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Feel free to ignore, I just want to vent my spleen
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Right at the yard is a pretty nice little horse, chestnut ISH mare, easy to do can sometimes be a bit hard to catch but is besotted with Spring so will always be caught when Springy's brought in. Anyway her owner is a teenager who had a bit of a fall from her in the summer and has now lost her confidence so she is rarely ridden. In fact said teenager barely comes up and leaves very novice/nervous mum to do the horse morning and evening, then treats her mum revoltingly
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Mum is getting more and more scared of the horse as she is getting fresher and sillier due to no work. I have seen the teenager 3 times since Novemeber
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Anyway today the mum asked me if I would do the horse on sundays so she can have a day off. She will pay me which is very welcome - but I can't help feeling that the ungrateful teenager should be doing her and if she doesn't want to then the horse should be sold. I suggested this to mum and she did agree but I think she is worried about what the teenager will do if they sell the horse. They had a huge argument at the yard this week with teenager effing and blinding at her mum and I think she was told that the horse would be sold if she didn't pull her finger out. She did lunge the horse but only for about 10 minutes but she hasn't been ridden for 8 weeks apparently. I am not due to ride her just turnout, muck out and bring in, but like I said she is getting pretty silly now with no work. Everyone at the yard thinks the horse should be sold as she could be a super little horse with the right person, she is really pretty and has been well schooled at some point.

*Sigh* I just don't know why some people keep horses and why some parents allow their children to treat them like crap.

Ramble over! Thanks for reading!
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I would offer to do the horse for a few weeks, then suggest to the clearly cluless but oblidging mother that you would be happy to be paid to excersise the horse...if you get on, put in a reasonable (i.e. very cheap) offer, then you can either carry on doing her or sell her on for a profit and everyone is happy.
 
I have managed to end up looking after a horse in similar circs to you, the horse in question is purely a status symbol and is never ridden they like their friends to see it in the field. Anyway it drives me mad I muck it out, feed, turn out etc etc i must have MUG written all over. However the girl is about to go travelling then on to uni and i have pursuaded parents to put horse out on loan as long as the daughter doesnt mind, well believe me she will! Unlike you though these people are family which always complicates matters.
Whatever you do, do it with your eyes wide open and don't take any cr*p!
 
Sounds like someone at my yard. Apart from her horse is supposed to be in light exercise she comes up once a week to ride and thrashes him!!! Then she booses her mum and dad around. Her mum is petrified of horses but if forced to go get tack, tack up, hold horse etc (this horse isnt ecatly friendly!)
 
i'm having a similar situation with a girl a bit younger than me. she hasnt lost interest in horses, only her own. she owns a dutch warmblood with fantastic bloodlines, but the horse was on boxrest for three months last jan with a suspensory damaged in two places. she can now walk trot canter and jump small jumps. with more work sheebs could go back to being a showjumping horse and by the summer could be back doing three foot classes. but she hasnt ridden her properly since before the accident. she has got so used to just riding er for short spaces of time that she is walked, trotted, cantered for twenty mins and cooled off for two. thing is another horse is completely fit and ready to do 3foot now so this girl rides him instead. if i was her mum i'd stop her riding the other and make her concentrate on her own. if not, sell her. she is such a good horse, i've ridden her but am a bit too novicy and am now moving yards. she has the potential to go to hoys with the right training, i with she could see that!!
 
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I would offer to do the horse for a few weeks, then suggest to the clearly cluless but oblidging mother that you would be happy to be paid to excersise the horse...if you get on, put in a reasonable (i.e. very cheap) offer, then you can either carry on doing her or sell her on for a profit and everyone is happy.

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Thats not a bad idea
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But think the teenager would have a huge strop about it and I just want an easy life!
 
Oh dear, it sounds like teenager has other things in her life and not a lot of commitment to horse. I suppose it depends who holds the purse strings to who has the say, I think I would find out if it is her or her parents and increase the amount they are paying until they sort out their situation.
 
This is what I would do, not saying you have to. I would speak to the owner and explain the situation and that she would be better off selling the horse. If she agreed then I would offer to ride the horse and show it to potential buyers and then take a % from the money she gets from the horse.
 
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This is what I would do, not saying you have to. I would speak to the owner and explain the situation and that she would be better off selling the horse. If she agreed then I would offer to ride the horse and show it to potential buyers and then take a % from the money she gets from the horse.

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I have chatted to her mum and suggested that they sell her, which she agreed with as did the dad, but teenager has been a bit spoilt and mum is a bit soft on her so when she threw a tantrum they have agreed to keep it. When she asked me tonight about doing sundays I sad that I thought maybe her daughter should be doing it and she immediately said "well she has been down twice this week", so I think its a losing battle sadly.
I may see what the situation is like in a few weeks as I may suggest this to her - I could do with the money!
 
Oh that's horrible. My mum is forever reminding me of how revoltingly (I was a VERY snotty child - lol!) grateful I was my entire childhood because she was so supportive of my pony-obesssion and persuaded my dad to let me have one of my own. Makes me sooooo mad when kids are rude to their loving and supportive parents. It's doing the horse no harm to sit around doing nothing (although is clearly a shame), but is costing her parents lots and is clearly not appreciated. Hmph!

Now, [adopts shaky voice] in mmmyyyy day....
 
Ramble away - sounds like the kid is a spoiled brat to me and I don't understand why some parents let thier kids get away with behaving like that. Fair enough if the fall made her nervous so she doesn't want to ride but that doesn't mean she should abandon the horse for her mother to do.
 
I sympathise with the mother!My 15 yr old daughter is very 'Kevin and Perry' at the moment and seems to be prioritising friends before horse(have had many rows bout it).Mother is probably concerned about what daughter will get up to if no horse(crosses my mind a lot).Different situation tho COS I am having her horse if she gives up - shes a babe!!But horse would def be sold/I take it if daughter did not take any notice of it or try and address confidence thing since summer.
 
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I sympathise with the mother!My 15 yr old daughter is very 'Kevin and Perry' at the moment and seems to be prioritising friends before horse(have had many rows bout it).Mother is probably concerned about what daughter will get up to if no horse(crosses my mind a lot).Different situation tho COS I am having her horse if she gives up - shes a babe!!But horse would def be sold/I take it if daughter did not take any notice of it or try and address confidence thing since summer.

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Mum has talked about taking up riding as then she would benefit from doing the horse, however I wouldn't describe her as a novice ride so they would be better off with something a little quieter that mum can ride if she wants to.
 
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