Another sad loss

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Lottie7

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There seem to be so many sad posts on here recently. I cannot believe I am adding to them. It has come as a shock.

I lost my darling friend on Monday. After a short illness he suffered a haemorrhage. We knew he had various problems but that came as a complete shock.

I cuddled him on his bed in the lounge while we waited for the vet. He was very peaceful and I kissed his ears while the vet help him on his way.

He was such a big part of my life - I see and feel him everywhere.

Everything looks so bleak at the moment. I know I am only crying for myself because I selfishly want him back.

Somebody tell me when it stops hurting.
 
I'm so sorry for you, it's an awful feeling but at least you know you did the right thing for him.

Unfortunately, it is only time that will help, that and either having or getting another dog - who will never fill the gap or shoes of your previous one, they are all different. Just be careful you don't impulse buy as you might regret it later. I would give the dust time to settle if you can.

Thinking of you, hugs.
 
I know exactly how you feel, I feel so sad after having my baby put to sleep on Sunday. The life has gone out of the house even with my other two dogs here. I'm trying to get comfort from my happy memories but like you all I want is to have him back with me at the moment. I know it will get better for all of us who have lost pets recently but I don't know when. Big hugs to you and everyone else in the same boat.
 
So sorry to hear of your sad loss. Its 3 years since I lost my baby who was 17 years old. It still hurts everytime I think about her and always will.
 
I am so sorry to hear about you losing your dog. We get so attached to them, they are members of the family. It does get better, try and focus on the happy memories rather than his last few days.
 
So sorry to hear this, can totally empathise, keep feeling Rosie around too
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My thoughts are with you - I lost my dog in September at the age of thirteen - you never stop missing them or get over it - but one day you'll look back and smile. I never believe people when they say that but I know somewhere in my heart its true.
RIP
xx
 
Thanks so much everyone. I'm sorry to hear that so many of you are also suffering.

I've just had a breakdown at work. Thought I'd be OK here as it was the one place he didn't come with me. I just feel like I've got to keep it bottled - to most people up here (in London) he would be "only a dog". They just wouldn't understand to the point of nastiness.

I don't want to wallow in self pity - I'm 40 and never experienced grief like this before so I guess I've been lucky. Some animals just get under your skin.

I want to move the horses because I just see him everywhere I turn - lying on his rug outside the stable door, trotting along in front with his toy and his tail waving in circles, trying to squeeze through the gate first, lying on the grass and waiting for me to turn the horses out. It even chokes me to get out of the car and walk down to the yard without him trotting alongside. These just aren't happy memories.

Anyway, thanks for "listening" and I hope everyone feels better soon.
 
So sorry Lottie. It has happened to me several times now and it doesnt get any easier. Only time will heal your sorrow hunni, but talking about it also helps and there are some very wonderful people here on the forum who can empathise. Thinking of you x
 
Oh dear this is so upsetting. Our dogs are such an integral part of our lives and when they are no longer there life seems so empty without them. I really do feel for you. One of my dogs died 9 years ago and I have never really felt that I have completely gotten over his death, even all these years later.

Another of my dogs is 13 years old and I know that I will have to go through this again in the not too distant future and I am already have my moments of imagining how life will be without her.......I know it will absolutely break my heart.
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I feel so sorry that there is nothing anyone can do for you at this time of grief. It does get a bit easier as time goes on but that is no help to you right now.

I am sorry and I send you my heartfelt sympathy.

Tia x
 
Hi Lottie

I get the same feelings even now 3 months later. I thnk when I walk up the stairs he'll be there at the top waiting like always - when I hear a noise I think its him. I really do know how you feel. I am going to send you a few poems that I hope will help you as they did me.

I stood by your bed last night

I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying, you found it hard to sleep.

I talked to you softly, as you brushed away a tear.
"It's me, I haven't left you. I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here."

I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea.
You were thinking of the many times your hands reached out to me.

I was with you at the shops today, your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wished I could do more.

I was with you at my grave today, you tend it with such care.
I want to reassure you that I'm not lying there.

I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my nose on you, I smiled and said "it's me."

You looked so very tired as you sank into your chair.
I tried so hard to let you now that I was standing there.

It is possible for me to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty "I never went away."

You sat there very quietly, you smiled, I think you knew,
In the stillness of the evening I was very close to you.

The day is over, I smile, and watch you yawning,
And say "goodnight, God bless, I'll see you in the morning."

And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll rush across to greet you, and we'll stand side by side.

I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see,
Be paitient, live your journey out, then come home to be with me.

May I go Now?

May I go? Do you think the time is right?
May I say goodbye to pain filled nights?
I lived my life, done my best, an example tried to be.
So can I take that step beyond and set my spirit free?

I didn't want to go at first, I fought with all my might.
But something seems to draw me now to a warm and loving light.
I want to go, I really do. It's difficult to stay.
But I will try my best, so I can live for just one more day.

To give you time to care for me, to share your love and fears.
I know you're sad and afraid because I can see your tears.
I'll not be far, I promise that and I hope you'll always know,
that my spirit will be close to you, wherever you may go.

Thank you so for loving me. You know I love you to.
That's why it's hard to say goodbye and end this life with you.
So hold me now just one more time, and let me hear you say,
Because you care so much for me, you'll let me go today.

Hope these help you. XXXX
 
Well I've only just joined the forum and here I am sniffling!
So sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my old dog in August after a battle with cancer. I have had dogs all my life, and bred them for many years but it nver gets easier, and losing this girl left me shattered. I think because I got her just after my ex left and we had a terrific bond. I still have her daughter and 2 other dogs but miss her terribly altho it does get easier, and as a previous poster said I can now smile at some of the memories. Her daughter pined as well so we were a right pair, but happily she too is now fine, and is beginning to show some of her mums ways which she never seemed to do before. Keep your chin up.
 
I hope it does help. I am torn apart from the loss of my dog, the only thing that hold me together is the thought I'll meet him again one day. Its a particular type of pain losing an animal and once youve felt it it never leaves you. Some people dont take it seriously enough and often people dont understand and dont offer enough support. I would like to say to anyone thats lost a dog feel free to PM me to talk and have a cry too
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Thanks so much Welshie. I've read them twice - couldn't see through the tears the first time.

Thanks also to everyone for letting me know I'm not going mad.

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