Bit of a problem...

michaelj

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Right here goes!
One girl at the yard has been a nasty piece of work recently...
Bitching on facebook, which admittedly I do as well but also generally being difficult tonight locked me in my stable...

Now, I hear you saying, "stupid OBAHH, why didn't he just reach over the door", I did, she was holding the bolt down!

So, of course say what are you doing? Let me you yeah? Then get slightly angry and start to swear, she cackles in my face etc etc.

So, fed up now, I remove her hand from the bold, unslide it, and push the door open, she trys to push the door back to me, so being build like a troll, I pushed a little harder back, her arms buckled! and presto out.

It wasn't over yet! I get an earful! AND I QUOTE "What the fcuk did you do that for?" And then punched me in my head, now as much as I wanted to laugh I didn't, I was pretty angry and got very peeved.

I asked her why she did it, her answer was "I hit whoever I want to and you can't stop me!"

Now, her mum didn't come to pick her up until I'd gone, probably a good thing!

But now what do I do? Mum says I shouldn't have pushed the door :/
She is 15 I am 16... She gives as good as she gets imo.

Was I right in pushing the door?
Should I have instead, as my Mum suggested rang my stepdad and asked him to come and sort it out! baring in mind he doesn't like conflict, I felt and still do that was and would be a silly thing to do!

Go mad!
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Well she had no right to hit you,but sounds like silly childish yard pranks to me other than that.


I would go speak to YO about aggressive behaivour.
 
Console yourself with the fact that you may be built like a troll but she looks like one.
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From now on just ignore her, walk away, react and shes got what she wants.
 
She has twice been the aggressor here, once for locking you in and holding the door shut, and again for punching. Not nice behaviour and it needs reporting.

I think you did the right thing in pushing the door open, and also in not retaliating! Plus I bet she would have let you out just before your step dad arrived, so it would have been a bit pointless him coming up.

Can you ring the yard owner on your phone next time so she can be caught in the act, so to speak? Sounds like a not very nice girl at all, so be careful she doesn't try to provoke you again and get you into trouble, saying that you hurt her etc.
 
S_J, I was hoping you wouldn't comment back.
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Cheers guys! I don't hit girls, also, one of her friends who was there has actually just reminded me, she first kicked me several times! I forgot that as I was trying to keep bob in who wanted his tea!

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I would write to her parents and complain factually about her behaviour not being acceptable for a 15yo, state that you do not want her to repeat the same behaviour and that you will be treating any further violence or agression on her part as assualt and reporting it as such, and cc the YO.
She probably just has a silly schoolgirl crush on you
 
Personally if it was me I would have dumped a bucket of icy water over her head
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Deffo get YO involved, if you don't feel you can speak to her parents perhaps YO can have a word.
 
hmmm well she's wanting attention one way or another from you, might sound like a silly question but does she fancy you?

Have you ever done anything to really upset her?

You said you both b*tch on face book, if your both slating each or each others friends on face book then really you have to expect confrontations from time to time, heated arguments etc.....even if they start off as pranks, so you need to nip that in the bud to begin with.

She obviously knows your not going to punch her back, so she's getting away with it, therefore she thinks she's in control.

Don't let her get to you, the more you retaliate the more she'll keep coming back from more, she'll get bored after a while or she may actually grow up!

Give her two options, shake hands and try and get along and sort your differences out,call it a truce (show some authority, stand up to her tell her you've go no time or room in your life for immature girls like yourself) and be adult about it or just ignore her before the whole thing spirals out of control.

Don't ever encourage her anywhere near you, until she changes her attitude and yes tell your YO.

Hopefully things will settle down....although the icy cold water sounds like a very tempting suggestion lol!
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