Cash
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Sorry, not really sure if this is one for here or for the Soapbox- it IS horsy related!
I have 2 friends. One is my best friend from school, we spend a lot of time together and make each other laugh SO much. She is very very lucky in that she comes from a very horsy family, has her horses at home, two eventers of her own, just got a new lorry to get driven to BE in, etc, and she has a lot of friends from PC, but from what I can gather (I know a few of them fairly well too) it's mainly about competing/showing off about who has the best lorry, 5 point breastplate etc. Unfortunately she has a bit of a 'pony club diva' streak (
) which occasionaly flairs up (though I try to keep her grounded
) as she often finds it difficult to appreciate what she has and to not assume that everyone is as lucky as her.
Up until last year, I didn't have any transport, kept my (fairly decrepid, unwilling and certainly not Pony Club eventer type
) horse at a pretty rubbish yard. She was always very 'kind' about him, bordering on patronising. In the last year, I've sold my old horse, got an eventer on loan from a friend as an 'in between' horse (we're still looking for 'the one'), moved to a posh yard and got a sparkly new 511 trailer.
This has all obviously been GREAT, and i am very grateful to my parents!!
So i've found myself more in my friend's league, as i am more able to hold my own at competitions in terms of performance, and, superficial as it sounds, i fit in more than i did with my old horse (you try turning up to pony club showjumping with a 16.3, very furry, sweaty, panicky ISH who shouts to all the other horses in the collecting ring, then bulldozes through a load of 2'3 jumps
) as I have a smart little TB now who i love, and who happily tows me round a showjumpng course, just coz he like it
Then i have another friend, Friend 2, who was with me at the old cr*ppy yard with her veteran TB who can jump like hell and is generally just a star
a couple of months after I moved yards and sold up, she moved too, to a lovely little DIY yard which she loves, as does her horse. Still with me?
Now to the actual rant: as Friend 2 doesn't have transport, I do my best to make sure she and her horse can come with me and mine to as many events as possible. We both always have a good time, however we do in the actual competition, as we're both used to doing rubbish back when we were still struggling without transport at the old yard (her horse was unhappy and stressed at the old yard, but is now much more settled, and therefore performing better) TBH, so it's just amazing when we can go showjumping and get 1st and 2nd respectively.
My school equestrian team (which is a fairly informal set up, all the mums help organise and run things- my mum's the only unhorsy one so she does the accounts
) is having an XC clinic with a local eventer in Feb. It is organised by Friend 1's mum, as they are 'pally' with the eventer. It's always been said that we can bring friends and siblings who might be interested to join in and have a lesson, or whatever's going on- like I said, it's informal
so people have brought along their sisters with ponies or whatever, and it's always fine.
I said I should bring Friend 2, as I know she'd love to get some proper XC tuition, as she hasn't ever really had any.
Friend 1 has now basically said that Friend 2 shouldn't be allowed to come, saying she wouldn't be welcome (she goes to a different school) and that it's only REALLY meant for people from our school, no matter what people might say. I said fine, if Friend 2's not allowed to come, I'll just go for an XC school with her somewhere else. (Dad, who is trailer driver, limits outings to once a month really, and we are all preparing for an ODE in March, so Feb is the only chance we'll have to XC school)
Friend 1 has kicked off, saying 'Noooo come schooling with meeee, I'll have no fun if you're not there', 'Does she have to go everywhere with you??' and 'Why can't she hire a lorry and go somewhere by herself for a change??'- because, incredulously to you, darling, not everyone can randomly splash out £100 to hire a box for a day
-unfortunately friend 2 is not as well off as friend 1..just unfair really
I know exactly how it feels to feel like everyone else's stuff was better than my own- especially because for so long, Friend 2 and I were at our rubbish yard, plotting and planning ways to beg/borrow/steal (joking
) transport together, and dreaming about having our own, and actually going out and doing well at stuff, regularly.
And the icing on the cake- despite having all the stuff, I think Friend 1 is jealous, as Friend 2 is more naturally talented, despite not having a posh saddle or £400 boots.
WHY can she not just be less centred, and see things from others' points of view??????
So that's it, hugh load of completly boring drivel. Sorry to go on, feel free to tell me to stop being so boring
Just needed to vent. Sorry.
I have 2 friends. One is my best friend from school, we spend a lot of time together and make each other laugh SO much. She is very very lucky in that she comes from a very horsy family, has her horses at home, two eventers of her own, just got a new lorry to get driven to BE in, etc, and she has a lot of friends from PC, but from what I can gather (I know a few of them fairly well too) it's mainly about competing/showing off about who has the best lorry, 5 point breastplate etc. Unfortunately she has a bit of a 'pony club diva' streak (
Up until last year, I didn't have any transport, kept my (fairly decrepid, unwilling and certainly not Pony Club eventer type
Then i have another friend, Friend 2, who was with me at the old cr*ppy yard with her veteran TB who can jump like hell and is generally just a star
Now to the actual rant: as Friend 2 doesn't have transport, I do my best to make sure she and her horse can come with me and mine to as many events as possible. We both always have a good time, however we do in the actual competition, as we're both used to doing rubbish back when we were still struggling without transport at the old yard (her horse was unhappy and stressed at the old yard, but is now much more settled, and therefore performing better) TBH, so it's just amazing when we can go showjumping and get 1st and 2nd respectively.
My school equestrian team (which is a fairly informal set up, all the mums help organise and run things- my mum's the only unhorsy one so she does the accounts
I said I should bring Friend 2, as I know she'd love to get some proper XC tuition, as she hasn't ever really had any.
Friend 1 has now basically said that Friend 2 shouldn't be allowed to come, saying she wouldn't be welcome (she goes to a different school) and that it's only REALLY meant for people from our school, no matter what people might say. I said fine, if Friend 2's not allowed to come, I'll just go for an XC school with her somewhere else. (Dad, who is trailer driver, limits outings to once a month really, and we are all preparing for an ODE in March, so Feb is the only chance we'll have to XC school)
Friend 1 has kicked off, saying 'Noooo come schooling with meeee, I'll have no fun if you're not there', 'Does she have to go everywhere with you??' and 'Why can't she hire a lorry and go somewhere by herself for a change??'- because, incredulously to you, darling, not everyone can randomly splash out £100 to hire a box for a day
I know exactly how it feels to feel like everyone else's stuff was better than my own- especially because for so long, Friend 2 and I were at our rubbish yard, plotting and planning ways to beg/borrow/steal (joking
And the icing on the cake- despite having all the stuff, I think Friend 1 is jealous, as Friend 2 is more naturally talented, despite not having a posh saddle or £400 boots.
WHY can she not just be less centred, and see things from others' points of view??????
So that's it, hugh load of completly boring drivel. Sorry to go on, feel free to tell me to stop being so boring
Just needed to vent. Sorry.
