Anyone use Cool Calm and collected for separation anxiety?

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Hello, my pony isn't spooky at all but can get VERY upset if any other horses are taken in from the field even if she has others all around her.

She's not a problem being the last one in the stable and this problem only occurs when she's in the field. It's not an option to leave her in as other liveries will turn out for a short period before getting their horse back in to ride. I always wait for that horse to come in before i turn mine out as she's happy to stay in but gets even more upset than normal if I turn her out only for her friend to be taken in half an hour later.

It's also not an option for the other livery to just get on and ride their horse from the stable as she is scared of it so will always turn it out first for around an hour (I assume in the hope it makes the horse calmer). I cannot leave mine in until she's finished riding as I have to go to work.

So has anyone had success with this product for this problem?

Grateful for any replies, thanks in advance.
 
I think that nothing will really help with the scenario you describe as it is the inconsistency that is upsetting her not being alone generally, a calmer may help but really you need a solution to her friend being removed, could the other livery put out some hay to occupy her while she rides or get in both rather than leave yours alone and turn out together after she has ridden rather than leave one horse alone getting stressed.
Otherwise would a different field be an option one where they don't get back in again or somewhere there is another horse in an adjoining field to keep yours company.
 
I don't think your mare is being unreasonable, there are lots who would not cope with their companion being taken away and I don't think anything you feed will help much.

Would the other livery turn yours out when she is finished if yours is ready? Or is yours ok to go out on own if she is then joined by friend? Otherwise a different friend? Mine would stress if his mare left him but since living with a boy he is fine about it!
 
Thank you both for your replies and yes I agree she's not being unreasonable bless her. The issue re fields is that mares and geldings are not allowed to be mixed which is a shame as she's not marish and i'm sure she'd be fine with boys.

We only have 3 mares and the other 2 ride together hence mine being alone :( the annoying thing is that none of the gelding owners turn out for a short time then bring back in and they work their horses and then turn out so much less upheaval.

The other mare went out at 7.40am today and the owner got her back in to ride at 9am so I kept my girl in until they'd gone for a hack and I turned her out around 10.30 as I knew the other livery would turn out around 11am and my girl could see all the other horses around her in adjoining fields in the hope she will learn to accept it a little more. She was much better and called a couple of times but didn't charge around.

Sadly the other livery would not turn mine out as it's a long walk to the field (it really isn't to me but is to the other livery) I fully accept she can work her horse whenever she likes but it's so frustrating when I can't turn mine out as I know she'll be getting hers back in. If she didn't do this I'm sure mine wouldn't be so unsettled as she does have others all around her.

It's such a shame as it's my perfect yard and close enough to walk to with indoor school etc but it's just this one livery's routine that upsets mine :( I've had 2 geldings at this yard who also didn't like being left out alone but it was never an issue as the gelding owners didn't do what this livery is doing and we'd all help each other to ensure no horse was ever left alone
 
Yes I did - I had a connie for a short while that suffered severe separation anxiety, and wouldn't travel or hack alone either.

C,C and C did nothing for mine, and I sold him in the end as couldn't get to the bottom of it.

Separation anxiety is a royal pita and would be the first question I would now ask if ever viewing another horse...
 
Thank you L&M tbh I didn't think it would be the answer but I've had a couple of people suggest it hence why I asked the question 😊 mine is perfect in every other way and if she had a routine I'm sure it would help as regards some days the other is taken away from her and other days it isn't 😕
 
You never know - it could work for yours, but certainly was a waste of money for mine.

A shame really as he was a lovely chap, and bombproof to ride in company, but ask him to be anywhere on his own, be it field/stable/lorry he turned into a panicky mess.

I was lucky to find him a home on a large yard, where he would always have company in his ridden work.

Good luck and hope you find a solution x
 
Ahh that's a shame for you but pleased you found him the right type of home 😊 my girl will stand in alone when all the horses on the yard are turned out and whether she can see them or not she's absolutely fine bless her and she will hack alone but is a little tense. It's a lot of money and a bit of a gamble so I will think on it 😉 thanks again.
 
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