can you believe it -my grooms done a runner!!!!!(MY RANT)

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oh my god....

i've had a lovely groom working for me over the last couple of months. it was her first time living away from home - and couldn't drive - so was limited to where she went i guess... but lived with a very friendly family in a fab house with big bedroom - own bathroom... and i knew she must be homesick sometimes (although she never said) and suggested she had a friend come live with her (lots of yards round me need help)...
and then having had a long winded story about how her horse was being lent to a friend for a week (her horse was kept on my yard) - she went with the transport company yesterday- and then text me today (just as i was leaving to pick her up from the station) didn't even call... and told me she wouldnt be coming back...
so has left me in the lurch with 11 horses on my own (and with 2 broken fingers)... im shocked stunned and rather gutted - i honestly cant believe someone could do this to someone else.... even if she'd said "i F**kING hate you - im leaving" that'd be fine.... but some warning would have been nice!!!
not to mention her bedroom and bathroom are in a shocking dirty state - as is the stable her horse was in! what ever happened to gratitude - or at least a little common courtesy!!
ok - im done ranting now - just wanted to share my frustration!!! sadly - im sure im not the only one this has ever happened to!!!
 
A long time ago, when i was 16 first time away from home everything ok for some time but i did the same, left my employer in lurch with a 1yrold ,pregnant, husband offshore, i was totally too young to live away from home and never had the guts to tell her i was leaving , guess it has to do with immaturity?? Older people are so much better....
 
S_J what a total an utter cowbag
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Where are you, if you are near me I will help you out if I can
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How old is she? The lending horse to friend thing was more than likely made up so she didn't have to face you or return to pick up her horse. Gutless.
 
Well I have had experience of two of the most shocking grooms living with us, again same story own double with shower room wc en suite, decent pay and working conditions and both of them went out with a bang so to speak lol.

One tried to have an affair with my childminders husband (good family friends) and nearly split up the family and they have two kids and the other one well she was too strange and I caught her going through my files with my families passports and financial stuff in and she managed to aquire the pass to my pc and started using my msn to tell my friends we were starving her and not paying her.... imagine!

But although we have had a few disasters on the whole we have had some great grooms from the UK to stay out with us in Norway, some come on a shorter term contract and other stay more than a year, at the moment there is a lady staying with us from the US and she is fantastic but she goes back in Oct due to the fact she can only legally stay here for 3 months as she is not from an EU country. So we are searching for a competition rider from Oct on a long term contract, ad on yard and groom under Norway if anyone is curious...
 
QR. young girls walk in and out of grooming jobs, it just happens. hire someone older and more mature and make it worth their while to stay.
although having worked in the horse industry for over 20 years, I always wonder about the other side of the story when posts like this come up.
 
How awful to be left like that. I do think some younger people find it difficult to say something they think will be disappointing to someone. I'm sure she was aware how lucky she was with her surroundings so prob couldn't let you down face to face.
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Sorry to hear about your predicament.

Sometimes people dont realise how lucky they are but again its probably her age.

I've been office bound all my life and hate it with a vengeance. I would love a horsey job, even if didnt come with a lot of riding. I can drive a lorry (I have my own) and could do administration as well as muck in with the horses.

I've owned horses all my life, currently I have 3 and a donkey although sometimes I think i've got 4 donkeys!

Unfortunately I cant afford to give up my office as it would mean giving up my donkeys.

So all you grooms out there with great bosses just take a step back before you chuck it all in.

You dont realise how lucky you are!!!!

Good luck with finding a replacement groom!
 
Oh God thats not good - poor you. I hope you manage to get it all sorted quickly.

These posts do make me wish I'd taken a job I was offered in a stud in Carolina, I don't understand where there can be such a breakdown she didn't have the decency to tell you even yesterday.

Maybe I really should jack in the office work and become a full time groom.
 
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&lt;slight derailing of topic&gt;I left an employer "in the lurch" many many years ago. I had to travel to the other end of the country to get to her place and she was drunk when I got there, I was too exhausted from the journey to say anything ...
My room was a box room with a mattress that had been laid on some boxes and crates of whatever sort they'd gotten a hold of, the carpet was covered in dog hair, the kids were allowed to leave shoes and other "unhygienic" things on the kitchen table that we all ate off (and I was a bit OCD those days).
One of her horses was a biter and no one told me (ow! ow!!) her youngest daughter was cheeky and gave me wrong information about looking after the horses, causing the husband to yell at me
"Um I just did what she said" got me another ear blasting for blaming the "child". Wasn't my fault the woman herself was too embarrassed by her drunkenness my first night to speak to me!
They also had a savage looking GSD that went mental if I went near it, and I was terrified was going to eat me (not my fault I'd recently seen An American Werewolf in London!).
I stuck it our for a week then burst out crying and pretended to be homesick (which I most certainly wasn't) and she let me go home ... Took me 20 seconds to pack as I'd not unpacked in the first place. I left wearing what I'd had on all morning, manure and all!

That woman seemed to think she was doing OK and couldn't understand why I wanted to leave. "Do you want more money?" I could hardly say, "no your husband's a rude bastard, the other groom's a neo nazi racist, my bed's made of boxes and I'm too scared to use the bathroom cos it's never been fecking cleaned!" (which it hadn't *shudders*), or could I have?&lt;/slight derailing of topic&gt;
 
I am in Surrey and desperate for work after being let down on starting a grooms job this Monday coming.

Where abouts in Berkshire are you?
 
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