Did I hurt him? :(

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WelshD

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I'm feeling a little low right now :( sorry this is long but i need to write it all down!

I tied my pony up to wash his feet off last night, he was on concrete outside his stable but it was very muddy.

I was bent over his front feet when he slipped and panicked, the rope went tight and as he pulled against it his front hoof caught me a blow on my head and everything went red

The next thing I remember is being inside the stable with the door closed and the pony still outside

Practicality kicked in and i got the pony in to his stable which luckily was ready with hay and water but he was clearly terrified

I'm not sure what happened in the hour following but somehow the dog and I made it home (only 200 yards away) and realising an hour had passed without much recollection dialled NHS direct who sent an paramedic then an ambulance

My right side started to hurt which worried the paramedic because the blow to my head was on the left so I was taken to hospital

In hospital after many hours the pain in my right hand side was attributed to trauma in my shoulder caused by a blow or fall possibly

Here is the bit I am worried about - I dont know how the trauma happened and remembering the pony cringing in the corner of his stable as I left I am so worried that I may have lashed out at him blindly or fallen against him or something

My husband has checked him this morning and he is 'nervy' and wouldnt be stroked but is physically ok and has eaten - husband is not horsey so didnt try to handle him

I am going to get up and about and see him later myself but feel so bad right now for the pony :(
 
Honestly, you have to stop worrying/feeling guilty, whatever happened can't be undone, move forward like nothing happened, treat your horse exactly the same as you would any other day. If your wary/overly fussing, your horse will know something's up and react accordingly, which may reinforce your belief something bad did happen, but in fact your horse is reacting to your mood in the here and now.

Sending lots of soothing healing vibes your way.
 
What a scary thing to happen. Don't worry too much. I suspect your pony was scared because he had fallen over rather than you doing sonething to him. Also he's probably scared because he knows something was wrong with you. Horses are very good at sensing when something isn't right and he provably got scared that way. At least you are ok. You'll probably ind that once he sees that you are back to normal this morning all will be ok again.
 
Ok first thing first. Your safe. The ponys safe. You will probably never know what happened that night. But you can stop feeling guilty for things you dont know. Horses are not able to hold grudges. They live in the here and now. So consentrate on your bond you have with him. He will have had a massive fright too. And again dont feel guilty. Think positive and look after yourself.:)
 
How horrible, so sorry you got hurt. These freak accidents do happen and with horses, it can happen very fast, and you probably won't find out exactly what occurred. I agree with the above poster, just carry on as normal and I hope you heal quickly.
 
Right you are safe pony is safe and thats what is important. so hun no point worrying what you may or may not have done. he will have had a fright but just go about him as normal and he will be fine. maybe an extra biiiigggg cuddle ?. just glad you ok x x
 
He's probably scared himself and knows you were hurt. My old horse did something similar but it ended with me sitting on the floor and him hiding from me because he accidentally landed on my leg and was jumpy for the next day even though I never gave him a slap etc. Don't worry, and don't feel guilty I'm sure he'll be okay once you're back up with him as usual. Sounds sore hope you're okay soon:)
 
I'm in a similar position to you except that I was riding. Out on a hack. No idea what happened. If I did something or if pony did something. Vaguely remember being on the floor, then asking a dog walker to help me because I didn't know where I was (was in the field next to the yard!) down to a&e last weekend and I'm still in a huge amount if pain. Pony was unsettled at first but, like you, as I have no memory of what happened I can't think of what I could do to help.

I am concentrating on getting myself right so I can start working my girl again. Look after yourself. Your horse was probably shocked that you were suddenly on the floor in pain. I wouldn't read too much into it.

On a side note, I hope you feel better soon. I'm sure things didnt hurt this much when we were teenagers!
 
Thank you all so much. I know i have to stop worrying - the pain and lack of sleep probably arent helping!

Poor endlessly patient husband has been sent out again in the rain to check the pony

I just want to get up and about now grrr

You are right Anna I cannot remember things hurting this much years ago!
 
