Being Victimised

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moved to current yard in May. It was brand new and was just starting so there were teething problems as expected. My mare had an operation to remove her ovaries and she has been back in work for about a month now. The yard is very busy, with many different personalities. Recently trouble has started and we (my mum and I) have been the focus of the incidents. My mare was put in a field with a yearling and two other horses, which was fine as my horse loves company. Last week I arrived at the yard to find the field had been split and the yearling and one of the horses were in one half with my mare and the fouth horse in the other. My mare was quite stressed as I dont think she understood why she couldnt speak to her fieldmates. We found out that the yearling had been kicked and my horse was getting the blame. Even though days before my horse was kicked on the neck and back leg and nothing was done about it. "Horses must be horses" I was told. My mum confronted the owners of the horses and they kicked off. The atmosphere has been awful since then. My parents were away last night so the yard owner was bringing my horse in as Im too young to drive. This morning we were told that my completely human friendly horse had attacked the girl going to get her animal in. I dont believe this at all. So my mum received a call from the yard owner. We went to the yard and we have been told to leave. and if we dont go the owner threatened to "get rid of my horse".

Just wanted advice on where we stand as I believe we have been victimised as we have done nothing wrong and are being blamed for things we werent involved in. The conflicts have arisen between us and an owner who has 4 horses on the yard. Money related? I like the yard but cant stand the bitchy fights that go on. Please can someone give advice. I know we have to leave but Im not unless I get a valid reason.
 
To be honest - regardless of where you stand legally, I would find another yard. Even if you have to forego some of the facilities of your current yard, there is nothing worse than going to the yard where you are supposed to enjoy your horses only to feel completely uneasy. Have a look at some other places - maybe even those you haven't considered before. I hope you manage to sort something out. x
 
yeah we are in touch with another yard owner who has helped us out in previous years. But she may be full so its just finding out if she can take us, hopefully she can. x
 
The YO sounds like a lazy twit if they go round chucking people off instead of arranging turnout groups sensibly. You'll be better off somewhere else.

But if you want to stress about a few small points...

How come the owner of the four horses doesn't have a paddock to themselves to arrange as they please?

Your horse is still out with a companion, what is the problem with splitting the field into two separate groups? The horses will soon adjust and injuries should be lessoned.

Perhaps what happened with your horse "attacking" the girl who tried bringing hers in was that if your horse is unsettled at the moment as two friends have gone, she didn't want her only friend going. This isn't acceptable but it is understandable. What your YO ought to do is group the horses together who get on and whose owners have similar routines, but its easier for some to just chuck people off than upset people by needing to make rearrangements. If you are on a yard with a YO without the sense, the will and the balls to organize turnout groups well, you are on to a loser. Just move again you will be happier.
 
Because the owners with 4 horses get to do as they please because they pay for 4 animals at once. Although the YO says she treats everyone equal, she doesnt. My mare isnt needy at all, but she gets on very well with the yearling and its unfair how my horse has to get into trouble for being a horse. For the last week the girl has gone in to get her horse and mine hasnt bothered about her being in. I find it funny how my horse is always supposedly dangerous when I'm not there. The YO only seems to be bothered about money and shows a complete lack of interest in how the fields are organised and of how the yard is (or isnt working) and is only going on petty complaints.

I'm, to be quite honest, glad to leave now. but I think its awful how she can just throw people off without a grounded reason.
 
Just think its for the best YO sounds stupid and your horse will be better off on a yard where you are happy as well as she is so she doesnt pick up on your feelings at the moment. Hope theres a place at the yard you know, if not im sure other nicer yards around to try to move to.
 
At the end of the day, its totally up to them who they choose to have on their yard. It does sound as though it is not the best yard to be on though.

Part of me can see it from their side of the fence. We once had a lovely person as a livery, but her horse was a nightmare towards other horses, and she wouldn't hear a word against it, always saying it must be someone else's horse. The previous two yards she'd been on said it was a nightmare too.
 
Hiya, so sorry this has happened to you. There are yard owners, and there are "yard owners" - and sometimes your face doesn't fit for some reason. Don't take it personally, they'll soon move on to the next poor sod.

I would get yourself well out of there, you and your mare don't need the aggro or the insults. I was at a yard where I got to the stage that I didn't want to go down and see Shy, and that's when I knew enough was enough - I tried sticking to it for too long.
 
I'd find somewhere else, because even if your mare hasn't done any of the things she's been accused of, you will be made to feel very unwelcome if you stand and fight your corner, find somewhere where you both be happy.
 
If I were you I would write this one down to experience and move on. YO sounds unpleasant and will get a bad reputation quickly so "what goes around comes around". I bet once you move you will be surprised that you stayed as long as you did! Good luck with finding another yard. I am sure you will.
 
I would move on. The truth will out in the end and you will be proved innocent. No good trying to justify yourself or explain, clearly no one is interested in what you have to say.

Find another yard, explaining exactly what has gone on so if word does get back to them they are fully aware of the situation and will be able to give their own judgement on the matter.

Good luck x
 
hard as it is please just move on. i faced a similar situation with a very silly woman. it ruined the time i had with my horse and when i was with him i couldnt enjoy him. i moved and my whole life changed overnight. my time with my horse and my time away from him went back to how good it all was before silly woman came along.
 
Gosh this is a difficult one. I'm a YO and have been in a similar difficult situation where someone's mare got very kicky and started pitching in to other people's horses, and then when she'd done that, started kicking the wooden fences about and ruined two sections of Post & Rails before I had to say sorry but this is enough. So I can see what a difficult situation your YO is in, trying to please everyone. To be honest, she's there more than perhaps you are, and therefore can watch the horses getting up to what they're doing in the field, so she maybe sees what's happening more than you do??

Your mare will be feeling very hormonal and stressed right now; so perhaps she needs a smaller yard with less horses on it? Perhaps you could have a word with your vet as she might need something to help her sort her hormones out a bit. Poor lass, this must be so awful for her too.

I think your current situation isn't suiting your mare terribly well and for that reason I would suggest a move: perhaps for a while you might need to go on assisted livery in a quieter yard for a while just while she sorts herself out. I do hate to say this, but it might be that your mare is getting a little aggressive with other horses and you're perhaps not around to see it - so it might be worth putting aside a bit of time to just sit and watch her when she's with others in the field, just to reassure yourself if nothing else.
 
Sometimes, on a yard like this if your face doesn't fit, thats it, the yard I used to be on was fine for the first year, then I started to work there part time, so I could afford for my yard owner to help me re-school my ex racehorse, I went away for a weekend, and someone left the yard suddenly while I was away, so all padlock codes were changed, and I was not told, then once I was told, I noticed that although our tack room was very secure, everyone had started taking their tack home, but everyone was very evasive when i asked what had brought about this sudden paranoia, after some digging it turned out some small bits and pieces had gone missing, a bridle, couple of martingales, boots, numnah's and a De-gouge. I had been offloading some of my unwanted gear on Ebay, and everyone on the yard assuming I was struggling for money had decided I was stealing stuff to sell, it wasn't until my closest friend on the yard left, after a huge row about pooh picking I was told this, needless to say, I left a while later. It really does depend if you fit in, and if you don't your life will be made uncomfortable, until you go. And lets be fair here, you spend enough to have this horse to enjoy it, why waste your time being unhappy on a yard you keep it on, take it from me find somewhere that you can keep your horse, and love every minute you spend together! :D
 
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