Convincing my parents??

[katieluvshorses]

I have been horseless for about three months now and on FaceBook I noticed that a girl from my old farm is part loaning her horse out for three days a week. I have ridden him a couple of times before and we get on great! However my mum said no when I asked her? How can I convince her that this is a good idea and why might she be saying no?? Thank you

 

[Auslander]

Confused - you posted about a new horse only yesterdy?

 

[ester]

Confused - you posted about a new horse only yesterdy?

Yes, this!?

 

[Barnacle]

Is this perhaps the same horse? Did you think she would agree and was asking for advice on what to do with him and then she said no?

If you're not sure why your mum said no, you should ask her to explain.

Do you also do lessons? Perhaps your parents can't afford to pay for both or maybe they don't have time to supervise you.

How much experience do you have riding and caring for horses?

 

[Shay]

There are hundreds - if not thousands! - of reasons why parents might say no. The only way to find out is to ask them I'm afraid. No-one on a forum is going to be able to tell you the answer I'm afraid. And without that answer we can't make any suggestions on ways you might address the issues. Sorry.

 

[wkiwi]

Sit down and make a list of all the benefits riding this horse might bring (not just on the lines of 'I want to ride') e.g. healthier lifestyle, taking responsibility etc.
Then, work out how you are going to pay for your share (and whether or not you will be responsible for part vet fees etc.). Do you need a part-time job?
Think of reasons why it might not be a good idea from your parents point of view e.g. they might be worried you won't keep up with your school work. Write down counter measures for these points e.g. work out the time it will take you to do horse, then do a time budget of when you can fit your homework in on those nights.
Then, ask your mother if you can sit down and discuss it. Have your arguments ready and ask her why she feels it would not be a good idea. You may have to prove in advance that you can take on the responsiblity etc. (e.g. are your school grades good, do you earn any money at the moment doing odd jobs etc.,).
Make sure you have details of the share contract too, so that you know your responsibilities e.g. what happens if you are sick and can't get to the horse on those days? How long do you have to commit for and is there a penalty for pulling out early?

I am not a parent, but from their point of view i would be saying "why is it a good idea anyway; horses are dangerous expensive luxury items that interfere with you doing your chores and your homework; we can't afford for you to do that,etc. etc."
If you can think of all the counter-arguments (and come up with solutions) then you are more likely to get a positive response than going along the lines of "I want a pony".

 

[wkiwi]

I have just realised that i have also replied to your other post about already having a new horse.
I have to say that if you already told the owner that you would share him, and then asked your mother who said no, then this is highly irresponsible and maybe your mother is correct in that you are not ready for the responsibility yet. I would also be highly annoyed if i was the person looking for a sharer, as they will be expecting you to commit to looking after the horse.

I may have this wrong, but it does seem that your two threads indicate this! Perhaps you could clarify.