Bonding with your horse..

Aidey

Aidey

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Cut a long story short (well I will try and keep it short!) I got Aidey my warmblood in 2004, I already had a 14 year old TB Gelding called Harley which I bought to jump but figured out dressage was really more his thing. Kept him anyway and mum bought me Aidey from a reputable dealer who imported good quality warmbloods, she was from Belgium, good bloodlines, was 4years old, well schooled, amazing jump, temperament to match with the added bonus of blanket spot colouring! I felt like I connected with Harley (TB) and that we somehow understood eachother, he seemed so easy to ride and after riding him I always felt good about myself. January 2010 I sold Harley to a lady I know and Aidey was out on loan as at the time I had had enough of horses and thought I wanted to give up. That lasted until August 2010 and I really missed having a horse in my life. Mum said I couldn't have Aidey back as this lady still had her on loan so she bought me Maisie as an early 21st present. 3 weeks later the lady phoned up saying she was giving Aidey back! A good friend of the family now looks after and rides Aidey for me, but straight away I felt the strong bond with Maisie, I have so much time and patience with her, which really I should have for Aidey as I feel I could do alot better with her.

So what Im asking really does anybody else feel like this about their horses? What would you do in my situation? Why do you think this is?
 
Sorry lol I kept adding and deleting bits. Basically I feel like I have bonded straight away with a horse I got 6 months ago but still feel like I cant 'connect' with a mare I have had for 7 years :(
 
If you cannot "connect" with Aidey, but you have with Maisie, then why are you keeping Aidey? I understand your mum bought her for you, but surely you mum would be a little upset that she spent money on a horse that you "don't like" and someone else is enjoying her? Don't get me wrong, I'm not being nasty, I guess because having one horse in my life would be a dream, reading about someone who's mum has bought her a horse on 2 occasions, but only really likes one, is a little bizarre (for me anyway?).

Just sell Aidey and concerntrate on Maisie!
 
Maybe , as you already had your TB , and then Aidey went on loan , perhaps ( and this certainly isn't a criticism) you haven't spent as much one to one time with her as you have with your new horse? As you're getting on with maisie so well now , it may be a good time to either find another loan home for aidey ( so you can ultimately make those big decisions about her future } or sell her to someone who will click with her... I'm sure your mum will understand.
 
Hello,

I know what you mean totally, horses are just like people some you like, some you don't, some you just get along with......
I love my old mare Red but we never bonded as a team, my sister rode her. My current riding horse ffin and i get along great and he will stay my riding horse and until his ringbone is too much for him.
Aaaah my new one...Moses, it was love at first sight, even covered in mud and lice in a gpysy field i knew, I broke all the rules in buying him but he makes my heart stop when I looked at him. My sister has just spent seven grand on a horse and is alway talking about selling her on. I could NEVER sell Moses unless i could not care for him, as far as I am concerned a horse should make you smile when you think about them, then you know you have the right one. There is nothing wrong with admitting you don't connect and then giving the animal the chance to find the right person. Your a nice person to think about it so much!:) ( sorry about spelling, never my strong point!)
 
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