dealing with people saying negative things about your horse

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How do you deal with others making comments about your horse constantly, this has been going on for months and months and has really ground me down now so im moving yard, it all started when someone who the lets say well known person at yard s pal came and had been several times over the months said really liked my horse and would like him enough to buy him i was so shocked, not that hes for sale mind, but put long story short the knives have been well and truly in since then esp when someone has a very expensive youngster on yard its sad really , i herd a comment today in earshot to a new livery and they said my horse didnt do something right ....!Neither of these ride the person who said it hasnt got a horse neither i just ignored it and walked away and went home wouldnt mind if he was a **** hes such a nice neddy well mannered my perfect partner
 
I personally do not give 2 hoots what people think and say about me and my horses. If they dont like then its hard luck. If I heard them saying horrid comments I would just tell them to keep their opinions to themselves as Im not interested.

I certainly wouldnt be pushed out of a yard I was happy at because of silly comments.

I do feel for you though, its not a nice atmosphere.
 
Give them an almighty smile :D :D :D :D

the amount of things we've had said about ourselves and Kelly behind our backs - of course too much effort to say it to our faces - is unreal but unfortunately you get it everywhere.
At the end of the day, you know you've got your perfect horse - ever heard of the green eyed monster...?

Tends to bring out a lot of bitching in people ;)
Don't worry - enjoy life and your horse. Life's too short too listen to small minded people who haven't a clue.

K x
 
I just nod and agree with them...I have reached the happy stage in my life where I don't care what others say, or think, about my horses, or me.

He's your horse, if you are happy with him then that is all that matters to be honest. :) we can't all like the same thing, it would be so dull if we did. Ignore the comments, easier said than done perhaps, maybe some of this stems from jealousy?

Or, you could join the club and insult their horses if it made you feel better, but when I have sunk to that in the past it just made me come away feeling rather shamefaced and vicious, not something I felt proud of, or repeated again.
 
On the whole I don't give a hoot what others say about my horse, she's mine so it don't matter :D

The only time I did was when someone, totally out of the blue, said she 'hated that mare of mine' - I was totally shocked! I won't go into detail, but it did wind me :(

I know that sometimes people say things about Dizz because of how she looks, as compared to how I look, and how good she could be comapred to how bad I am lol, but hey ho, poo to them :D
 
ignore them, they dont know your horse at all they are just jealous
there was a girl at our school who used to say things like that pony is way to good and too strong for her why did she buy him? etc
also she was saying when i was about to buy him oh why is she buying a horse i bet shes not a good enough rider o have her own pony etc
and this girl claimed to be my friend !
just ignore them they are jealous!
 
"I just nod and agree with them...I have reached the happy stage in my life where I don't care what others say, or think, about my horses, or me.

He's your horse, if you are happy with him then that is all that matters to be honest. we can't all like the same thing, it would be so dull if we did. Ignore the comments, easier said than done perhaps, maybe some of this stems from jealousy?"

I agree but then I'm a mule owner so have to have a thick skin (Just don't mention the "D" word :D )
 
ugh some people are just vial (spl) ... When i first got my ex racer i recieved many a comment on how ugly he was and his head was to big and that he'd never be any good at anything because he was a racer etc then a year later there all oh hes lovely bla bla bla so i just say yes i no he is haha :p ... A person who was suppose to be my friend commented on him saying hes cr*p at everything apart from dressage, no wait e aint even good at that!!! Some friend but tbh i think she was just a jealous cow haha ... I also have repeated comments on how much other liveries hate my horse and hate his colour etc i just say well you dont need to like him as hes mine not yours ... Maybe these people passing comments are just jealous :D
 
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Ayla constantly gets called a bitch and a bully by one person on the farm....she`s not one she doesnt just appreciate new mares sniffing her lady bits she`s not a lesbian or a dog:D i just smile and say she`s my bitch:p
 
It gets to me when people say stuff about my horse as well and even though i know she's isn't worth this, and can do that but it's just makes me and my horse closer together! Just ignore them :D

x
 
Rise above them. If they want to be immature and pathetic enough to be unpleasant about your horse, let them, they are not worth the breath it would take you to reply ;)

Also, go out and prove them wrong!! :)
 
I'm used to it .......I have pointers and each year Mackenzie and Selby comes out and varioulsy describes my lovelys as 'useless, diabolical etc.' Even the horse who won three times for us in one season, they described him as having 'sadistic tendancies' !! Although I think the compliment came when they said after one of his wins, that he was not one dimensional.......The book is usually my Xmas present (it costs £50, so has ruined several Xmas's to date....)
In your situation - I would say, probably ignore!
 
