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OK, so I normally confine my riding reports to my Diary thread, but I'm feeling a little messed up at the moment. Not sure if it's sympathy I need or a kick up the backside...

The evening didn't start well - a puncture on my bike, discovered half a mile from home (luckily) meant I had to walk it back to the house and run the mile to the station to catch the train instead, even so it meant arriving 10 minutes after the group lesson started. I phoned ahead and warned them I'd be late, and they'd got Tom ready for me when I got there.

There was a big group today and the 5 others had already warmed up. I joined the back of the ride and warmed up with some trotting. Today's flat exercise was to change the rein on an incline and then back along the centre line, cantering to the back of the ride. First in trot as a group a few times, and then individually.

It was straightforward enough, but as with the other time I was late, I couldn't focus, and after we'd ridden the exercise 3 times as a group I still couldn't work out what we were doing and had to watch the other 5 carefully to work out what was a very simple exercise.

The first time I did it individually, Tom was trying to nap to the rest a little near the end, and when I asked for canter, he plunged forward and ran on a bit. I sat up, got him back to me and all was fine. The next time, I should have been ready and expecting it, which I kind of was, but I lost my balance when he plunged, tried to hang on, but ended up coming off. It happened quickly so can't really remember details but I think I must have rolled as I came off in front of him, and was aware that I needed to get away from his legs. Either way, thanks to the recent rain I was covered in mud, and two hours later my right arm and leg are quite sore.

I was then given a leg up from Steve, and had an even less elegant remount that in the TREC competition last weekend. We then trotted round as a ride for a couple of laps before coming into the middle for individual jumping. I was nervous, especially after he'd run out yesterday and the fall today, so didn't do anything. But that means that I haven't 'properly' ridden since coming off.

Maybe it was due to my being late so perhaps I wasn't mentally prepared. My two worst rides have both been on Tom and have been the two times I've been late. But having had my confidence knocked on Saturday and yesterday, what little I had left is now completely shattered. And due to being away for running this weekend, and an interview on Tuesday I'm not riding again until Wednesday, which mean 6 whole days for all the negativity to amplify.

I feel like I've stopped making progress. Tom is one of the easiest horses to ride there, and if I can't manage to stay on for a simple trot-canter transition on him after 3 months of riding regularly again, maybe I should just stop bothering.
 
Hey!!!

*Swings leg ready for swift kick up the wotsit!*

For goodness sake woman, give yourself a break! You did something wrong. You fell off. It hurt. It wasn't nice. You've noticed a pattern. Accept that it did, learn from it and move on :D

I've read your diaries and you have done so flipping well! I fell over dismounting the other month! Hurt my cocyx(sp!). Was totally silly. Nerves are what keeps up safe, the trick is balancing them with what we can do, pushing our boundaries when we are ready.

Have a big hug and a large hot chocolate. Smile. Take some Arnica. Snuggle up for the night :)
 
I find I have the worst rides when I'm not properly mentally prepared beforehand. My brain seems unable to slow down from it's 'oh my god' moment, and I can't take anything in. I find I'm not ready for anything and can't even ride a decent circle or work out what's going wrong. I slip into very old habits and end up doing more harm than good (just what happens to me, I used to ride to quite a high level, once upon a time!)

I think it's just coincidence that it's been both times that you've ridden Tom, but unfortunately it's settled in your mind that this is how things are.

The best advice I can give is to spend the next few days being mentally positive, taking teh time to sit quietly (usually only time is last thing at night for me!) and strongly visualize a ride on this horse, and replacing anything that is wrong with a good image, everything going right. It's a bit of sports psychology I think. It takes a lot of hard work, but you have to stop yourself from seeing negative images.

Chin up, it's just another small bump along the way :)

Txxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
*kick kick kick!!!!!*
Don't be so silly!!!!

Everybody falls off (and trust me...we watched William FP hit the deck at Lincs Horse Trials ;)) now and again.
If I'm late, the whole day goes out the window, I can't concentrate, focus doing anything etc its understandable.

Losing your balance isn't a "fault" kinda thing more the horses for plunging if anything, but there's nothing you can do to stop it happening and no matter what level you're at, if it's going to happen, it will do.

