Awful lesson :(

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Well i had an awful lesson today.

I rode horrifically and i could feel the other girls in my group wanting to laugh at me.
Normally they're fine and always say hi and whatever and are really nice, but my riding was laughable i suppose. And their freinds were outside the gate doing a running commentary of everything i did wrong and one of the girls in my group pointed out "She can hear you you know?!", it really got to me.
I got off at the end of the lesson, put the horse away and just cried on the way home.
I'm the only riding school rider in the group, they all have their own horses so know eachother, I'm just the outcast.

I rode my normal horse and he behaved perfectly, it was just my riding which was awful. I was trying to get into space and then the group did some trotting poles, i was just trying to get out of the way and into my own space, but i just got it all wrong :(

It's just upset me so much, I had an amazing lesson last week, maybe karmas trying to get me back to reality :/

Anyway sorry for the grovel, I'm just really upset and down.
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I can only imagine that they are insecure themselves. Once you are happy and confident in yourself you do not need to laugh at other people. Try to keep that in your head. You are trying to improve your own riding and that is not something anyone should criticise you for. Even the top riders would be the first to admit that you never stop learning with riding.

Chin up!
 
They're good riders themselves, I'm just so outcast.
They're all at least 2 years younger than me, i shouldnt really be in the group, but i enjoy it so much there.
I just dont know, I'm so upset.
During the lesson they all seemed really blunt, when i tried to talk they just looked away or gave short answers. :(
 
Don't waste your life worrying about what other people think. When they grow up they will learn some manners and to have some empathy for others. Go back and hold your head up, next time it will be their turn to fall off or get it wrong.
 
Prince33Sp4rkle said:
bloody hell fire, what absolute cows!!!!

everyone has to learn, and part of that is making mistakes.

ignore them, hard as it is.
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Omg -Couldnt agree more - god, girls can be so so nasty!!!!!!!

Great bug hugs to you - Dont be too hard on yourself, we all have bad days - some lessons good, some just awful - it happens to absolutley everybody.

Its happened, was awful and these stupid girls wont have helped you - be nice to yourself and look forward to your next lesson - go and see your friends and have some fun !!!
 
If I were to see that kind of behaviour and was the instructor they would all be told in no uncertain terms to swing their hook. How dare they be rude to paying customers! Talk about bad for the business!
If I were you I would try to arrange your lesson perhaps for a different time when they aren't around to be watching or at least speak to the instructor and ask that they be told to get lost while you are riding because you feel that they are slating your riding and knocking your confidence.
 
How horrible for you, nasty little creatures!

Can you have a word with the instructor and tell her how upset you were? She should stamp on anything like that very quickly.

Or is there a different class you could join, sometimes its just a lot more fun to be in a group of similar riders.

Try not to dwell on it sweetie
 
Thank you, i know i should ignore it, but it upset me so much.
I'm sure they all haven't given it a second thought, but it plays on my mind.

I think i just got flustered. They kept patronizingly overtaking me and getting so close, and mumbling things under their breath according to mum who was watching.

Yes i made a lot of mistakes in the lesson, but they felt the need to giggle about it and point it out. We had a new instructor aswell who kept asking what I was doing, we normally work in open order and I was trying to get my space whereas the rest of them were working as a ride. And doing figures of 8's round the school, and i couldnt slot back in :/, so i was literally outcast.

And Oldmare, I am their ability i just had an off day and a new instructor who taught differently, and i wasn't used to it.

I'm just doubting myself now and just generally "mehh" :(
 
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You sound like you're putting yourself down a lot saying that your riding wasn't as good as the others etc.
Firstly they shouldn't have been overtaking you. If they get close, they should circle away. Perhaps they are jealous of you in some way.
You should be enjoying your riding, not having to listen to some b!tches talking about you. Have a work with your RI and see if they can move you to another lesson with nicer people.x
 
It's only happens sometimes, when a certain girl shows up. Shes so confident and cocky it rubs off on the others. And I;m just left.
I was circling away to get some room and then they were laughing at me for being out of the ride and in the way of them doing trotting poles.
Its the only rally thats of my ability on days that im free.

My normal instructor isnt here at the minute, and i dont suppose that helps as he is normally so strict with everything.