Best way of dealing with people who say things like that? (and this works) is to walk over and say, "I am sure you didn't mean that to sound as nasty as that did you?" honestly its brilliant, because they either have to back down or at the very least makes them think twice about what they say.
 
I had a few negative comments when I first bought mine but then he was pretty darn hard to catch! Now that we've developed a bond it doesn't bother me, that and the fact he runs to see me now! They can say what they want - I'm well aware of any flaws.

I did cry though when the farrier said, 'hope you don't mind me saying, but you don't half have your work cut out'!

Ignore them, focus on what makes you and your horse happy.
 
Ignore Ignore Ignore,they aint worth the bother
Let them do what they do as they obviously have to much time on their hands.
Enjoy your horse x hes yours not theirs, perhaps that the problem Jealous.
 
There was some scoffing at our yard when my horse arrived - he's a 15hh half arab pretty boy and not a big scopey German stallion. (but that's Belgium)

However, he is winning his competitions (not a great level but he's getting there) and they aren't.

Snobberie takes different forms all over the world but love and real achievement (not necessarily in competitions, maybe just a great leg yield) are what counts in my book :)
 
I ignore them, everyone else at my yard has proper eventers or show jumpers(even the ten year old) and i have a big, fat native pony. But when i walk past her field she neighs and comes running to say hello and i KNOW that no matter what i ask her to do she will honestly try her best. So i dont care when they say things about how she can jump smaller jumps than the ten year olds horse or how she cant do dressage properly. When walking past the other horses on the yard they all look braindead and thats one thing you can't accuse mine of! I much prefer her willing personality and general nice attitude to the ability to be the best horse on the yard, so i ignore them all.
 
Thank-you for all your kind remarks hes right for me and my family ,hes excellent with my kids from 6yo up he may not be everyones cup of tea but hes mine and needs no sugar added i know its normal thing in horsey land but honestly i do have a thick skin i will ignore and smile and think about all the kind things people have said ,didnt expect much feed back if any you have all helped , thank-you
 
'she may not be everyones cup of tea but she's mine' is my mantra. never heard the sugar bit but will use that now too, thanks lol.
I have had it for years. People are frightened of her because she is a feisty ex racer. She is sharp and sensitive but has never tried to hurt anyone, never lifted a hoof ever at anyone. They don't like that she is only interested in me. She is perfect to lead and work with and also to ride, unlike some others who need dulally halters, get led out in bridles etc. I had one say the other day after I took pleasure in saying that a total novice had a sit on her and was a gem. One person commented that she would never get on her. Just as well really as they wouldn't be invited :p The 'friend' who i bought her from and kept her at her place was really horrible about her and told people she would kill me and that she hated her. I kept the horse and ditched the 'friend'. 7 years later, I still have her and she is amazing.
 
Just ignore.

Dorey is apparently a violent, aggressive, crazy animal I should have shot, she's badly trained and bad to handle...

I find this hard to believe when she's the sort of horse who gives cuddles to a 5yo girl...

And my foal was going to be a bitch 2 years before she was concieved. Thats a personal favourite.

Dorey and River's haters use HHO though. So I'm going to get back into riding, show the world Dorey is a fabby horse, keep you up to date with River's progress, and wait for them to think up something else to be jealous of me for... PMSL!
 
Well OP, next time you hear a b*tchy comment about your horse, you only need to say, 'That'll be why X offered ££ to buy him from me then!'
Just take no notice of them!
 
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