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After horses escaped from the field yesterday morning, i arrived at the stables this morning to find it flooded as Murphy had knocked his drinker off the wall! Had to get that sorted which took most of the day lol.

Got horses sorted and went home, was half way back when YO phoned, he said that the man that lives down the lane was up complaining about my horses being out yesterday morning.

He said that they left poo and large holes in his garden. Thing is we went down yesterday morning and lifted the poo, i looked around the garden and there was light hoof marks (they have no shoes on) there was holes but they were rabbit holes. Knocked on his door but no answer.

He apparently shouted at the YO saying that i didnt even come and apologise, thats untrue, i was there that morning and there was no one in, ive tried everytime i was up and no answer. Hes now demanding that the holes in the garden are fixed, he demands that i go see him on monday.

This man is a curse, he shouts at me when i ride on the lane to get to and fro from the lane, he says its his lane and i have no right of way, but its a lane for the 3 houses, YOs house is at the very top of the lane! So i have to use lane to get to the road, its ok though for his son to drive his quad up and down the lane.

If my horses did damage then yeah i would fix it, they ate through the hedge and got out, i was told that the field was secured.

I really just want to cry, i know when i see this man on monday hes going to chew my head off.
 
Oh nightmare situation - I would be dreading Monday too. However bite your tongue, be nice and apologise for your horses and explain that you have tried to contact him previously. Good luck.
 
If you keep your horses at a livery yard, then it is really the livery yards responsibility to resolve this issue. If the horses have damaged his property in any way then her insurance will pay for whatever needs replacing or fixing. If not a claim then it is still her responsibility to make right whatever is wrong - not yours.
 
I mentioned this to the YO he said that he doesnt have livery insurance, though when i moved here i was told there was. Another reason to move. I have insurance on my horses.

We spent ages yesterday checking over his garden but we couldnt see anything destroyed. Seen some spots were the horses would have stood to munch, but the ground is definitely not churned the way he says it is.

This man once stop OH going up the lane (stood out infront of him), opened his door and told him hes got to stop driving up the lane, OH calmly told him its the only way to the house were hes heading. The man slammed our jeep door shut. Apparently hes a policeman!
 
Naughty and very silly livery yard owner then! Let's hope no-one takes the time to sue them. When you move, ask the YO which insurance company they have their business insured by and what liability level they are covered to. I really wouldn't advise keeping your horses at a yard which does not hold a policy.

The guy sounds like he thinks he owns the lane. It has just occurred to me, what if the lane which gives you access to the yard is only an easement? Maybe having people who don't live there, driving up and down is actually breaking the terms of the easement? Which would make sense if he gets so het up about it. Once again though, not your problem.
 
YO bought the land (includes the lane etc), he built the two houses on the lane and sold them. For us there is no other entrance or exit to the yard.

Ive always been nice to this guy, i once rode Mae down the lane and his children were out playing, they came running over to pet her. When he came over i asked him if he ever wanted them to sit on a horse to come on up. He said that his boys wouldnt be sitting on a nag - charming.

Then a few weeks ago i was cooling mae down, decided to ride her down the lane to the road, his dogs were out running about (he doesnt have a fence around his property), they came running at Mae and he did call them back, i shouted Thank You and rode on. Came back up again and notice he had put the dogs away and he was washing his car, as i was passing he shouts "Is that you f*****g finished now"
 
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Take him a bunch of flowers and a cheap box of chocolates and watch his face. Will be well worth the expense. Have used this on several stroppy men and it stops them dead in their tracks.
 
Yeah, thats why im not looking forward to monday. If the man is a policeman and we are doing something wrong, then he could talk to us instead of this stupidness.

I really try not to be ignorant to people, but im pregnant and im not going to stand and listen to this man give me grief.

I was talking to a gardener tonight, he said even if their is damage, that its a huge waste of money to do anything now with it freezing over here. He said to tell him he recommends that repairs are best done after winter. Im not looking forward to that!!

Oh a good note, ive to go and see about a field tomorrow, please please keep your fingers and toes crossed, i need some good luck lol.
 
definately take a pressie, bottle of wine or chocs as that may well just knock him off his stride, however hard and whatever the provocation keep your cool though (I know easy for me to say!)
 
I wouldnt take anything other than a black plastic bin bag. I'd ask him if he could wear it over his head everytime he is outside his house when you are riding your horse as he scares the horse and makes you feel sick.
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In fact i would look for another yard fast and move without telling him where I was. Then Id like to go back and tip a lorry load of pig poo all over his nice clean car!!!!! But I am the nasty,vindictive sort!!!!
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(I suspect that is why I am not the Prime minister...tact and diplomacy were never my strength!
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Think of all the horrible things you could do to him as revenge, make a list and try to make them really funny. (dont actually do them!) It will make you feel better!


PS- Dont act on all the advice you get on here!!!!!
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Seriously though, I do think he is a bully and you all need to stand up to him somehow.You have tried to apologise and he doesnt really deserve any further apology from the way you describe his behaviour.
 
I'd be inclined to go to see him, with OH as support and, keeping calm, to ask him just what his problem is, since its clearly far more than your horses getting out, and his aggressive attitude is unacceptable. If he has to give you a straight answer it may clear the air or at least make him see that its going too far; its hard to be mindlessly foul to someone with whom you've talked sensibly. I'd guess that he has issues with YO over the terms & conditions of the house sale.
On the other hand, if this gets any worse perhaps you should complain TO the police; if this guy is noted as aggressive and intimidating towards an innocent member of the public, it won't look good on his CV.
 
how about writing a letter...? Maybe that would be better and leave the choccies on the door with the letter...then you will not have to face him, he can read the letter and see what you have to say without having to face him....let him cool off...
sounds a horrible man...he has not right to be rude....I would def move yards..insurance is vital and not a good thing...the responsibility is falling on you because your YO does not want to pay for it...thats also not fair....
keep your chin up....dont let the man get you down and just always smile and be polite...will drive him mad :0)
 
I wouldnt go. Who is he to demand that you turn up ? I would wait till he accosts you again and then explain politely that you have called several times but he wasnt around. He sounds like a bullying pig. In fact I would probably go to the police and say that he has demanded that you go round but due to his previous offensive language and behaviour you feel that he is threatening you and can they help at all ? HA !

There you go - lots of choices - chocolates and charm or go on the offensive ...

What a toad. Hope you sort it out, conflict is very unpleasant ..
 
Without being funny, if that guy is a policeman (a very nasty one by the sounds of it) then by being that abusive to you, he could be seen to be abusing his position - i.e. intimidating people who know of his profession and making things difficult. You can speak to the Police station at which he works who have to haul him in and tell him whats what. On the other hand by being being such an a***wipe all the time, he could also be seen to be breaching the peace, which Police have to respond to anyway and is a criminal offence.

Hopefully you can move soon, however, I like the idea of the chocs and flowers in the meantime!
 
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