Christmas time

[snowangel5]

So what did you all do for the day and if you did a secret Santa were you the giver or rectiver

i got riding silk and long riding socks and a Harry Potter baking book

 

[Mule]

I ate lots ? Didn't do secret Santa. Got useful presents, which are my favourite kind. Horse stuff, house stuff, bath and shower stuff as well as fluffy slippers and socks

 

[Ratface]

The cat and I stayed in bed most of the day. Cat snoozing over a full tummy. Me reading and listening to R4.
Beloved old horse is on full livery. Very competent YO: very controlling about how often I can see him and for how long. She bred him. I've had a number of discussions about this but she shouts at me, which I hate. Sometimes I think it will be easier when he dies. I can loan a youngster from a friend, and see him whenever I want.
I've had horses all my life. When I'm not allowed to see him, I miss him so much.
Generally feeling downhearted about getting older and more frail.

 

[AmyMay]

The cat and I stayed in bed most of the day. Cat snoozing over a full tummy. Me reading and listening to R4.
Beloved old horse is on full livery. Very competent YO: very controlling about how often I can see him and for how long. She bred him. I've had a number of discussions about this but she shouts at me, which I hate. Sometimes I think it will be easier when he dies. I can loan a youngster from a friend, and see him whenever I want.
I've had horses all my life. When I'm not allowed to see him, I miss him so much.
Generally feeling downhearted about getting older and more frail.

???????

 

[Cowpony]

The cat and I stayed in bed most of the day. Cat snoozing over a full tummy. Me reading and listening to R4.
Beloved old horse is on full livery. Very competent YO: very controlling about how often I can see him and for how long. She bred him. I've had a number of discussions about this but she shouts at me, which I hate. Sometimes I think it will be easier when he dies. I can loan a youngster from a friend, and see him whenever I want.
I've had horses all my life. When I'm not allowed to see him, I miss him so much.
Generally feeling downhearted about getting older and more frail.

That's awful and not ok. He's your horse, not hers!

 

[Spotherisk]

The cat and I stayed in bed most of the day. Cat snoozing over a full tummy. Me reading and listening to R4.
Beloved old horse is on full livery. Very competent YO: very controlling about how often I can see him and for how long. She bred him. I've had a number of discussions about this but she shouts at me, which I hate. Sometimes I think it will be easier when he dies. I can loan a youngster from a friend, and see him whenever I want.
I've had horses all my life. When I'm not allowed to see him, I miss him so much.
Generally feeling downhearted about getting older and more frail.

I’m very sorry you’re feeling downhearted, but can you now move to another yard?!

 

[PinkvSantaboots]

The cat and I stayed in bed most of the day. Cat snoozing over a full tummy. Me reading and listening to R4.
Beloved old horse is on full livery. Very competent YO: very controlling about how often I can see him and for how long. She bred him. I've had a number of discussions about this but she shouts at me, which I hate. Sometimes I think it will be easier when he dies. I can loan a youngster from a friend, and see him whenever I want.
I've had horses all my life. When I'm not allowed to see him, I miss him so much.
Generally feeling downhearted about getting older and more frail.

Omg why don't you just move yards yo then no control over your horses life or yours.

 

[PinkvSantaboots]

I and oh ate out on Christmas day it was OK not the greatest food but nice to be out and we enjoyed the day and evening.

Got some really lovely clothes from Dark horse and le mieux, make up and perfume and very happy ?

 

[ponynutz]

Horses had a lovely time stuffing themselves of an xmas dinner of grass in the summer field. We did similar No horsey presents apart from a new pair of my fave riding leggings!

 

[Dave's Mam]

The cat and I stayed in bed most of the day. Cat snoozing over a full tummy. Me reading and listening to R4.
Beloved old horse is on full livery. Very competent YO: very controlling about how often I can see him and for how long. She bred him. I've had a number of discussions about this but she shouts at me, which I hate. Sometimes I think it will be easier when he dies. I can loan a youngster from a friend, and see him whenever I want.
I've had horses all my life. When I'm not allowed to see him, I miss him so much.
Generally feeling downhearted about getting older and more frail.

This seems wrong. Hope you are ok.

 

[paddy555]

This seems wrong. Hope you are ok.

