cally23
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You are right, I need to put my smiley face on, stop thinking I am not good enough and crack on. So glad to hear you have made a new friend
Beware of what is your dream, it may come true!
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WandaMare
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I have mine at home and although I totally agree with the negatives you have listed, there are lots of positives as well. I love being able to just pop out and see them whenever I want, its cheaper than livery, you can manage their routines however you like and if they are ill or need extra attention, its so much easier than when they are in livery. Also if you want another one, you can just go and get one rather than worry about another livery space.
Other posters have made really good suggestions, another thing that has helped me ....having never believed calmers work or intended to use them, I have found them to be really useful for separation anxiety. I just use the one off ones and leave the horse at home in the stable with a dose of calmer if I want to go out and do something. it really does take the edge off and although I prefer to manage their behaviour through training, its so hard to beat separation anxiety when you only have a yard of 2. I decided a few years ago that I was fed up of worrying about the one left at home to the extent that it spoiled my longer hacks and lessons, that I gave in and went and bought some calmer, it really has made a big difference, I can do more, the horses are fitter and I don't feel so tied down. They might be a bit unhappy for a while but at least they don't get so worked up that they might injure themselves.
Other posters have made really good suggestions, another thing that has helped me ....having never believed calmers work or intended to use them, I have found them to be really useful for separation anxiety. I just use the one off ones and leave the horse at home in the stable with a dose of calmer if I want to go out and do something. it really does take the edge off and although I prefer to manage their behaviour through training, its so hard to beat separation anxiety when you only have a yard of 2. I decided a few years ago that I was fed up of worrying about the one left at home to the extent that it spoiled my longer hacks and lessons, that I gave in and went and bought some calmer, it really has made a big difference, I can do more, the horses are fitter and I don't feel so tied down. They might be a bit unhappy for a while but at least they don't get so worked up that they might injure themselves.
cally23
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Great thank you makes sense
cally23
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Gosh! thank you so much for the kind and very helpful replies. Everything you have suggested makes sense and I have plenty of options to explore.
It has been a massive learning curve over the past 18 months. I am running a business from the farm and also trying to make improvements to the land and the buildings, so it has been a lot. I honestly think I have taken the eye off the ball with my horses and they have been on a very long vacation.
The lorry has to go! I am not comfortable with it, it is old and I have such a great relationship with my mare, I am sure she is telling me something is wrong. I want a trailer, she has always loaded fairly well and I feel confident that maybe with a bit of training this would work.
I asked about a riding club, there is a good one local and fantastic hacking. My nerves and feelings of not being good enough stopped me. So I need to step up to the plate and crack on. A livery sounds good, I do have a good field shelter with one stable and about 1 1/2 acres free, I will explore this idea. I will also ask around if anyone will hack out. I have put on some weight over Covid and not riding so will need to get myself fit. My mare will also need be brought back into work.
Thanks I feel like i have a goal. I will keep you updated to our progress.
It has been a massive learning curve over the past 18 months. I am running a business from the farm and also trying to make improvements to the land and the buildings, so it has been a lot. I honestly think I have taken the eye off the ball with my horses and they have been on a very long vacation.
The lorry has to go! I am not comfortable with it, it is old and I have such a great relationship with my mare, I am sure she is telling me something is wrong. I want a trailer, she has always loaded fairly well and I feel confident that maybe with a bit of training this would work.
I asked about a riding club, there is a good one local and fantastic hacking. My nerves and feelings of not being good enough stopped me. So I need to step up to the plate and crack on. A livery sounds good, I do have a good field shelter with one stable and about 1 1/2 acres free, I will explore this idea. I will also ask around if anyone will hack out. I have put on some weight over Covid and not riding so will need to get myself fit. My mare will also need be brought back into work.
Thanks I feel like i have a goal. I will keep you updated to our progress.
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My Mum always used to try to get my Dad to buy somewhere with land for the horses but I'd side with him because I knew I suit livery. I'm on a rented private yard now and if the livery options round here were good with good hacking I'd move just for the company (but they're not!) Get the horse to load. Every day practice, professional help, whatever it takes. Then box for hacking, lessons, fun rides, shows, arena hire, etc. Join riding clubs, endurance groups, bridleways groups, etc. Being stuck on your own is way worse if you're not regularly traveling out anywhere where there's horse people.