Anyone tried NLP for confidence issues??

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michelleyork

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Hi

Just wondering if anyone has tried NLP for over coming confidence issues?? I have tried a form of NLP in the past work wise and it worked then, but that was more rapport building etc...

The problem I have is that I get very anxious about 'new' experiences, and worry so much about the dangerous things that could happen I talk myself into a right state. For example I have a very irrational fear of a horse 'paddling' through a large spread and the both of us ending in the dirt face first. When I say irrational, it is because it has never actually happened to me!

I was competing a month ago and decided to go into the BN, but from the moment I woke up I had a horrible feeling that something was going to go wrong. Even up to the point of going up to the first fence I had that awful feeling in the pit of my stomach that we were going to get hurt. We got round in a double clear, unscathed I might add, but I refused to do any other classes as I still had that 'feeling'.

I really want ton conquer this, as these thoughts can lead to their own mistakes in things going wrong, not concentrating and being over cautious etc...

I am back riding in the last 9mths after having a 10years break - am I expecting too much from myself?

Sorry it was a bit of a ramble :(. Lovely bottle of pinot
 
Hi Michelle,

After a bad smash up 3 years ago whilst I was hacking outside, I have developed a total fear of riding in open spaces and hacking out.

As I am getting to the stir crazy stage of hating being in an arena I have been a brave bunny and booked myself on a course with Caroline Putis of Enjoy Riding, a 2 day hacking with confidence clinic later this month.

The mornings will be spent learning NLP, breathing, visualization techniques etc and the afternoons will be spent putting it all into practice hacking out on safe cobs:-))

I too have used NLP very successfully for work and thought this would be a way to go.

Fingers crossed hey and I will report back after the event :-)

And don't be too hard on yourself 10 years is a long break, when I got back into riding I was lucky in that I had a great buddy who was encouraging and there holding my hand all the way i.e. "thought we could do a beach ride today come on"

Confidence issues are total pants especially when you can remember being totally gung ho in the past!
 
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