I hope you are OK as well Ratface,

 

[Squeak]

The cat and I stayed in bed most of the day. Cat snoozing over a full tummy. Me reading and listening to R4.
Beloved old horse is on full livery. Very competent YO: very controlling about how often I can see him and for how long. She bred him. I've had a number of discussions about this but she shouts at me, which I hate. Sometimes I think it will be easier when he dies. I can loan a youngster from a friend, and see him whenever I want.
I've had horses all my life. When I'm not allowed to see him, I miss him so much.
Generally feeling downhearted about getting older and more frail.

Hope you’re ok Rf. Are you able to move yards?

 

[ILuvCowparsely]

So what did you all do for the day and if you did a secret Santa were you the giver or rectiver

i got riding silk and long riding socks and a Harry Potter baking book

Worked as normal I own this livery - horses stay in- but the same routine, my husband and I don't celebrate Christmas anymore. He doesn't even send xmas cards now, I send a select few. No tree no decorations - we still have to buy presents for family, but I have a strict policy, I am done with trapesing through town in hustle, and car park prices and only coming out with one present try to think of a presents, only to find it goes on freecycle or sold after xmas.
. Its *give me your wish list or you get a voucher* Simple.

 

[Ratface]

Thank you for your kind responses.
I have thought of moving, and actually arranged to do so.
I haven't, because I know that YO is utterly reliable and extremely knowledgeable in her management of him. He is with his relatives, settled and respected.
He is big, flouncy, and an occasionally difficult animal. I know him backwards and so does the YO and her team.
Before I got him, he'd had a rather dreary time, being passed from pillar to post.
Again, thanks for reading.

 

[Reacher]

We had a quiet Christmas, my parents who are elderly and I don’t get to see very often visited which was nice. We don’t do presents except for giving my parents some home made jams etc. They kindly gave mr Reacher and I cash.

Thank you for your kind responses.
I have thought of moving, and actually arranged to do so.
I haven't, because I know that YO is utterly reliable and extremely knowledgeable in her management of him. He is with his relatives, settled and respected.
He is big, flouncy, and an occasionally difficult animal. I know him backwards and so does the YO and her team.
Before I got him, he'd had a rather dreary time, being passed from pillar to post.
Again, thanks for reading.

I quite understand how important it is having someone you trust look after your horse, especially (apologies if I have misunderstood) if you are older, but owning a horse is meant to bring you pleasure and it sounds like you are bullied by the YO. Is this a normal livery yard and are there other liveries / can they visit their horses as they want? Apologies if you weren’t wanting to talk about it further .

 

[southerncomfort]

The cat and I stayed in bed most of the day. Cat snoozing over a full tummy. Me reading and listening to R4.
Beloved old horse is on full livery. Very competent YO: very controlling about how often I can see him and for how long. She bred him. I've had a number of discussions about this but she shouts at me, which I hate. Sometimes I think it will be easier when he dies. I can loan a youngster from a friend, and see him whenever I want.
I've had horses all my life. When I'm not allowed to see him, I miss him so much.
Generally feeling downhearted about getting older and more frail.

This is awful!

Are their no other yards in the area?

ETA: this is normal. A good yard will take just as good care of your horse without being dictatorial towards owners.

If you can give a rough area where you are maybe someone here can recommend a yard.

 

[southerncomfort]

We've had my mum and dad here and it's been lovely to have a normal Christmas!

I have lovely new breeches, Karl Greenwood's book and another book about mindfulness and horses which is intriguing and I'm looking forward to reading.

Parents are off home this morning and I'm a bit done with Christmas now. Would quite like to go to sleep and wake up on 1st January now please!

 

[Toby_Zaphod]

Christmas day we always go down to the stables to see the horses, they're part of the family. They are turned out & mucked out & we all have bucks fizz. Later we bring them in, groom them & they have their dinners. At Christmas they have a dinner with lost of veg same as we have for our dinner. They have sprouts, carrots, parsnips, with their normal feeds. Our YO doesn't do livery on Xmas day or New Years day so everyone does their own horses those days.

 

[Chappie]

Ratface I hope you are ok and managed to see your horse - I can relate in some aspects to your situation, so see how you can't really move without causing massive disruption. And you want the best for your horse, who is settled. Difficult situation. I hope you can enjoy the time you do spend with him.

 

[Cragrat]

Ratface - that does seem a tough situation. We obviously don't know the whole picture, but it does seem like the YO is being a bully. Your horse, you pay the bills, your should be able to see him as and when you wish, and enjoy time with hime as you please.
I do hope you are ok