But i can say my riding was awful, but they werent helping.
 
'I rode my normal horse and he behaved perfectly'

If horse was behaving perfectly you can't have been riding that badly!

Everybody has good and bad days with horses, just consider it good practise for finding space in the warm up for when your competing!
 
ew0855 said:
'I rode my normal horse and he behaved perfectly'

If horse was behaving perfectly you can't have been riding that badly!

Everybody has good and bad days with horses, just consider it good practise for finding space in the warm up for when your competing!
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Thank you. He's an ace pony :D
I did have a bad day, I was in a cr*p mood before riding anyway. I just wasn't with it.
 
I really feel for you, there's always that feeling when you know they have a horse of their own and you don't but don't despair! You have a choice of a horse to ride, and they're stuck with theirs!
 
Raych you are going to have to grow a thicker skin, sounds easy but very hard to do. What you have got to do is to believe in yourself. 1) are you as good a rider as you think they are(you are most probable better but think not).
2)do you think because you don't have a pony that you own you are not up to their standard (wrong again).
Start believing in your self, set yourself targets and work towards them.:cool::cool::cool::cool::cool:
 
I'm currently looking for a horse to buy, this not being the reason i want to buy but; if i have my own i think they'll find it easier to accept me.

I'm beginning to doubt my riding ability, and I have thought about giving up, and then ridden and told myself not to be so stupid as i enjoy it so much.

I'm just an emotional 15 year old, and things like this just get to me.

But at least they can criticize my riding, and not as a person.
I'd much rather be known as a worse rider than someone, than to be known as a worse person than someone by bitching about and putting others down.
I's rather be me than them. I can't stand seeing people upset. I would rather be told i was a terrible rider, than have just one person think i was a terrible friend.
 
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People have off days, and maybe this was just one of those for you today? I bet you don't end every lesson feeling this way ......

Ignore the rude people who felt it necessary to comment on you. They're not worth wasting time and emotion over.

Whether or not you get your own horse, just be yourself. Take criticism/advice from your instructor, and your instructor only. And absolutely don't let today's episode lead you into believing you should give up riding/lessons.

Keep your chin up - and one day you'll get your come-uppance.

Remember, today was just a bad day. Tomorrow you can start over! :)

Good luck!
 
I can't believe your instructor didn't deal with them, she was bound to be aware they were doing it, and if she were any good, tell by your body language it was affecting you.
As an instructor I hate commentary from the gallery and have often asked then to either come in and let us see if they can do any better...if not either shut up or go away.
As much as I love horses and my job, I hate the high proportion of bitch*s you come across.
Just remember what goes around comes around, one day they will ride like **** in front of you, and the best revenge would be to prove you are the better person, say nothing and carry on with your day.
 
Take no notice i had something said just in earshot about my ned at old yard a week ago, im very thick skinned but it hurt hes so lovely !Maybe they have something they are afraid of YOU as you ride once a week no horse they ride and you can keep up with them?I would flip it positive like that ,look at it this way not many riders once a week could keep up with horse owners who ride lots ?Id say well done!
 
Thank you all. I am probably just being silly.
Tbh, i think my instructor was getting annoyed at me keep going large trying to find space when the rest of them were doing trot pole on a figure of eight.

There was another rider in the school, a beginner. and these girls were getting so close to her, and later her horse spooked and reared. Don't know if it was anything to do with the little ponies circling dangerously close to him and he just got flustered.

In my opinion, i think i would rather find space than worry another rider. At least i look when i ride, and not expect 'lesser' people to get out the way.
 
Raych said:
They're good riders themselves, I'm just so outcast.
They're all at least 2 years younger than me, i shouldnt really be in the group, but i enjoy it so much there.
I just dont know, I'm so upset.
During the lesson they all seemed really blunt, when i tried to talk they just looked away or gave short answers. :(
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Firstly they may appear to be good riders but someone who is realy good understands how hard riding is and would not critisise others. The fact that they are two years younger may be part of the problem those girls, are obviously very immature. If it happens again I would tell your RI. If this had been at my old RS the girls would have been given a right old telling off.

We all have days when we feel like we are riding like a sack of spuds and other days when we are on top of the world. Just to focus on the good ones and the veggy ones are neccessary to help us learn.
 
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