You're all lovely, and I think the decision has now been made. I have a couple of yard viewings this weekend and if either seems suitable we'll be moving her ASAP. I was in tears yesterday over this and I really have too much stress in my life already for this to be adding to it. I don't want to burn bridges however due to friendships on this yard, so I suspect I'm going to need to suck up all the comments about what my horse "needs" and stick with the line that it's about practicalities and nothing else. That will be hard for me to do as I am completely straight down the line as a rule (hence finding it so hard on this forum not to spill out every single detail of this sorry situation!).
I hope your viewings go well. I expect under your contract you will have to give a month's notice, In your position once I had found a new place I would arrange the horse transporter who will easily be able to load the pony on their own and just give notice (along with a month's rent) the night before in writing and walk away. You don't need to suck up comments. You are the client and you have just terminated your contract.
Many people with little experience buy a horse or pony. Your pony is old so knows the ropes. She is not a youngster which could cause a lot more problems. Caring for a pony is not rocket science. You do need to make mistakes and you will do. That is how you learn.
Move to a new place, turn the pony out as much as possible, let your daughter lead her around, take her for walks, play with her and then have another look in a couple of weeks. Life could well seem very different.
horsey people always believe their way is the highway.(post 29)
very very very true. The horse world is not a pleasant one. Some lovely people (obviously all those on here) but for the most part they are not. They have opinions and those opinions are always right and everyone else's opinion is rubbish.
Whatever yard you move to I expect you will get lots of opinions and bitchiness from the other liveries. A case of toughening up and developing a hard skin I'm afraid.