightly inside if the fenceline. We have some horrid neighbours who keep blocking us in with their car so I've been late for work before waiting for them to move it. I hate the spite of humans!
 
No, she was just standing by the gate into the back garden asking to come in, thank god!! Its a REALLY fast road so she could have got really hurt.

They have a habit of coming round yelling about random things so a bit apprehensive being here on my own!!! Wouldnt surprise me if they try to blame Una for it (they are the type, though how she'd remove an entire panel from concrete posts i dont know....) or just have a general rant about her being on the garden.
 
No idea who's boundary it is...? No electric fence as she was literally out there for about an hour and its a solid wooden fence, infact, here's a pic i took, you can see it in the background:

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Basically you have answered your own question,your parents excepted their help buidling stables ect:- what they could have done when the other people wanted to buy a strip of land going to their field was give them right of way but only for the time they owned the land and had it put in writing.
 
I would report your neighbour to the police for criminal damage.

Just call your local police headquarters, someone will come out to take a statement, check the evidence etc, then hopefully go visit your neighbour to have a word.
 
Take pictures so the police can see what they have done

Run a piece of electric fence along the boundary . First check whose fence it is, because if it is theirs then they can take it down at any stage.
 
That's just not on. So glad Una didn't get out and get hurt! As people who had horses themselves, surely they know very well that what they did is a danger to the horse. I gave up trying to understand people like that long ago.
 
That is a real shame that is has turned nasty :( did they just want access or grazing, not that it matters , however I can understand why they feel aggrieved but not to the extent they are showing.

I would have expected they just gave your mum the cold shoulder.

Chin up and be the bigger person, which you sound like you are being
 
I would ask to speak to them calmy to try and sort it out. Explain how their behaviour upsets you, and make it clear there is no malice on your side. Suggest that as you are neighbours, can you just start again? Suggest this would be more pleasant for you both.

Hopefully this will work. If it doesn't, the worst that can happen is that you will come out as the bigger person.
Very important - record the conversation secretly on your mobile. This way you have proof that you've tried to patch things up if it gets nastier.

If being nice doesn't work, and ignoring them doesn't work, then the best thing to do would be to shout louder than them! Make sure you never do ANYTHING malicious or nasty to them, and when they do to you tell them in no uncertain terms that it's not on.

Record ALL conversations.

This is just my view - obviously up to you what you do :)
Been in this situation myself with psycho neighbours and it's crap!

Good luck! :)
 
The access disagreement was about 15 years ago :D

Had a good long conversation with the neighbour. He apologised, said he didnt see the horse. Two of the pannels are cracked and bowing and he needs to replace them, apparently took the one out to measure it properly...

Annnnyway, he was really really friendly and even said he was sorry to hear about me losing my dog recently (no idea how he knew, i've not spoken to him in a couple of years!!), so... dont know what to make of it all. i remained polite though.
 
Yes, thought it best to have a chat rather than sit and moan about it LOL! Just asked him if there was a problem with the fence, all polite and friendly-like ;) but yes, amicable conversation and resolution.
 
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