stormox
Well-Known Member
Aren't we all many faceted anyway? We can all be who we want on FB.....
Just ignore or block ones you dont like. Simples.
Just ignore or block ones you dont like. Simples.
I feel almost compelled though because i can see it as wrong. I can understand why people might change details on the forum if they've been bullied or targeted by trolls and i can understand the odd white lie if it saves face in a particular situation but to proclaim that you've just come back from Scope Festival with your horse that's just gone really well in a 1.20 and leave out the small detail that you weren't actually the one riding it is just really weird in my eyes.
I used to compete unaff elementary on my horse. Quite often the prelim and Novice classes would be fairly full but I'd often struggle with finding another horse in my Elementary class, much less two or three. Most often we'd win (I'm not being big headed when i say that) so I'd go back to the yard and get asked how I'd got on. But i would always say "I won, but there was only two of us in the class". Never did i make out i was the next Charlotte De Jardin i guess I'm not a very good liar. Nor would i want to lie. And i would always worry about getting found out as i know someone who said they'd won a class, when i looked at the results they'd actually got eliminated lol
You know, I find if ironic that so many people are telling the OP to turn a blind eye to behavior she doesn't like or want to see on social media, yet here are several others complaining about the OP instead of turning a blind eye.
If people want to rant, fine. Sometimes it's petty, but whatever. I might not agree with said rant but I figure the person had a moment of frustration and move along.
It is irritating to see people make up a whole different reality sometimes, especially when you know the truth (just saying in general, not specific to this OP). Most days you can ignore and get on with it, sometimes it might get to you. We're only human. I do my best to fill my FB news feed with certain people and things, and this does make life better on there.
OP has specifically invited comment from HHO'ers by posting on here
Two threads is hardly ‘a lot’This story doesn’t sound legitimate as it goes on. It keeps changing as more people are replaying. Probably someone with to much time on there hands. A lot the threads op has made aren’t very nice.
Starting a thread with the specific intent to bitch about someone, and have others agree with you, IS bullying. It's not 'being honest' or 'the good old days'. Why does it matter if they fabricate a
you lot do make me laugh ? you accuse people of being bullies yet actively join in yourselves! Hypocrites.So op isn't on the same yard as the individual,
Doesn't follow them,
And is basing the entire 'rant' off second hand gossip?
Yeah, 'oh dear' sounds about right tbh.
It is half term though I suppose.
you lot do make me laugh ? you accuse people of being bullies yet actively join in yourselves! Hypocrites.
anyway back to school it is! ?
I haven’t bullied anyone either!It's really not bullying. It's commenting on a thread in which you have specifically encouraged people to do so.
Nope. Haven’t said that. They are not on my yard.So, to clarify- you don't follow this person, and you haven't seen their posts, and they aren't on your yard- presumably you don't know them that well? But you feel entitled to start a thread insinuating they're lying about having a disability?
It doesn't really feel like you are covering yourself with glory, here, OP.
Nope. Haven’t said that. They are not on my yard.
I do know them. I have seen their page. I don’t doubt their disabilitie(s)
I don’t follow them (for fear of repeating myself) I am not on social media.
Because.... people like this who deceive people set up Just Giving pages, Crowdfunding and so on. Innocent people then hand over their hard earned cash because of what they ‘believe’ to be true.so what is the issue exactly? someone may be presenting a somewhat edited version of their life on social media. people who know them in person probably can tell which bits are more realistic than others. other people can choose or not to engage with them on SM, you've chosen not to. we all know this kind of thing happens on social media and to take a lot of it with a pinch of salt.
So.... why does it matter?
Yes. Certain the past they have.has this person done that?
That should readYes. Certain the past they have.
Years ago at a yard I worked at there was a retired army guy who was a total alcoholic, he would turn up to ride most days but sometimes had to sleep the booze off in his car first. His horse was a total Saint as sometimes he was so sozzled he could barely sit up yet he would tell the most wonderful tales about the amazing ride across country they had just had. 1 occasion always springs to mind of the time he decided to go hunting as the meet was just up the road, he didn't arrive in time to get his horse ready so we made sure he was good to go when the owner arrived, he then proceeded to untack and retack the horse (to check it was done properly obviously, not at all about making sure he missed the meet and didn't go hunting) anyway we finally got him on his way and he was gone for about 4 hours. Several people had spotted his horse that day tied up outside the village pub but when he came back he still told us wonderful tales of his excellent days hunting, even stuck to his story when we pointed out that the hunt hadn't gone that way, that confusion was caused by the fact that the pack split and he went with the others ?
Years ago at a yard I worked at there was a retired army guy who was a total alcoholic, he would turn up to ride most days but sometimes had to sleep the booze off in his car first. His horse was a total Saint as sometimes he was so sozzled he could barely sit up yet he would tell the most wonderful tales about the amazing ride across country they had just had. 1 occasion always springs to mind of the time he decided to go hunting as the meet was just up the road, he didn't arrive in time to get his horse ready so we made sure he was good to go when the owner arrived, he then proceeded to untack and retack the horse (to check it was done properly obviously, not at all about making sure he missed the meet and didn't go hunting) anyway we finally got him on his way and he was gone for about 4 hours. Several people had spotted his horse that day tied up outside the village pub but when he came back he still told us wonderful tales of his excellent days hunting, even stuck to his story when we pointed out that the hunt hadn't gone that way, that confusion was caused by the fact that the pack split and he went with the others ?
Well if I didn't have social media I wouldn't have spoken to anyone outside my fairly toxic family for the last year thanks to Covid, and I'm sure many people are the same.
If you're too immature to block and move on from pages you don't like, though, maybe you shouldn't be on there.
What a very hurtful thing to say. I struggle massively to move on when I have seen something traumatic on Facebook. I've removed myself for that very reason.
I don't think me being perhaps a little sensitive means I'm immature.
I do know the person.There is a sort of irony in someone posting about another person’s exaggerations online with third-hand information from the gossip mill at their yard. You don’t know this girl personally, you can’t know how truthful people are being - spreading stories online about how awful she is doesn’t do any good.
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