ARGHHHHHHHHH!!! *mini rant*

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Sorry guys, I probably just need a kick up the backside and telling to get over it but I'm soooo cross and upset :(

Moved yards last month as I could no longer stomach the bitchy, mean, patronising, 'I-can-ride-your-horse-so-much-better-than-you-can-and-your-horse-is-completely-wasted-being-with-someone-like-you' comments that came from the YM

Found out tonight that said YM has been kicked out of old yard, and guess where she is moving to? Yes, my new yard. My happy, friendly, bright yard that has built my confidence so much since I've been there.

WHY can they not just leave me alone??

Sorry, I'm probably just being pathetic, but needed to rant. Thanks for listening (if you got this far) and I have wine and Galaxy for those who want it :)
 
OMG I'd be ranting if it was me as well. I'm afraid you will just have to stand your ground and tell her where to stick it the first time she starts.

Paula
 
Oh no poor you! That's horrible, I would be upset too. With a bit of luck she won't be there for long if she is not nice. Is she going to be YM or just a livery?

Have a hug and drink that wine!
 
There are a couple of people who led to me leaving a yard and I have since been mega happy! If they arrived to bunk in with me now I would be devestated. Urgh, how awful for you. Minus this one person is your last yard better than your current one by any chance ie: facilities or price, would it be worth going back again once she is gone? Especially as she had such an effect on you before :(
 
Just rearrange these letters 'uckf' & add the word 'off' if she starts trying to voice rude opinions. No explanations, no subtlety or pleases. Just those two words.
 
She's only coming as another livery, but I actually cried when my friend text me and told me.

I can't move back as my facilities are so much better now and MM loves it there :)

Just the thought of her watching me ride and all the whispering and giggles just brings me out in shivers!!

Thanks for all your support guys, just needed to let it all out. Told hubby, and he just said 'well it won't affect you unless you let it' which is probably true but just not quite what I wanted to hear right now :)
 
Just a thought, but does new YM know what a pain she is? And why you moved? I would be dropping into conversation how much nicer new yard is as no bitchyness in your situation! Plus firmly tell her to go forth and multiply if she tries it on. Be very blunt about it too!
 
As others have said, try to ignore her.

As she is no longer in the 'position of power' that she once was people will be more inclined to see her for the idiot she is. From experience people only tend to agree with these morons opinions if they feel they can get something out of it (ie:being in the yard managers good books and therefore being higher up in the livery yard hierachy). As a humble livery herself she wont have that luxury anymore.

Chin up and enjoy your new yard. :)
 
Tell her to go do one. People who do this are inadequate themselves. It's bullying, and if she starts, go to your YM and complain, stating that she was the reason you left your old yard.
 
i would say the minute she opens up her 9x12 to pass a comment, "whatever her name is" My riding might be bad but I will improve, however you are plain ugly and will remain that way".
 
you arrived at this yard first so there will know you and your riding standard already, the decent ones will see her bitchiness for what it is. the numpties will let someone else make their opinions for them and will be no loss to you and your enjoyment of your horse.
 
Hang on. You said she had been kicked out of her old yard? So I would go and talk to your new YM and tell her what happened before as a warning. I expect she will want to keep it quiet as to what happened as well...
 
Well she is going to be the newbie at "your" yard now, so grow a pair and don't take any crap from her straight from the off, get stuck in at her the the split second she starts any crap, it's the only way to deal with a turd, flush it as soon as possible.
 
Does she know the new yard manager and anyone else on the yard your now at? be such a shame if she does. Perhaps being knocked off her perch will teach her to be a little kinder.
 
Renvers said:
you arrived at this yard first so there will know you and your riding standard already, the decent ones will see her bitchiness for what it is. the numpties will let someone else make their opinions for them and will be no loss to you and your enjoyment of your horse.
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This. All the power is with you now - she's coming (under a cloud too) into your territory where you've established yourself away from her..its a tough test and one I can well understand you don't want to have...but you can win this - she's the one who's been kicked out, not you...be ready for her! ;)
 
Oh no! That would make me go arghhhhh too! Just see how it goes, maybe she will be a little wiser this time round!
 
Thank u very much everyone, feeling a little stronger now after a large glass of wine and dinner out with my mates :) my new YM is aware of the situation and will keep an eye on it - I'm not the only one who has come from that yard because of her, put it that way! I was just worried cos although I can come across as forward, I don't actually do that well at confrontation at times, and TBH could well do without the aggro. Oh well we'll soon see...
 
Ask for some support from your new mates. If she's going to watch you ride and make bitchy comments ask some of the others to watch too and make nice comments. If she's got nobody to whisper to and is being shouted down she'll probably slink off. She's only a livery now, you don't have to tolerate her nonsense any more.
 
I would say, you can be smug in the knowledge she was kicked off the yard, obviously there would have been a reason, maybe you could ask her what that reason is, when she belittling you!! Don't pay any attention people only behave like that to make themselves feel better, she'll only be telling you how much better she could ride your horse because she knows she couldn't really. I always find "yes dear" is a suitably patronizing reply, then walk away!!! Try it, it's very satisfying!!
 
O P I do feel for you. I was bullied during university by a bitch who was a ringleader of utter witches. I was devastated when I turned up to my MSc course and she was doing a closely related course, even more so when I was asked why I had a problem? She'ssreally nice... and so on. A couple of months down the line, she'd found herself a new witch companion, bullied another girl badly and nobody on either course would spit on them if they were on fire. So try not to worry. She's on your turf now and on equal terms. People WILL realise what she is, even if it takes time, as it did in my case.
 
Keep your head down and wait for her to get kicked off. Every area has a few witches that have to keep moving from yard to yard.
At least this time, she's the newbie, not you.
 
catwithclaws said:
Thank u very much everyone, feeling a little stronger now after a large glass of wine and dinner out with my mates :) my new YM is aware of the situation and will keep an eye on it - I'm not the only one who has come from that yard because of her, put it that way!.
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In which case I can't for the life of me think why your current yard is offering her a place if they know she is trouble!

I don't know how big your yard is or how many people, but just keep out of her way and don't speak to her unless you have to. If she says 'hello' then reply but walk on. If she starts a conversation, just make the minimal reply and move on. She will soon get the message.

I hope it goes ok for you when she arrives. I feel bad for you that this is spoiling your enjoyment of your yard.
 
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