Bit of a Dilemma, rather worried. Advice?

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Well my move and new start at Hartpury is moving ever closer 29 days to be precise
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very very excited and apprehensive all at once.

Marley-im-a-ginger-bog-pony is staying at home and im going to miss him so so so much
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lots of crying when i leave over him i thinks. and Teddy-im-such-a-poser is coming with me.

My dilemma is...I dont know when to bring Ted along. My mum wants me to wait 2 weeks and bring him down my birthday weekend. My close friends think either straight away or only one week maybe.

The difficulty i have is im torn between all scenarios. i understand what my mum is saying so far as it will give me time to get things properly ready for Teddy get a bit settled myself etc. but then again im worried if i leave him behind our bond will not be as strong, i wont be in control of getting him ready to come and ill have to change a routine ill have already developed to fit back in around Teddy and also the first week will be the quietest on the yard as it will only be the college horses and the First Year Liveries there. and what with Ted being a fairly quiet reserved chap prone to being nervous in a different environment i wonder if giving him a quieter first week wold be beneficial. but then on the bad side i wont have a bed ready for him and he could spend around 30mins standing on the lorry while i go and find my allocated stable bed down and get everything ready for him. and would bringing him straight away effect how i settle at college in a severe way
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HELP! pleasE?
 
I don't think a couple of weeks will affect your bond - he'll still be pleased to see you!

I would give yourself some time to settle into college yourself - you'll need time to find out where everything is and get yourself sorted with lectures etc.

Maybe give yourself a week and then get him to you - you won't be too established that you'll need to change a routine but organised enough to be able to give him lots of time and get him settled properly. If you're stressing, then it won't help him :P

I'm sure you'll both be fine and have a great time
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I agree with your mum. Dont bring him down for at least 2weeks. You want to be able to enjoy your first while of college and meet new friends without having extra things to worry about. Seriously, how is 2weeks going to ruin your bond with him? You will have plenty of time with him and believe me, 2 weeks is not long enough to have got into any sort of a routine. As someone who has just completed yrs of college, honestly theres too muh going on in the first week of college to have to worry about doing a horse as well.
 
ooOO thats exiting for you starting at hartpury! i agree with the above. your bond wont be affected and you will be calmer which is what he will need. im exited for you! lucky cow
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lol i wouldnt go for lucky cow
stupid cow i think is the answer. 16 and moving 3 hours away hmmmm.....
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no i am really looking forward to it just cant bear the thought of even a week without either of my wonderful boys, will be bad enough without Marleypants there let alone without Ted as well
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i agree with other answers, can you imagine the confusion if both you and horse arrived same day-nightmare!! you'd be much better to settle yourself in then prepare to welcome horse, least you know where everything is etc!!
 
well your doing better then me my dear! im 16 and planning on living with my mum and dad for alot longer then 2 or 3 years
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at least marley will be there when you come home
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i was going to, then opportunity presented itself, and i thought id be a fool not to take it. who knows where this choice will get me undoubtably not where i want to be lol. but it will be worth it im sure. but dont worry the beloved parents will have me back after college and uni
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and yes ill have a lovely little welcome home pony
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im going to miss him so much lol. and you must come steal Ted for a day before i go lol
 
defiantly! it will open up so many doors for you. what are you studying there? and you will have teddy to keep you company on bad days too. it will be awesome!!

Marley will be waiting and i bet he will miss you too
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and yes defiantly. i must come down and meet your two beasties before you go!!
 
im doing the National Diploma in Horse Management (either breeding or equitation havent decided yet) Then hopefully if i pass with high enough grades, will be going on to do the Bs/C Honors Degree in Equine Sports Science with a view to going into the rehabilitation therapy kinda of area of equestrianism.

and yes doo come see us. we will have to organise it. ill send you a PM with my msn easier than on here lol
 
Good Luck at college, a friend of mine is starting there this Fall too, I don't know is she is taking her horse though.

I'd give yourself a couple of weeks to get settled in and go and get Teddy.

Out of curiosity, what happens at holidays? Do you have to take him back home again or does he stay there?
 
I would go with your gut instinct, but I wouldn't worry about the bond being weakened. I spent a month in Colorado and my mare was all over me when I came back.
 
Just finished my first year at uni - didnt take horse but I can guarantee you'll wanna spend the first week or two gettin used to everything! He'll be FINE if you leave him for two weeks, could you go home to bring him up or is it too far?

Oh, and my boyfriend went to uni without his horse and didnt see him for 11 weeks at a time, every time he came back Frankie loved him just as much after about 2 mins of pretend sulking! xxxx
 
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