crazy livery - what would you do?

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I have been at my current yard for just over 2 years and I love it, most of my horsey friends are there (who I have known for well over 15 years).

I have a youngster who is 20 months old.

Recently (in the last 6 months) a new livery has moved on. We have mutual horsey friends and she seemed nice enough except she keeps trying to get on my youngster. In the field. Bareback.

The first time I was made aware of this I obviously told her I didn't want her to do it. It seems my simple reasonable request has provoked her to attempt it all the more as she 'doesnt like being told what to do'!

I domy want to have to move yards to get away from her but the farmer will not get involved and I'm really outstanded with her actions I don't know what to do?
 
Have another quiet word with your famer, the farm I was on in wales, he hated getting involved in Girly disputes - but he needs to establish ground rules whether he wants to get involved or not. I would also tell this girl to back off your youngster - is there any way of moving fields or electrocuting her if she comes into your paddock?
 
I think I would be making some pretty nasty threats at this stage! If it continued, I would be carrying them out! I'm assuming this isn't come dopey child we're talking about?!
 
What a stupid person!
How dare they do that.

If she wont listen to a resonable request I would make it unresonable!

"Stay off my horse or you are dead!" kind of thing!

why would a sane person do that?
If she really wont listen and the yard owner wont get involed unfortunatly maybe the safest thing is to move to another yard.
Somewhere without stupid people and where the yard owner will control everyone!
 
I can't see any option but to be upfront about this. Put a notice up on your gate to all liveries warning them anyone seen riding your horse will be getting a visit from WHW. (and do it, their Inspector will back you up with a horse that age)
Or tell her the horse has a back injury and ask her to desist..
 
I would be having serious works as it is your youngsters well fair at risk
It is totally unacceptable for her to be doing that
I would also get the other people on the yard if u asking her has no affect but if this carries on personally I would consider moving for my horses sake
N&F
 
No not some dopey kid, she is in her late 20's, has a professional job and for the most part seems sane - although I have come to the conclusion she has a screw loose somewhere!

As above I would not dream of getting on anyone else horse without permission, never mind a youngster so I am shocked at her actions and response when asked not to.

The advice about WHW is a good one that I hadn't thought of so that will be my next step.

I don't want to resort to violence although if I do catch her in the act...
 
I would consider writing her a note saying something in the words of "If you are seen getting on my horse/trying to get on my horse again, you will be recieving a vets bill to check my horse over, due to the possible damage you could do sitting on a horse of this age"
 
I just read this to my non horsey mum and her solution is to put a price list on your gate and next time she is caught "bill her for the ride" :O
In all seriousness though what she is doing is out of line. I'm curious as to why she would want to do it in the first place. Shame you couldn't get your vet to have a word with her.
As a last resort I'd kick her a**e from here to the nearest livery.
 
All good advice :-)

I think part of the problem is that he already stands at almost 16 hh and doesnt look like a baby - no excuse though, she knows exactly how old he is.
 
Do you want to borrow our mare, tell her she can't get on her in the field and then stand back to watch the fireworks!! She wouldn't do it twice!!

Seriously, I would tell her that should she be injured then she won't be claiming off your insurance as you have asked her not to do it and pointed out the risks. You may have to just settle for warning her off quite firmly, the YO owes you and your horse a duty of care, he should be dealing with this for you.
 
I think you need to tackle this head on and have VERY stern words with her face to face. The idiocy of some people never ceases to amaze me. I would be asking her what the hell she was playing at and in no uncertain terms she is NEVER to repeat her actions. Sorry but this has really got my back up. What a stupid woman.......
 
How very very odd!!

I would be screaming at her!!!

What does she do with her own horse? Does she mess about with anyone elses? Just seems a very bizarre thing to do!
 
Try dragging her to the floor by her hair, then jump on her, bounce up and down, and ask her how she likes it.....
Seriously though, what an in idiot. As others have said the farmer should be giving her a formal warning. She clearly has half a brain. I'm actually quite shocked that anyone could be that ignorant and disrespectful.
What do your mutual friends say? Can't they back you up?
 
I agree with the comments about reporting her. I would put a notice on your gate, stable and yard noticeboard to say that if any more attempts to ride this youngster are noted you will be taking legal action. A solicitors letter may help to follow up if need be.

I would also go back to your yard owner. Interested or not, don't they have a duty of care for the horses on their yard? I would say that you have been very happy at the yard, but are very worried about your property (horse) being damaged (while he knows about the situation) and that it would be much easier for him to have a quiet word with the new livery than get involved with the legal situation that will arise if not. Be aware that he could just say "sling your hook". Perhaps get a few other liveries together who are having problems... Even though my horse is not a youngster I would still be annoyed if someone else was getting on her in the field..

Failing all that, move?
 
I can honestly say I've never been unfortunate enough to meet or know such a idiot where horses are concerned.
I also have a youngster, if this had happened to mine my YO would deal with it, and rightly so. Your YO needs to step up and realise that running a yard means setting ground rules which should include not interfering or messing with other peoples horses - go talk to your YO again.

If the YO didn't step up then I'd say fine I'll deal with it myself but don't complain how.
Me, I'd make a strong point by doing something where her horse was concerned, and I'd make sure she sees then ask: have I made my point?
If that didn't work, she'd find out just how good my Taekwon-do is ;)
 
i think she would be seeing a dentist about false teeth right about now..... as id have punched them down her throat.....


If anyone rode my horse (whos 5 and backed) without my permission, i would not be held responsible for my actions, never mind a baby!!
 
Try going and jumping up and down on her car bonnet - then laughing when she tells you not to and asking her if that is a challenge?
 
Wow. If I caught someone doing that I'd go ape****!

I think a "GET THE HELL OFF MY HORSE RIGHT NOW!" would be in order followed by "Have you lost your ****ing mind?! What gives you the right to do such a careless thing?! If I ever, EVER catch you doing that again, you'll be hearing from my vet/attorney!" etc.
 
Let her hear through the grapevine that your horse has back trouble and you suspect she is the cause of it and if you get proof that she has been sitting on your youngster, she is likely to be getting a big bill. Hint that it could be a lasting problem...

Or put treacle on the rug!
 
I can't believe someone would do that to someone else's horse, need to nip it in the bud pretty damn quick. If she falls off or your horse injures her she seems the type that would blame you. Silly silly woman grrrr.
 
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