Awkward Situation..

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Anywhooo... due to recent snowfall I was told I had to keep my horse in for a week. Not to be turned out at any point, not even when mucking out because apparently snow damages horses feet and results in them being put down.... (I also giggled at this point)

I must note that the owners of the yard are away so it's just us liveries and a certain one or two like to think they are in charge!

I said I didn't want my horse stuck in the stable for a week... he's a cob! so quite hardy!

so we all ended up turning all of ours out. Now the deal is no horse is ever left out alone, the last person always brings the leftovers in!

imagine my horror when going down at 7.30pm after work to find they had left my 2yr old out on his own for 7 hours!

now he's not bothered. he was munching away.

when I asked WHY they said that If I thought was ok for him to go out then he has to get left out.

what would you do?

It's impossible to have a actual conversation with these people, and moving yards isn't really a option as its perfect for us at the moment!
 
I'd count myself lucky I've got a horse I can turn out alone... Mine gets her knickers in a right blooming twist!
 
That's a bit mad about the snow/feet thing! Thought I'd heard it all before I read that :)
I think as you don't want to move yards at this stage I'd do/say nothing, but maybe to ease your mind see if you can make explicit arrangements for someone to bring your horse in if you're not going to be there at a "normal" time. Good luck!
 
difficult one, i hate horses being in but if others felt the conditions were not good you did make the decision to turn out so maybe you should have made arrangements for him to come in?

its a tricky one as when feelings are not good and communication has broken down its all to easy for things to escalate.

my horse lives out but have stables in a block of 8 but somehow i am still expected to feed all the others in the block when i get my 1 in, i am going to have to say something as one person in the block never comes up before 10.30-i don't want to do everyone elses and even when mine is in i don't want others to feed as it encourages a bad door banging habit
 
Difficult situation for you, but also unless you are sure who was the one who bought last horse in and left yours not easy for you to sort out.

Can you wait for YO to return and explain what has happened and ask them to restate yard protocols to everyone and get agreement to respect them.

If you feel confident to speak and know who left your horse out, then explaining to them what a risk they put your young horse in and that you are disappointed they should have let this happen might help, but if people are being unhelpful then it is going to be hard for you.

So pleased your 2yr old was fine, sometimes they are more sensible than we credit them for.
 
some of the things they come out with is brilliant haha.
my dad can bring him in some nights so it'll only be the odd night where he's left til late!

There's only 4 of us there so you would think everyone would get on! however I'm the youngest by a good 20year so no matter what I do I'm constantly in the wrong!
 
jools.. this happened on the day they all got turned out after the snow cleared.

the yard is 2min away, fairly cheap and we have everything we need. I work long shifts so it's not a option to move him further away.
I'm not unhappy there, I like the yard. It's the attitude of know it all liveries.
 
Do you know which owner left yours out? If so have a polite chat, & ask if in future they could bring in for you, in exchange for you doing something another time.
 
It sounds as though your two year old is a lot more mature than your fellow liveries.

No suggestions, I'm afraid. If people are prepared to risk a horse's welfare to score a few points there's nothing you can do, really.

I despair sometimes...
 
yeah I know who it was.
funnily enough when I'm there at 5.30am I turn mine AND hers out or bring them both in if I'm last down.

tried talking to her and she just said she wasn't interested.

no doubt I'll of upset them all again by continuing to use haynets or something equally as daft!

I find it quite funny that 40 odd year olds act like this haha.
 
Did you turn yours out alone in the snow? If you didn't, you just need to calmly remind them that, yes, you like him out as much as possible, but he shouldn't be left alone as per yard rules.

If you did turn him out on his own, it's conceivable they genuinely aren't sure what you want (although it sounds like deliberate misunderstanding on their part :rolleyes: )
 
I would be tempted to phone her each day when you are turning out, to tell her that you are doing this and would she bring yours in. I imagine it won't take many dawn phone calls before she says she'll do it whenever she arrives before you of an evening...
 
nosenseofdirection said:
I would be tempted to phone her each day when you are turning out, to tell her that you are doing this and would she bring yours in. I imagine it won't take many dawn phone calls before she says she'll do it whenever she arrives before you of an evening...
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This made me smile, a 5.30am call to say I am turning out - what a great idea, should make the person concerned think!
 
nosenseofdirection said:
I would be tempted to phone her each day when you are turning out, to tell her that you are doing this and would she bring yours in. I imagine it won't take many dawn phone calls before she says she'll do it whenever she arrives before you of an evening...
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I do like this idea!

Although I have to say that I think that horse-owners really should be self-suffiicent, or make their own alternative arrangements (such as paying for part-livery). However this sounds as if it is supposed to be a reciprocal arrangement.
 
HairyCoblet said:
yeah I know who it was.
funnily enough when I'm there at 5.30am I turn mine AND hers out or bring them both in if I'm last down.

tried talking to her and she just said she wasn't interested.

no doubt I'll of upset them all again by continuing to use haynets or something equally as daft!

I find it quite funny that 40 odd year olds act like this haha.
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Take a day off, go to yard early bring yours in and leave hers out... I would. Yes I'd be chuffed to bits about him being cool as a cucumber, in reality I wouldn't care mine was out late, but its a deliberate attempt to get a rise and argument out of you, so ignore it and just bring yours in early one day leaving hers out and then when she approaches you, tell her in no uncertain terms, her horse her problem.
 
HairyCoblet said:
yeah I know who it was.
funnily enough when I'm there at 5.30am I turn mine AND hers out or bring them both in if I'm last down.

tried talking to her and she just said she wasn't interested.

no doubt I'll of upset them all again by continuing to use haynets or something equally as daft!

I find it quite funny that 40 odd year olds act like this haha.
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Ok, since yours will go out on his own happily (encourage that, it's a very useful skill!) tell her sweetly that since she obviously doesn't want to continue the shared turn out/in, that you'll just be turning yours out from now. Then do it. Spiteful people need to learn that there are consequences for their nastiness. ;)

Also, have a quiet word with your YO and explain that while you won't start WW3 you will not tolerate taking orders from all and sundry.
 
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