Hubby just came back and made me sob by saying 'Milo says to tell you that he is fine and that he is very sorry he hurt you'

I'm 36 for goodness sake!
 
Oh Nat, I hope you are feeling better soon. He probably just got a scare when you went down, nothing to feel guilty for.
 
Aw don't worry. Am sure you didn't hurt him. Last time I had a bad fall off my boy, he wouldn't eat his hay that night and wasn't himself. He wasn't hurt though. I just think anything out of routine upsets him. He was back to normal a day or so later. Hope you heal soon. Hugs. X
 
That sounds horrific, WelshD. :( It's quite possible you did catch him on the way down, or you were under his feet, hence the blow. Nobody will ever know, unfortunately. Concentrate on getting well and then on him. Once you're back up and running, I would look at something like clicker training to build his confidence in you, if he is terrified of you. I can't tell you how many times mine have been hurt by me accidentally. This summer I managed to kick both in the face, as they put themselves in the way of my boot stepping through an electric fence. They still speak to me. Take care of yourself.
 
firstly-well done you for getting on the phone and getting some help, hope you feel better soon. I also expect you're somewhat shaken up and upset (understandably!). I'm sure pony will be fine, probably just shocked at you falling etc they are very forgiving creatures and he'll get over it quickly.
 
murphysmummy said:
What a scary thing to happen. Don't worry too much. I suspect your pony was scared because he had fallen over rather than you doing sonething to him. Also he's probably scared because he knows something was wrong with you. Horses are very good at sensing when something isn't right and he provably got scared that way. At least you are ok. You'll probably ind that once he sees that you are back to normal this morning all will be ok again.
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This. I had a bad fall with my loan horse ,Jasper, when he fell at full gallop and nearly buried me! He was gathered up and taken home and put to bed but wouldn't settle at all until I'd been to visit and hown him that he hadn't actually killed me. He was always very careful with me after that!!
 
Ouch! First off, thank goodness you weren't more badly injured! Please don't worry about why your horse is scared, you probably got a bit tangled up with each other when you were caught by his hoof, which upset him. Concentrate on getting better and build your confidence back up together.
 
Bless you, what a horrible thing to happen to you both. I would agree with the others and just carry on around him as if nothing has happened. I find the more we worry, the more in reinforces in their mind that something bad did happen.

Big deep breaths now, sit there and breath out your tension, anxiety and worry. Clear your mind ..... bygones .... and concentrate on moving forwards, he needs you now to be calm and confident now ... Head bash, what head bash ;)

Hope your soreness eases up soon x
 
Poor you :( Is this the little pony that is nervous? You will feel shocked (not to mention injured) and if you are anything like me the 'what ifs' will be flying through your head! If you wear a hat next time you deal with him it might help if you are feeling anxious. Feel better :)
 
Thank you all again so much for your comments, sympathy and experiences. I am just about to go up and see him armed with some extra strong mints!

DG no itsnot the nervous pony its the very good one, there is a bit of concrete against the stable wall thats slippy and at a different angle and i think he must have just slipped on that. I was pleased with the nervous one yesterday - i groomed him all over, got a combo rug on him and turned him out with no problems :) i actually thought to myself 'well thats the difficult pony dealt with lets do the easy one now' lol
 
I'm pleased to say that the pony is absolutely fine. I did as suggested and approached him normally. I removed his rug and checked him over and rerugged him for the chilly night and left him with a big hug :)

That wore me out!
 
sarahann1 said:
Honestly, you have to stop worrying/feeling guilty, whatever happened can't be undone, move forward like nothing happened, treat your horse exactly the same as you would any other day. If your wary/overly fussing, your horse will know something's up and react accordingly, which may reinforce your belief something bad did happen, but in fact your horse is reacting to your mood in the here and now.

Sending lots of soothing healing vibes your way.
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Great advice! Here is a situation where it would be so so easy to ruin a pony by tippy toing around him while he picks up on your nerves. Get back in there, be sympathetic but every day routines. You have had a shock, he has had a shock but you will neverknow exactly what happened so try to ignore it and work as if nothing happened.

Hope you, and pony, soon feel much better xx
 
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