I know a bad lesson kind of ruins the week, but all you can do is try and put today behind you - tomorrow is a different day and by your next lesson, you can be determined to have a bloody good ride!!
Don't ever give up because of a bad lesson - trust us, if that was the way, nobody would ride.
Sounds like you're doing brilliantly otherwise!! Chin up girl, chocolate paracetamol and lots of rest and TLC and you'll be good as new by your next lesson.
K x

ETA if it makes you feel any better...my last fall happened when I was walking (yes, walking!!! past our indoor school on the mare I've p/l for 5 years now (!) - she side stepped at something spooky on the floor and I was totally not ready, came straight off the side, landed on my back in a huge muddy puddle. I was dripping wet, bruised and sore and had to ring for a lift as they wouldn't let me on the bus!! Don't beat yourself up! :p
 
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Dont beat yourself up. You had a bad start to the evening, its the same if your late for work. When that happened to me in the past the day always felt like I was playing catch up and unsettled than if I had been on time. Your concentration will not have been up to scratch hence not being able to take in what was going on. Put it down to experience and forget it. Move on with the next chapter and laugh now about being covered in mud.! I would and it will feel better in the morning. Carry on with riding and consider youself having had a kick up the bum!!
 
Thanks MrsM, I guess compared to what you're going through I've got nothing to complain about.

*shares hug and hot chocolate*

x
 
Don't worry about it at ALL!!! We ALL have bad days, and days where we feel like complete tits... my two prime examples from recent times are:

Last week I was trying to all sexy and cool in front of a certain farrier, and went to leap off my horse whilst we walked in from the school, intending to land (as I have done many times before) on my feet, walking beside him. I landed very much on my arse.

Falling off for NO apparent reason in a very large lake after jumping into it....while my horse was standing perfectly still.


Everyone has bad days - I worked for an Olympic event rider for a few seasons, and occasionally he would be in the school for ten minutes on his first horse of the day, and then come back in, horse in tow and say "you lot ride them today, I'm just going to end up on my face", because he could tell he wasn't in the right frame of mind to school his horses without problems.

You'll be fine chicken x
 
Thanks all. One thing the instructor said yesterday was that I'm expecting too much of myself. I guess that's true, but to have 3 bad rides in a row seemed a bit too much.

I think come the morning, I'll happily put it down to being late and so unprepared. I'm just a bit wary that Tom now thinks he can take the mick with me and get away with it.

And as for the mud - I actually hosed myself off afterwards...
 
JenJ don't worry so much! I had a lesson last night, my instructor got on for a bit to see what I was feeling when my old bag of a mare decided to pretend she had no concept of anything other than straight lines. I got back on, mare stepped forward, I hoiked her back whilst half on, and she actually listened to me and stopped very abruptly, and I ended up sprawling over her neck snorting spiky short mane and horrid ears up my nose and valiantly flailing around for something to grab onto. Everyone laughed (and there always seems to be a delegation watching my lessons in the hope I might fall off or do something equally entertaining). The rest of my lesson was dire to the point of feeling like I might cry.

I got back on tonight, having fretted about my general crapness all day - and guess what - my horse was in a totally different mood tonight, when I got on I was extremely determined and focused, and for the first time in ages I ended my schooling session feeling very faintly positive and pleased.

Dont stop bothering with your lessons, you have to have the really rubbish times so that the really good times feel so much better! :)
 
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Look at it this way - if every day was a great day and every ride went smoothly, you wouldn't appreciate it half as much as you do when there are occasional bumps;)
 
Look at it this way - if every day was a great day and every ride went smoothly, you wouldn't appreciate it half as much as you do when there are occasional bumps;)


Meh, that's my mantra to use with beginning runners when they have a bad run. How humiliating to have it thrown back in my face :D x
 
Meh, that's my mantra to use with beginning runners when they have a bad run. How humiliating to have it thrown back in my face :D x

If it helps, I regularly sit and contemplate giving up on dog training and keeping Hen as a (beloved) pet and nothing more:o As indeed I am doing at this moment:o
 
If it helps, I regularly sit and contemplate giving up on dog training and keeping Hen as a (beloved) pet and nothing more:o As indeed I am doing at this moment:o

Consider this your *kick* up the backside then.

If at first you don't succeed...

It's about having fun, not about beating ourselves up for not doing everything perfectly x
 
Right, I've decided. I have a day off work tomorrow as I'm running the SDW this weekend, but I'm going to phone Chessington and see if they can squeeze in a private lesson late morning/lunchtime. That way I can hopefully restore some confidence and be less of a nervous wreck next week.

It'll also be the first time i've ridden 4 times in a week for 15 years!
 
I am going to start a thread on embarrassing falls to cheer you up. We have all had them. Perhaps we can all give you a giggle.
 
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