Anyone else cried in a lesson?

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OMG, I am so embarrassed...
I was having a lesson yesterday with a fabulous visiting instructor, who I really rate. She asked me for right rein canter (which is a bit of a mental block for both me and my horse) and I got all flustered and he started trotting really fast and I just said 'I'm sorry, it's such a mental block for us, I just get all panicked' and then got all tearful! Like I was six!!
She was brilliant and handled it all like the pro she is, but it left me feeling like a stupid kid (I'm 35).
Please tell me I'm not alone in this...

Oh, btw, after a few more minutes, right rein canter flowed like silk :)
 
Haha I have a couple of times in a lesson when I couldnt control my horse into a fence and it wasnt fear, it was sheer embarrasment and being all flustered, as you said (which just made me more embarrased!). Glad you got right canter in the end...... I just fell off and gave up in the end :P
 
Oh yes, many times especially when work is being rubbish, life is rubbish, the world is rubbish and generally I'm riding like a sack of potatoes and my hands/legs seem to belong to someone else, lol!! At 29 I should know much better. I've had tears of joy too though, I love those moments when it all goes so right and everything is *perfect* :-)
 
Thinking on, I suppose crying is better than losing your temper and punching the saddle (which I have witnessed during someone else's lesson). Didn't know whether to laugh at the rider or feel sorry for the poor horse!
 
I have been very close to it and had to say to the instructor "I'm really not up for this this afternoon, will you ride him before I burst into tears". It wasn't about problems with the lesson though, purely something external.

Instructor very sweetly handed over fags and lighter and hopped up on the horse for me and gave him back when I'd calmed down a bit.
 
sarahann1 said:
Oh yes, many times especially when work is being rubbish, life is rubbish, the world is rubbish and generally I'm riding like a sack of potatoes and my hands/legs seem to belong to someone else, lol!! At 29 I should know much better. I've had tears of joy too though, I love those moments when it all goes so right and everything is *perfect* :-)
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Yep, for the above reasons! Last lesson I was feeling stressed, so of course things we usually find tricky were pretty much impossible. I was v proud as I actually didn't blub - it was a bit close though! I am just not a crier so no idea why lessons bring this out, my instructor is the nicest person ever too, hardly scares me into crying!
 
no, only walking the course, in collecting ring, jumping ring, on leaving the ring and at the presentation of rossettes( i did get one !)
 
Yep - have cried with fear and embarrassment in jump lessons, have even been sick after jumping a course during my BHS stage 2 exam. (It helps to breathe during the round I have since found out....).;):D
 
yes, oh god yes. more because the instructor was being a b*tch after a fall.

it wasnt really a fall, the girth was so loose the saddle swung round and i was hanging onto horses belly at a trot! and when i got off she ranted about how i hadnt tightened the girth properly when i had told her at the start of the lesson that it was at the top hole and couldnt go anymore and she checked it and said it was fine.. she had put the wrong girth on and didnt want to admit it!

she was a beast though, and all because in her words ''some of us have to work really hard at sitting naturally on a horse'' :o and thats my fault you ride like a deranged monkey and i dont?? its in my blood as far back as you can trace, id be worried if i didnt have a ''natural seat''!
 
Yes!! Have done once! I had taken my boy on a sponsored ride and he was really really naughty. Had a lesson a few days later and he was still really naughty. My instructor decided to sit on the fence and my horse took a real dislike to her sitting there and was being really stupid. He would trot towards her the stop, spin and then buck and jump around. He did this loads of times and I was sure I was going out the side door. After being shaken on the sposored ride then him being a t*t in the lesson I just burst into tears!! I asked my instructor to ride him and she said no get on with it! I am so glad I made him go past her as it gave me loads of confidence!
 
