Daughter off to uni,do i take on her horse ?

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We have a lovley share horse for my daughter who is off to uni in september.
We had to have her mare pts and i didnt want to buy so this arrangement has and is working beautifully.
I have a 21 yr old happy hacker at home but have taken the opportunity to restart schooling,jumping and wanting to compete again after 20 years of being daughters groom. At the moment we share the cost and the riding ,but daughter is braver and better than me happily jumping the big stuff.
I am in 2 minds what to do. am really enjoying it all but worried of the extra commitment, yard is half an hour away but also only go once a day on our days and owner is super flexible.
I also know i will desperatley miss my lovley daughter but am so happy for her. I need a project to keep me busy.
How many parents have taken on their childrens horse ? and pros and cons please.
The financial arrangement is very reasonable and the yard shes on is v friendly with super facilities ie floodlit school,off road hacking and nice people but i also have a 16 yr oldson who will be at 6th form so dont want to go awol. and a job.
 
I assume you already make time for your son as well as being groom to your daughter so would you riding rather her be that different? At the moment, you're probably away as much, just standing on the sidelines rather than doing it. I'd go for it, life's too short!
 
Talk to the owner about it, maybe try a 6 month trial? Atleast you don't own the horse so if it doesn't work out you're not stuck with a horse needing to be sold
 
Debsflo, you KNOW the answer! I'm in a similar position to you (but probably older than you.... I'm a late starter!). I've one daughter starting uni overseas this year, and the other child to my dismay has chosen to go to boarding school.
Simply stated, the beginning of the "empty nest" syndrome is upon me. There is only one palatable way of coping - more horses and more riding! It's clear you enjoy it, are experienced etc and you've spent many years supporting your daughter's riding.

Now it's time to enjoy your own riding and competing. Your 6th-former will probably be perfectly content to see you out there riding and competing; it's not like he'll study less because of your riding, or study more if you're sitting at home missing your daughter!

Please post pics of your first competition on your daughter's share horse! :D
 
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