All the time, but I cry at anything. My instructor is really good with it though and now totally ignores my blubbering and carries on until I've got over whatever little difficulty I'm having then teases me for being such a wuss.
 
glosgirl said:
Yep, for the above reasons! Last lesson I was feeling stressed, so of course things we usually find tricky were pretty much impossible. I was v proud as I actually didn't blub - it was a bit close though! I am just not a crier so no idea why lessons bring this out, my instructor is the nicest person ever too, hardly scares me into crying!
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No, it is always the nice ones LOL - I'd be too terrified to cry in front of my usual instructor!!
 
newtothis said:
yes, oh god yes. more because the instructor was being a b*tch after a fall.

it wasnt really a fall, the girth was so loose the saddle swung round and i was hanging onto horses belly at a trot! and when i got off she ranted about how i hadnt tightened the girth properly when i had told her at the start of the lesson that it was at the top hole and couldnt go anymore and she checked it and said it was fine.. she had put the wrong girth on and didnt want to admit it!

she was a beast though, and all because in her words ''some of us have to work really hard at sitting naturally on a horse'' :o and thats my fault you ride like a deranged monkey and i dont?? its in my blood as far back as you can trace, id be worried if i didnt have a ''natural seat''!
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What a cow - she was lucky you didn't sue!!:eek::eek::eek:
 
Don't be embarrassed Flicker - on one memorable occassion I had a low blood sugar moment, nearly passed out in the saddle, then sobbed uncontrollably on my RI's shoulder for 10 minutes for no discernable reason. He was a bit non-plussed at the time but very nice about it.
 
I think the only time tears have actually flowed in a lesson was laughter!

Me and my instructor's husband laughed so hard we couldn't breath, and I nearly fell off!

She told us off and we just laughed more. I had to stop and compose myself. I can't actually remember why it was quite so funny.
 
sarahann1 said:
Oh yes, many times especially when work is being rubbish, life is rubbish, the world is rubbish and generally I'm riding like a sack of potatoes and my hands/legs seem to belong to someone else, lol!! At 29 I should know much better. I've had tears of joy too though, I love those moments when it all goes so right and everything is *perfect* :-)
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Yep as the above normally after a crap day at work and i take the baggage of life into the lesson with me, im learning to free my mind of everthing currently before i start riding...sometimes thats easier said than done!!:)
 
I've been very very close to it but have managed to hold it until off the horse. I usually end up being nippy to cover up how I really feel.
 
Yes I have, once with fear & more than once with frustration. One memorable time I was having the lesson from hell, Kizzy absolutely refused to go anywhere near the blue & white double, I struggled on manfully for ages while she reared, span round, refused & ran away with me. Coach adjusted her bridle to give me more control, she knew I had hold of her head, so she propped in front of the fence & I fell off. I got back on with encouraging words like "For Gods sake get a grip" ringing in my ears, gave her a smack & flew over the double & round the course still crying, snotty nose, hiccups the lot, after I jumped it once more he said to me, "I have never seen anyone cry that much & still be able to jump a course of fences".... & he's still teaching me, probably for entertainment value
 
your not the only one

had a bad accident a few years ago

when I get it wrong in jump lesson I often have a little cry !!!
try to hide it
 
Yes, many years ago, my then trainer threw his hands in the air and declared "it's no good, I can't teach you FEEL."
I cried in mortification and frustration and disappointment.
Now I know that it was his deficiency as a trainer, not my deficiency as a not-good-enough-yet pupil, that was the problem. A good trainer can teach feel, all it takes is time, patience, and enough know-how.
 
I've never cried in a lesson, if a Trainer made me cry I wouldn't have lessons with them again, I like to train with positive people who make me feel positive too!
 
Not in a lesson but I cried at the end of an XC course, to be fair I was absolutely terrified before I went and it was the first time I had jumped XC in 12 years after a spate of really nasty accidents. Bless the organisers though - it was a clear round XC day and I had loads of run-outs and refusals and they gave me a rosette anyway "for bravery"!!
 
Yes lots of times, through fear, frustration and laughter. And once or twice out of pride...

But I am unemotional about most things but riding really can get to the very heart of me.

t x
 
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